Our Bull wants to public. Thoughts?

[Thirsty123]

We are a white couple who has been seeing a regular black Bull for about 2 years now. Nothing super crazy but I have taken a back seat in this relationship. When he does spend the night he takes the master bedroom with my wife, I sleep in the guest room. She is a black-only wife, I am not allowed vaginal sex with her ever but we do stay intimate in other ways. These were terms agreed to.

He now wants to take it a step further and be more open in public. Not to humiliate me but rather push the envelope, make it more real. no turning back of sorts. He tells me that black men fuck my wife, there is no shame in others knowing. So far he has been keeping it quiet but not sure for how long or what he will do. Should I Stand my ground or just come to the realization that the cat will be out of the bag and deal with it.

Just an update. We have all agreed to wait and keep it private as we have been doing. Albeit, for a 3 month period to revisit it then. Thank you all for your support and thoughts on this. I am breathing a sigh of relief. We shall see what happens

 

[Wannabeecuck]

Yes, what I have said is real and sincere. Just because I took a back seat to our relationship doesn't mean I am a pussy. This type of relationship works for us but only in private so far. Yes, other men fuck my wife but nobody else knows which makes it easier for us I think. I am NOT a total submissive/slave to him. I have expressed my opinions before. Granted he does have the last word but I consider him somewhat of a friend and I know he is not looking to hurt me. He will reason. I think he wants to move this in the open not fully understand the consequences for us if he does.

You should suggest he take her out to a local bar or fuck her in an allyway where anyone could see

 

[Anthony0542]

I don't deny I am a beta in this relationship. I know I am. I give up my bed to her Bull when he stays the night. I'm not a submissive like he tells me to walk on all fours and bark like a dog. That doesn't happen. When he tells me he is coming over to fuck my wife, that does happen all the time.
Yes, it's my marriage for sure, but I don't want to be controlling it from the "back" if you know what I mean otherwise this would be just role play.
so part of me wants to be a total beta and part of me still wants our privacy, that's my issue I am struggling with

my dude, how is this going to happen. How are you going to be a total beta , yet have control. The whole idea of being a beta is you have no control. Can’t have it your way, all the way.

 

[Thirsty123]

my dude, how is this going to happen. How are you going to be a total beta , yet have control. The whole idea of being a beta is you have no control. Can’t have it your way, all the way.

I agree on being a total beta. that is the role I decided to take. I do however have to balance our situation. I do have family and friends to think about. I will give up my rights to her but need to be cautious

 

[Anthony0542]

I understand why you may think that but I have to disagree. I sleep in my bedroom 99% of the time with my wife at my side. We cuddle and go to sleep. I gave up a PART of my wife and my marriage to another man, not the whole thing though. It was a fantasy at first and feelings developed and things went places where they were never intended to go I guess. I can always call it quits and get my manhood back, but I am not ready to do so. Some guys like myself need this, don't know why cant control it.

Dude, you are quite transparent. I give you a lot of credit. you’ve answered every post including the negative ones with class and honesty. Give you credit man.

No effing way I would be able to do what you are doing. But different strokes for different folks. m

Also, there is no way you can go back to the way it was. “Calling it quits and get my manhood back”. Two have to play that game and no way your wife would give you your manhood back.

That ship has sailed.

 

[Anthony0542]

Coming from someone who has been outted, you have no idea just how much judgement is ahead. Especially for her. There are steep implications and judgements toward white women who sleep with black men. And moreso for married white women who do so. It isn't right but is the nature of things. They don't see the relationship chemistry. They just see a white girl chasing black dick. You will be seen as weak but she will be seen almost as tainted. Her family will think less of her too because this breaks a lot of monogamous norms they expect her to uphold, all of this is magnified if you live in the right (wrong?) part of the country steeped in religious tradition. I would say don't just because you have no way to measure just how far the ripples go. Trust me, they go further than you will plan for.

wow, great perspective. No doubt

 

[Anthony0542]

But once your wife loses respect for you as a man.. Its over.
And you are at that precipice. You may not be able to go back.

BOOM!!!!! - TiffandBryan - you nailed it. That’s exactly it. When your wife loses respect for you - it’s over. You are no longer in the driver’s seat in the marriage, she’s looking for a man that she respects to put in there.

she might appreciate what you do for her but does she adore you, honor you, make you feel special? I don’t think so - who does she do those things for - “the man in the relationship”.

Men crave respect - honor, adoration, and being treated special and that’s why bulls try to chip away at your masculinity until they gain that respect. You can still pay the bills and deal with her bitching, but as far as who the man is, check out who she adores.

