You are so right in the fact that a wife can't fuck her bull for 2 years and NOT feel a connection or a bond. I told my wife early on, that I understand if she "loves" her BBC because it's only natural when his dick is buried in her pussy and they're both in the throws of hot sex, there's going to be some kind, even though maybe very slight, some kind of chemistry between them. I knew that from the start and welcomed it. It only made their fucking more intimate and exciting. My wife's BBC enjoyed taking us out in public, but it was always away from home, away from people who knew us. Her BBC was proud of her and wanted to show her off, much the same way I like showing her off. Why wouldn't her lover enjoy people knowing that she's "his" fuck, so public acts of affection are exciting to him too, but the bull wanting to do it in front of your family and friends is a way of showing his power over you and exerting it in front of "your" friend/family. I think doing it in front of strangers is a turn on, doing it in front of your friends/family is a power move.