Agree that trying to find a “guy” at this point would be a bad or very risky next step. Going with the assumption that you just shared your fantasy and she appears to be horny at the thought, I would suggest cultivating that a bit more. Watching interracial porn, hotwife porn, cuckold porn - together can further stimulate this feeling she’s getting along with using BBC dildo’s and eventually even buying her BBC printed panties.
If she develops a stronger appetite for this fetish (which is exactly what is it), you can then probe further by having her go out with a fake spade tattoo or QOS anklet. I find that doing this when traveling is best, so that she doesn’t have to worry about someone in your hometown noticing it. You’ll bee surprised how many people actually know about this.
We started doing it privately, then in Vegas, LA, NY. She doesn’t volunteer to do it, but does when I primer her and then ask her or most recently just leave those panties out in the bathroom when I know she is getting ready or showering.
If you are already in the Lifestyle, then you can probably skip some steps or accelerate them. If you are new to the Lifestyle then you probably want to start with visiting a swingers club to watch only and chat with others. This will get you both comfortable with watching others and if you are brave enough on your first time, being watched while playing. Many clubs will allow single men on certain nights and you can go those nights and see if you guys make a connection with anyone.
Depending on how that experience goes, you can then take it from there and hope for the best.
Cheers!