You might be her husband but as far as the man of the relationship, I don’t know.

Thats the danger of this lifestyle....can you maintain your masculinity while you try to be a sub. A sub doesn’t have the characteristics to gain respect from a woman. So when you give up your masculine posture, you are just a BFF that pays the bills and does the chores.

 

[Anthony0542]

......and once again it is clear that so many Black men on this site simply do not understand the psyche of a cuckold male
Funny thing is.... we understand you Very well.

you right about that. I have no fucking idea about this mindset. You guys are better than me. I just think it’s tough for us to understand a husband literally encouraging another man to take all the roles of being a husband away from him as a sign of his endearing love for you.

“Here is how much I love you babe, I want this stronger, better looking, more sexual viral man to take away everything that is positive about being married to you but not the things that are difficult, I want that. Fuck having sex with you and being passionate with me and actually looking at me like you want me. Instead please let me hear you bitch, complain...please allow me to do all the chores and pay the bills, while your bull fucks you all day....please let me love you without any consequences ...I want to do all the hard work and let him enjoy the dessert, because I love you”.

Im just a little confused - that’s all

 

[Reparationspig]

If this is real, you just stated that you are a pussy and someone else fucks your wife in your house on your bed, all while you are in guest bedroom. So to ask if you should "take a stand" is a joke because you are already a Bitch. Like I said, if story you wrote were true.

Lol. That was funny.

 

[Anthony0542]

you right about that. I have no fucking idea about this mindset. You guys are better than me. I just think it’s tough for us to understand a husband literally encouraging another man to take all the roles of being a husband away from him as a sign of his endearing love for you.

“Here is how much I love you babe, I want this stronger, better looking, more sexual viral man to take away everything that is positive about being married to you but not the things that are difficult, I want that. Fuck having sex with you and being passionate with me and actually looking at me like you want me. Instead please let me hear you bitch, complain...please allow me to do all the chores and pay the bills, while your bull fucks you all day....please let me love you without any consequences ...I want to do all the hard work and let him enjoy the dessert, because I love you”.

Im just a little confused - that’s all

Better yet.....My question is where are the women cucks at. Let me do whatever the fuck I want, fuck who I want, when I want but will be by my side to lick the pussy juices off my dick and give me a massage.

How many women would go for that *******. If they are are where is that website.

 

[HappySeaTurtle]

you right about that. I have no fucking idea about this mindset. You guys are better than me. I just think it’s tough for us to understand a husband literally encouraging another man to take all the roles of being a husband away from him as a sign of his endearing love for you.

“Here is how much I love you babe, I want this stronger, better looking, more sexual viral man to take away everything that is positive about being married to you but not the things that are difficult, I want that. Fuck having sex with you and being passionate with me and actually looking at me like you want me. Instead please let me hear you bitch, complain...please allow me to do all the chores and pay the bills, while your bull fucks you all day....please let me love you without any consequences ...I want to do all the hard work and let him enjoy the dessert, because I love you”.

Im just a little confused - that’s all

I feel every Cuckold is fingerprint-unique in their desire and approach. I do want a strong, handsome man to fuck my wife. But I also love her fiercely and fuck passionately and very frequently. A cool, handsome Bull who is fun to be around and elevates my wife's general arousal level. By letting her Cuckold me, we end up having better sex more often. I am not the type however that gets off on being an absolute beta in the dynamic. My wife also treats her Bulls more like friends who give her amazing sex than backseating me for a new relationship. Most Bulls dont understand Cuckolds in a general sense but if they get along well and become friends who bond over the wife (For differing reasons.) Then the relationship between a Cuckold and a Bull can become uniquely valuable to both.

Just my perception

 

[HappySeaTurtle]

Better yet.....My question is where are the women cucks at. Let me do whatever the fuck I want, fuck who I want, when I want but will be by my side to lick the pussy juices off my dick and give me a massage.

How many women would go for that *******. If they are are where is that website.

Those are called Cuckqueans and do in fact exist they are just quiet.

 

[Anthony0542]

Shoot me the website. Hahahahaha

 

[Anthony0542]

I feel every Cuckold is fingerprint-unique in their desire and approach. I do want a strong, handsome man to fuck my wife. But I also love her fiercely and fuck passionately and very frequently. A cool, handsome Bull who is fun to be around and elevates my wife's general arousal level. By letting her Cuckold me, we end up having better sex more often. I am not the type however that gets off on being an absolute beta in the dynamic. My wife also treats her Bulls more like friends who give her amazing sex than backseating me for a new relationship. Most Bulls dont understand Cuckolds in a general sense but if they get along well and become friends who bond over the wife (For differing reasons.) Then the relationship between a Cuckold and a Bull can become uniquely valuable to both.

