CWwoman
Female
Not sure what others think but in my view it's not just for fun. He said that his wife is black only. This is a serious commintment and well past just fun.
Our Bull wants to public. Thoughts?
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It was to a post he made. said something. That went with what others were saying about him. Trying to point out to him what he said how people took it to mean that
Your not controlling it from any angle. Hope she divorces you and you pay alimony. That is exactly what you deserve for not being a man and allowing another to be your soon to be ex wife's full time man.
Thirsty123
Male
If I was to be a "man" as you put it then this lifestyle would have to end. I would claim my wife as mine, and we would be your regular couple like countless others. We decided 2 years ago to try an alternate lifestyle. Bring a black man into our relationship. We decided against a white man because we felt it would be just a threesome then. At first, it was almost like a threesome, then slowly as time went on, we got more relaxed and comfortable in our situation he started to take control and I gave up control.
Took almost 6 months before he quit using condoms and that is when I stopped having sex with her and she became exclusively black only. That is also when he took over the bedroom. Cant explain it, but I fell right into the role. I stepped aside and he took over. I dont think he is looking to hurt me, he is just looking to expand on his authority and make my wife his, only physically his. its a power trip for him for sure. All I can do is sit back and know my role. He has agreed to keep this privatly for now.
I dont know what he has to gain to take her away from me. He has her whenever he wants now.
Thirsty123
Male
Yes, exactly the way we view this. A commitment and a serious one. She is black only for about a year and a half now and I... as a white man gave my wife sexually to a black man. It is a serious and exciting lifestyle. Maybe more white men should give up their wives. If its not your thing, so be it but I beilive for me, it is mine. I feel comfortable with myself being a beta male. I am fine with it., at least for now
Thirsty123
Male
agreed but im not ready to pull the trigger and have my friends and family to know. that seems so permanent because you can never put the cat back into the bag
Thirsty123
Male
Thank you Anthony for your kind words. I have tried to be respectful and thoughtful. I know people to time out of their lives to respond and give me their thoughts, the least I can do is the same.. Your probably right, it is too late to call it quits cold turkey anyway. My wife obviously likes the guy but she hasn't really given me a good reason to call it quits.
The idea of my girlfriend becoming BBC only and letting her bull to be a part of her reality makes me horny. I will not let it happen nearby my family or friends - they wouldnt understand and support that and I will be ashamed. But I can imagine changing city we live for another to make it possible 
No way do I believe this story. It is most definitely a fantasy by a single guy.
Definitely call BS
Thirsty123
Male
I'm sorry, you feel that way but it is your choice. No harm no foul. If you feel I am full of ******* then move on, why waste your time on this post. In my defence though, I can't write 2 years worth of experiences and feelings in a single paragraph. It has been a long process that we have been through. I know 95% of husbands could not or would not go through what I have been through. So if my story sounds fishy, that is why.
My wife is a lady who never imagined herself in this lifestyle. It took a bit of convincing on my part but she agreed and after a few bumps in the beginning, she fell into her role. Do you know what makes a wife finally get into her role at a later age? The constant sexual advances of a man. Most married couples here will attest that husband and wife sex has become rare as time goes on. But her Bull, she gets fucked constantly. Every time he comes over. if she feels like it or not. Her body fights it at first but eventually, she gets her first orgasm with another guy.
That is the game-changer. That when it stops becoming a fantasy or role-playing and it becomes real. Emotions do get attached, condoms come off and husbands get banned to the spare bedroom. Those who have lived this know exactly what I am talking about.
The reason I am secure with this is that we have a rock-solid relationship and at the end of the day she is not going anywhere and I will still be married to this woman. I am a beta cuckold husband whose wife learned to fuck black men. For us it works, for you, it might not.
I wasn't trying to justify what we are doing, I was asking a question to get peoples thoughts on moving this to a place where the cat is out of the bag and people will know about our lifestyle. I personally am not ready for that, my wife isn't as well but he is. After reading the comments I have to agree with most of you it is a bad idea, I will lose friends and some family members. Look at some of the negative comments about our lifestyle here, where we are more open to it. Imagine a vanilla couple hearing about this!! Oh boy
My wifes lover took her out a few times,local but not too local; unlikely to bump into someone who knew us but still a slight possibility. Very arousing for us all in different ways and although it wasn't seedy to us it removed that inference that it might be.
Your call though.
Your call though.
The lifestyle is discreet adult fun and fantasy for most of the people in it. You are married to your wife not the bull. Fantasy aside you it's your marriage, your social life, your social repercussions if it adversely affects your family and nobody is qualified to make that lifestyle decision but you and your wife who who have a contract with not the bull who can walk away at any time.
See just like time alone with a wife that I believe a bull has to earn I feel the same way about public activities. How do you know you've earned it? The couple brings it up to you, let's you know that they feel comfortable and confident about taking things that that knew level if you are ok with that, not you asking for it!
Thirsty123
Male
Well said, thank you. You are absolutely right. As I said in a previous post, we have decided to wait a while before we revisit the issue. W e are going to keep this private as we have been doing. The Bull understands even though he wishes we would move forward to a more open relationship.
Thirsty123
Male
We have certainly had an experience where we would go to a different part of the city for sure. Awesome for sure. I have no issue with that. My issue would be our ******* knowing ( even though they are adults) parents siblings etc....
Hubby here. Yeah, wife likes me to date women.
You and wifey need to thoroughly discuss and consider the pros and cons...remember he can leave the relationship anytime but, you and wifey not so easily.....
Exactly......******* and family, etc.....
His ex-wife used to get off on that too.
Thirsty123
Male
exactly why we decided to wait and revisit the issue another time. He was a little upset but understood our decision.
Other “men”? More than just her bull!
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