Our Bull wants to public. Thoughts?

[NEHIGHLANDER]

They have been out in public before holding hands as you said, but never near our house or our area. Less chance of anyone one wwe know seeing them. He wants to hold hands with her while people we know will be around. Thats my issue I have

Holding hands around people you and your wife know is one thing. The question is how far are you willing to go? Would he be going to your company Christmas party? Would he and your wife be going out to dinner and to parties with your friends and family? How far are you willing to let this go? That way your professional colleagues would know what you are all about in your relationship with your wife. Your friends and family would look at you in a totally different light. Just how submissive are you? Is this kind of shame something that turns you on and want do go down that path that you can never return from? They will laugh at you in your face and behind your back and you probably can kiss any career promotions goodbye. If she has any brothers, they probably would kick your ass and her parents would be devastated.
I know I would never allow that to happen in my marriage.

 

[Thirsty123]

Holding hands around people you and your wife know is one thing. The question is how far are you willing to go? Would he be going to your company Christmas party? Would he and your wife be going out to dinner and to parties with your friends and family? How far are you willing to let this go? That way your professional colleagues would know what you are all about in your relationship with your wife. Your friends and family would look at you in a totally different light. Just how submissive are you? Is this kind of shame something that turns you on and want do go down that path that you can never return from? They will laugh at you in your face and behind your back and you probably can kiss any career promotions goodbye. If she has any brothers, they probably would kick your ass and her parents would be devastated.
I know I would never allow that to happen in my marriage.

How submissive am I? That is the question I have been asking myself since he has brought this up! How far would I let it go? Not sure I have total control over that. My wife has full control at least for the moment. Bringing this lifestyle in the open is a game changer and I know I am NOT ready to go through with it. I don't have the guts to go through with it. Part of me is ashamed of myself for the lack of guts to do what is asked of me by her Bull. The shame I would go through with family knowing is greater at this point that is why I can't go through with it.

When we started this, it was more casual, more just for fun type of thing. after a while, it became more real-life if you will. He asked me if I was willing to go full time with this lifestyle about 6 months into it. He wanted a commitment and I gave him one. I enjoyed the dom side of it, the humiliation of it and had the desire to step back and give my wife to her Bull. I said Yes to him.

He made her a black-only wife. Took over my bedroom and all sexual activities with my wife over the next year and a half. been 2 years total now and here we are. As I in an earlier post, one can not be with someone for 2 years and not grow some type of intimacy with that person.

What needs to be done I'm afraid is either submit to his will or break off the lifestyle all together. I think we might have gone as far as we are able to go. I think I need to break this off even though I know it won't be easy for anyone. hmmm..decision decisions

 

[submission52]

What needs to be done I'm afraid is either submit to his will or break off the lifestyle all together. I think we might have gone as far as we are able to go. I think I need to break this off even though I know it won't be easy for anyone. hmmm..decision decisions

I'm not sure the "all or nothing" options are your only two options.
As you said, your wife is in control of everything. If she said she wanted to keep it private, I'm pretty sure her bull would respect it.
I think your middle option, and the one the makes the most sense, is talking with your wife and telling her you need to express as a couple that the boundary exists at being seen as her "lover" around family and friends, and that it's not a boundary you're willing to cross.
If he pushes it, ask if your wife is OK ending it. As I said, there are other black men who would respect boundaries.

 

[Trucuck101]

Wow I am at the same point in my relationship. Been with my wife 5years been a cuckold for almost 4years. She has been with her boyfriend almost 2years. And yes it was a progression into a cuckold that reclaimed her that cleaned her pussy. To her meeting someone she likes and really enjoys. Yes I did encourage her and fully support her getting on a more boyfriend level with this man. Which led to her admitting she loves me but sees me as her bestfriend and him more as her man lover and protector. We would pillow talk about him really being her man and now him and I have talked and respect one another and we try transitioning into he is the #1 man in her life now.

 

[submission52]

Wow I am at the same point in my relationship. Been with my wife 5years been a cuckold for almost 4years. She has been with her boyfriend almost 2years. And yes it was a progression into a cuckold that reclaimed her that cleaned her pussy. To her meeting someone she likes and really enjoys. Yes I did encourage her and fully support her getting on a more boyfriend level with this man. Which led to her admitting she loves me but sees me as her bestfriend and him more as her man lover and protector. We would pillow talk about him really being her man and now him and I have talked and respect one another and we try transitioning into he is the #1 man in her life now.

So have you reached the point where she is seen holding hands with him in front of your family and friends? Or are you still private about it?

 

[Trucuck101]

She has posted a picture of them on IG with a heart caption... she has introduced him to one of her close friends. So we are at that point as well

 

[Thirsty123]

I'm not sure the "all or nothing" options are your only two options.
As you said, your wife is in control of everything. If she said she wanted to keep it private, I'm pretty sure her bull would respect it.
I think your middle option, and the one the makes the most sense, is talking with your wife and telling her you need to express as a couple that the boundary exists at being seen as her "lover" around family and friends, and that it's not a boundary you're willing to cross.
If he pushes it, ask if your wife is OK ending it. As I said, there are other black men who would respect boundaries.

