This made me chuckle. Right on, @rahvin . It seems like the only ones griping about this are the ones claiming to be the most "alpha" men here. Your attitude is more alpha than any of that *******, imho. Why have drama and worry about labels? "If everybody involved wants it, I'ma do what I do, and I'ma ruin that ass. If not, guess it's just your wife." Word!
Once again for the people still trying to convince everyone what label it makes someone if he does something: the definitions are already decided.
The prefix homo- means "same." The word homogenous, for example, means "consisting of parts all of the same kind.“ So sexual activity between members of the same sex is, technically speaking, homosexual activity. Sexual activity with both sexes is not. If someone is attracted to members of both sexes, they are bisexual. Not gay. You can be "very" bi, and attracted to both sexes equally, or you can be primarily straight, and only open to same-sex activity incidentally or situationally. You could even be primarily gay, but situationally open to opposite-sex activity, or anything else that falls somewhere in between strictly straight and strictly gay All it means is that you're somewhere on the spectrum of bisexuality. Gay is a term typically used interchangeably with homosexual. Not bisexual. This is what all these terms actually mean, sorry to disappoint those who are in denial about being bi or bi-curious trying to say they're 100% straight, those who say, "it's 100% gay no matter what," or those who say, "it's ok for women but not men." If you're arguing about what the words mean, you are incorrect. If you're saying it's ok for you to do what you want but not ok for other people to do what they want, that's your problem to deal with, not theirs. There's room for more than one or two kinds of people in the world. You don't get to reinvent terminology, whether you swing the same way others do or not, and nobody else should feel like they need to cater to anyone else's preferences, even if you think something they do is icky.
At the end of the day, the terminology isn't what really matters, though. It's all down to @rahvin's post above. Do you understand consent, and are you secure enough to enjoy the things you and your partners enjoy without worrying what other people think, or what they try to label you? Because that's baller.
Worrying about what other people do behind closed doors, or what labels it means you can try to slap on them, to assure yourself you're better than they are, doesn't sound very "alpha" to me. That's what scared little boys do when they feel insecure. If you have anything more to say about what other people do than, "not my thing, but you do you," methinks thou doth protest too much.
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