Nice. Many of us have learned that a more nuanced approach is more likely to work, assuming the interest is there. You are already "out" as far as what would turn you on so just it ride for a while. If your wive perceives you are mounting a campaign (asking her to watch bbc porn, buying black dildos, showing her cages, talking about it every time you are in bed, etc.) she's going to feel pressure and that will not have a good outcome for either of you! Wait for her to give you a cue. You've been pretty forthright in what you said to her thus far - I'm thinking she'll be thinking about it. I love that your marital relationship is foremost in her mind. That's not worth putting on the line if she doesn't want to go there. You have to live out many more years together.
I told my wife I wanted her to be fucked by a BBC
I agree to this. If anything, drop it all together and focus on vanilla. I would guarantee the thoughts will be ruminating in her head, especially in bed. And soon enough I bet she'll make subtle comments that will clue you in that it's on her mind.
The cliche applies here: read the room, or read your wife.
Hubby intimately knows his wife; her sexual likes, dislikes; her sense of risk-taking; her sense of adventure; her level of partnership with him.
So a hubby needs to read all that and be patient and loving if she doesn't come around to hubby's fantasies. That's sort of life.
Well stated
So do I!
Just saying from a woman’s point of view that if you try a bbc and it turns you on sexually. That if your hubby also gets excited and agrees that it’s ok,,remember it’s just sex! That’s definitely different than love. . You can love someone deeply, but still love sex and not that person who your having sex with !!!!!
We will see how it goes, if shes into it at some point and thinks about it I think she may go for it. She just told me the other day that its okay with the videos and all that but nothing real. I wont be pushy but ill make sure that i let her know thats the fantasy.
Part of the excitement of extramarital interracial sex is a wife showing her husband that she can love him and also love the sex from a Black lover.
But, it adds extra heat when hubby sees his wife show loving feelings for her Black lover while still loving hubby wholeheartedly.
Rumblebee
Male
The more you push it with her the more you will get a result you don't like.
Ordering a 10 inch dildo...why not 8 for the start?
You gotta be more relaxed with her.
I suppose getting your wife on a date was also more romantic. Ta ke it slow.
She might feel like a sextoy and think her husband is crazy
Ordering a 10 inch dildo...why not 8 for the start?
You gotta be more relaxed with her.
I suppose getting your wife on a date was also more romantic. Ta ke it slow.
She might feel like a sextoy and think her husband is crazy
Because Im 8 lol. She doesnt feel like a sex toy for sure. Just normal sex talk between us and fantasy sharing. Im not pushing her into it. Im not pushing her into it, Im Spanish, clear and concise and not beating around the bush.
I wasn’t particularly interested either at first. But it was one of my husbands fantasies to see me with a BBC. So I thought about it a lot and decided to go forward because it meant so lunch to him. It changed my life. Now we are in the life style and having the time of our lives. Give it some time and don’t push it on her. Let her get use to the idea.
macoupleinpvd
Couple
This is exactly my wife’s issue and she refuses to acquiesce to my fantasy. I don’t know how to get over these desires…
Once again I will say if you can explain to her that you love her and it’s just a physical thing she would be doing and that it doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you . But it sexually stimulates you and her if she tries it , it would spice up your love life. If she doesn’t like it, then just let it go ! Likes too short to get hung up on overthinking things . What would happen if she met a white guy and cheated on you . Would that be OK with her ?
Rumblebee
Male
.Doesn't matter if you are.
And if you are Spanish or not doesn't matter either.
Take it slow. It's like a plant you wanna raise.
Plant the seed go slow.
The best sex you get is when you either have your wife relaxed in a good mood or after a fight to make up together.
Just take it slow and relaxed.
I think you didnt understand, what i meant by 8 inch is that: why buy an 8inch dildo when she has my dick? My fantasy is something bigger and she will be able to take it with some practice.. and by being spanish is that we dont tend to sugar coat things over here, being subtle is one thing but by me saying whatever i said, its not going to make her feel any type of way, as I know my wife and we communicate our feelings.
it sounds very much like my situation.....
You got to be kidding me? She thought about it but now she doesn’t!! Every person is attracted to another person by something, don’t tell me they don’t think about what if ??? Before you know it you’re older and wished you had tried to do something! Then you only have regrets!!!!
Rumblebee
Male
I know what you meant with the 8 inches....
Anyways maybe no need to ask for advice if you know how to do it your way.
I'm sure it will go as you like.
stjartalskare
Male
If you respect her, don´t convince her, could be bad for your marriage...
You planted a seed of an idea in her mind. Don't push it, just let that seed grow.
She now knows that you not only approve of her fucking some other guy, but that you are turned on by it. That is a very powerful thought in her mind, now.
As guys, we all want things to happen now. Sometimes we have to be patient and wait.
