@flsubboy4u: I are making a big leap here, and I think likely an incorrect one. I've worked with several cucks in the making, both in real life and on-line. When the wife/gf is the one who initiates the change in lifestyle (ie going black) it can end up being very traumatic and confusing to the upcoming cuck. It really gets down to how the wife/gf presents the situation, and in this case, it very well could lead to a loss of stability and confidence, and also uncertainty, and a reluctance to challenge what her perceives as what may be a new reality for him by broaching the subject. Better to ignore it in the hopes it goes away. Of course, that doesn't work, so he needs to face it head on. His situation may not be entirely typical but it certainly is not all that uncommon.