I have already asked my wife if we should end this and she said no. She wasn't ready to. She said she likes him a lot. She is NOT in love with him by any means but does enjoy his company. She likes what we have built here and she will try and get him off of t his going in public. My wife is also not ready to move in that direction. I'm going to have a talk with him as well, again. This has been weighing on my mind a lot.

His biggest argument is that we are hiding him because we are ashamed of him. I tell him we are not ashamed of him but rather our family is not ready to know our lifestyle. We shall see what happens

 

[Thirsty123]

She has posted a picture of them on IG with a heart caption... she has introduced him to one of her close friends. So we are at that point as well

If we were to bring it into the open, I think it would start with just that, introducing him to one of her freinds. That's the first step. Once the friend knows, there is no going back and everyone will know.

 

[Trucuck101]

If we were to bring it into the open, I think it would start with just that, introducing him to one of her freinds. That's the first step. Once the friend knows, there is no going back and everyone will know.

Yes I've had to had people reach out on IG about her post with him and I was honest saying it's a guy she sees and close with

 

[demalejpo]

We are a white couple who has been seeing a regular black Bull for about 2 years now. Nothing super crazy but I have taken a back seat in this relationship. When he does spend the night he takes the master bedroom with my wife, I sleep in the guest room. She is a black-only wife, I am not allowed vaginal sex with her ever but we do stay intimate in other ways. These were terms agreed to.

He now wants to take it a step further and be more open in public. Not to humiliate me but rather push the envelope, make it more real. no turning back of sorts. He tells me that black men fuck my wife, there is no shame in others knowing. So far he has been keeping it quiet but not sure for how long or what he will do. Should I Stand my ground or just come to the realization that the cat will be out of the bag and deal with it.

I say it’s completely up to the bull. In my case he told everybody in the neighborhood that he was fucking my wife and I couldn’t do a thing about it.

 

[StevieGirl]

Do whatever your wife wants. Guessing she'll agree. Going public will most likely result in her getting hit on by a number of black guys. Once brothers know there's easy touch pussy available, they go hard at. Don't take no for an answer.

 

[Thirsty123]

I say it’s completely up to the bull. In my case he told everybody in the neighborhood that he was fucking my wife and I couldn’t do a thing about it.

I am not ready for that myself. I don't think it is totally up to him, but up to my wife. It's a big deal honestly. but they compromised and my wife told her best friend since high school that she is seeing a Bull. I was against it because I feel once one person knows it eventually gets out. It was harder to face her than I thought, the way she would look at me on occasion, I can see her mind trying to figure this out.

 

[Thirsty123]

Do whatever your wife wants. Guessing she'll agree. Going public will most likely result in her getting hit on by a number of black guys. Once brothers know there's easy touch pussy available, they go hard at. Don't take no for an answer.

I will and have done what my wife wants, I am in no position to assert auditory but I do voice my opinion.

 

[demalejpo]

I agree that the wife should have some say as to whether her status is made public. In my case, my wife’s friend’s recommended a Black bull for her and talked among themselves. So even if the bull hadn’t told everyone her friends would have.

 

[lilppsub]

No way do I believe this story. It is most definitely a fantasy by a single guy.
Definitely call BS

I was in the same kind of relationship for over 30 years and loved every day of it. See my posting, I have met and talked with many cuckold couples that live this way for decades.

 

[Blackdoghawaii]

Like what? Holding hands walking at the mall? Sounds cute. It's been two years, trying to be a little less discreet sounds like a sweet thrill for all.

Sounds like a load of total BS...

 

[Dman1992]

so I have 1 qu 4 u

R u suckin his cock?

 

[Happy sussex]

We are meeting my BBC lover and his brother in public for the first time this Saturday in a bar near to where they live, this is at his insistence. . I believe he wants to show people that even at his age 71 he is able to satisfy a younger woman.Where we are meeting is about an hour’s drive from where we live and work, we believe there is little chance of anyone we know seeing us all together as we keep our lifestyle secretive as we live in a small community. The inner slut in me would like to be seen with my black lover,

 

[goldenchild25]

We are a white couple who has been seeing a regular black Bull for about 2 years now. Nothing super crazy but I have taken a back seat in this relationship. When he does spend the night he takes the master bedroom with my wife, I sleep in the guest room. She is a black-only wife, I am not allowed vaginal sex with her ever but we do stay intimate in other ways. These were terms agreed to.

He now wants to take it a step further and be more open in public. Not to humiliate me but rather push the envelope, make it more real. no turning back of sorts. He tells me that black men fuck my wife, there is no shame in others knowing. So far he has been keeping it quiet but not sure for how long or what he will do. Should I Stand my ground or just come to the realization that the cat will be out of the bag and deal with it.

dude ! real life and play life can get confused. you will have to deal with friends and family yada yada and there is no going back...and for what a thrill? take a vacation away from home and go nuts , no one knows you no BS to deal with and you all get a thrill. your little pee pee gets hard he feels like Mr T and life remains serene.

 

[bulltoronto]

Do as you're told. You know that's the answer.