Our Bull wants to public. Thoughts?

[bobbyhotone2]

How submissive am I? That is the question I have been asking myself since he has brought this up! How far would I let it go? Not sure I have total control over that. My wife has full control at least for the moment. Bringing this lifestyle in the open is a game changer and I know I am NOT ready to go through with it. I don't have the guts to go through with it. Part of me is ashamed of myself for the lack of guts to do what is asked of me by her Bull. The shame I would go through with family knowing is greater at this point that is why I can't go through with it.

When we started this, it was more casual, more just for fun type of thing. after a while, it became more real-life if you will. He asked me if I was willing to go full time with this lifestyle about 6 months into it. He wanted a commitment and I gave him one. I enjoyed the dom side of it, the humiliation of it and had the desire to step back and give my wife to her Bull. I said Yes to him.

He made her a black-only wife. Took over my bedroom and all sexual activities with my wife over the next year and a half. been 2 years total now and here we are. As I in an earlier post, one can not be with someone for 2 years and not grow some type of intimacy with that person.

What needs to be done I'm afraid is either submit to his will or break off the lifestyle all together. I think we might have gone as far as we are able to go. I think I need to break this off even though I know it won't be easy for anyone. hmmm..decision decisions

I agree 100% that you need to beak off the relationship you and your wife have with her boyfriend. Hopefully, you are not too late.
Your wife could still continue to fuck black guys, even be dominated by them, but only in sexual non-loving play.
I know every relationship is different in many ways. My wife ****** me to be her cuckold about 22 years ago. During the first 2 years I almost divorced her a couple of times. She fell in love with 2 maybe 3 other guys during that time. She often enjoyed humiliating me around her boyfriends and sometimes our family and friends. Lucky for me the other guys were just using my wife as a free piece of fuck meat. They used her for awhile then just broke it off with her. I think they just got tired of using the same slut wife. My wife loved one guy for about 2 years. She was essentially his slave. He started off like he loved her and then got more demanding until it was obvious to me that my wife just another married fuck toy and cum dump for him to amuse himself with. Toward the end of his use of my wife, he made her wear dog collars and leashes, even made her sit and crawl like a dog. My wife would never had done that for him in the start of their relationship but as it went on she fell more in love with him and at the end, she would do anything he told her to do.
My wife also had another similar relationship with a co-worker of hers. She even invited him to one of our family events during which my wife dressed like a slut and made it clear that he was her boyfriend and he made it clear to our extended family that he was fucking my wife. I have been so humiliated and degraded before or since.
When their relationship ended my wife and I agreed that she would stop any relationship where she was falling in love with another man.
My wife has been fucked by 65 men since then but they have all been sex play, no love between my wife and other men. some were one night stands and other friendly.
Anyway, my point is try to make sure that your wife does not fall for another man, especially an Alpha male. You will lose her if he wants her.

Best of luck to you.

 

[bobbyhotone2]

It finally happened and my wife told her best friend about her Bull. Her reasoning was that we can bring another person into our relationship as her Bull wanted but also keep it away from regular friends and family. We did go out to dinner and drinks afterward to break the ice sort of speak. It was just us 3 only without her friends' husband thankfully. I felt it would have been more uncomfortable if he was there. My suggestion to anyone thinking of doing this is to probably NOT do it at all. Keep it private and enjoy the experience between the 3 of you. Fantasy humiliation is good. Real-life humiliation is not good. I felt totally humiliated and I guess I deserved part of it for letting it happen.

One mafia guy wisely said, 3 people can keep a secret if 2 of them are dead. Your wife has opened Pandora's box. Get ready for much humiliation and loss of friends and family.

 

[Abbybadwife]

The OP has been gone for a year and people are still quoting him?
Seems like it didn't work out as he hoped it would or I'm sure there would have been an update.

 

[evolved]

i didnt realise so many couples werent public? who cares what others think or say, i dont shove it in their faces but i totally embrace the lifestyle and have no regrets or reasons to hide it.

If someone asks i tell them, hubby was worried to start with but he has started to see it works and i am so proud to be a QoS

 

[AL7823]

I've been a Bull for 20+ years. Been with many cuck couples. There is a difference between being nervous and uncomfortable. To put it simple, if something turns you on but makes you nervous, do it. Try it out. See if it's for you. If something makes you uncomfortable and doesn't turn you on, then don't do it.
Most importantly, make sure your Bull has good communication with you, and you feel like if you try something and you don't like it you can take a step back.
The ability to take a step back, I find, actually allows couples to try even more things, because they know they can truly experiment for what's right for them.

well put. Damn that should be on a t shirt !!