Just my perception

My man Sea Turtle - I feel you. I really don’t care what people do in the bedroom but what I don’t like is when someone’s manhood is taken away and even volunteered away. The manhood Im talking about is that respect - that adoration, honor, and appreciation of being someone special to her that she needs.

When you read these Cuck stories, it’s clear the woman respects the bull more than the husband. That killa me. Women just need their cuck husband because women need love and security as much as men need respect. Dem are the facts.

You don’t seem to have that problem though and that is good. Seems like your wife respects you. You can’t be a pussy doing this lifestyle and expect your wife to respect you.

Women want to respect their men, but a man must be worthy for that respect. That’s why women are so hesitant to get into this lifestyle because they know, “If I like this - it’s going to be really hard to respect this dude”.

Men, be a man worthy respect.

 

[Thesearmsofmin]

I want the OP as my cuck...

 

[extrafun]

My man Sea Turtle - I feel you. I really don’t care what people do in the bedroom but what I don’t like is when someone’s manhood is taken away and even volunteered away. The manhood Im talking about is that respect - that adoration, honor, and appreciation of being someone special to her that she needs.

When you read these Cuck stories, it’s clear the woman respects the bull more than the husband. That killa me. Women just need their cuck husband because women need love and security as much as men need respect. Dem are the facts.

You don’t seem to have that problem though and that is good. Seems like your wife respects you. You can’t be a pussy doing this lifestyle and expect your wife to respect you.

Women want to respect their men, but a man must be worthy for that respect. That’s why women are so hesitant to get into this lifestyle because they know, “If I like this - it’s going to be really hard to respect this dude”.

Men, be a man worthy respect.

Very very true. I have stated so many times on here. A woman wants their man to be a man and not a pussy. That is why the stories that are actually real on here the wife leaves the beta husband all the time in the end.

 

[strangedays2]

yes exactly. Never really had a reason to bring it back up

I think its time to dump the bull and the move on to the next, unless you are prepared to give up your relationship.

 

[jj3some]

Nothing wrong with public as long as it fills your neeeds and is safe. Outline the rules before you start.

 

[CWwoman]

We are a white couple who has been seeing a regular black Bull for about 2 years now. Nothing super crazy but I have taken a back seat in this relationship. When he does spend the night he takes the master bedroom with my wife, I sleep in the guest room. She is a black-only wife, I am not allowed vaginal sex with her ever but we do stay intimate in other ways. These were terms agreed to.

He now wants to take it a step further and be more open in public. Not to humiliate me but rather push the envelope, make it more real. no turning back of sorts. He tells me that black men fuck my wife, there is no shame in others knowing. So far he has been keeping it quiet but not sure for how long or what he will do. Should I Stand my ground or just come to the realization that the cat will be out of the bag and deal with it.

I say you embrace what he wants if you truly are at peace with the relationship now. I know it's a huge step but let me explain why I say do it.

I am a catholic married white woman who for years cheated on her husband with black men. Mostly with a black pastor I approached many years ago when I became pregnant by a black young man I started having sex with. I don't want to explain the whole story now so I will jump to the end.

I kept this from my husband for many years always worried he would find out. a few months ago I finally opened up to my husband and at first it was not a good time at home. But after having the pastor who counseled me at the beginning and who guided me to embrace my desire to worship BBC talk with my husband and myself together. Things began to get better and now he is ok with it. What my hurt husband the most was my cheating.

We are not at the point to brung it publicaly because my pastor needs to be discreet but when the time comes I think we will be ok. What you need to understand is that in a truly black only relationship especially when yu have a black bull a lot of the decisions will have to be made by your bull.

This is not everyone but for those who desire, seek and want a superior black man to be the man of the house then you need to understand where stand...below your wife's bull and lover who you gave her to.

 

[CWwoman]

This is probably one of the best thought-provoking replies, thank you! You are spot on with everything you have said. I fear that if we go public things will certainly change and not for the better, He is not looking to steal my wife. She is still my wife, I still have a relationship with her as a husband, we just don't have sex together but we find other ways to be intimate. I'm sure my guy friends will give me ******* about not having sex with her, probably can fathom not having sex with a woman over 2 years but it is something I have accepted as she has and as her boyfriend has. hmmm...lots of thinking needs to continue for sure

Yes they will lose friends but will also gain other new friends. I believe we are at a point that we should not be afraid to show others what we embrace and what we value. Anyone who does not alighn with our way of living and beliefs needs to go since they are not truly our friends.