Glad that is not what's in your mind. I've run into a few instances (two) where the couples were cool, the guy was respectful, but HE got off on watching her submission more than she did. In one of those cases the couple eventually divorced. However, during the arguments and insults that flew before the divorce was final, the man actually told his children, "your mom is such a filthy whore that she let's N-----'s fuck her in the ass!" That's when it jumped out at me that for some, we are less than human and their partner is being punished for submitting to us.