WHICH SPOUSE DO YOU PREFER TO DO THE TALKING?

[Darkjumper]

Honestly I don't care who communicates with me as long before the actual meetup I get have a conversation with the wife or girlfriend. I think it's proper protocol for the hubby to play a role in the the vetting process. After all, and that's based on the dynamic of the relationship, he is the one granting permission. Again, like I said, it all depends, because there are some relationships where he won't have a say. The key thing to me is there is no shady, sneaky stuff going down.

 

[PJacques]

The wife . Hubby should just be involved for protection . Everything should be discussed with by the wife . You not going to be fucking him . So why discuss boundaries , etc with him ?

I agree

 

[submisse]

So like a bait and switch?

Not exactly it is about me being used but since I am my Husband's property when I am subbing, He gets the final say

 

[Loridan]

We aren't into cuck play. We have never gone "looking" for another guy.
I really didn't know or realize this but when our friend is with us and they're messing around I watch and don't say anything. When I take my turn he watches and keeps quiet. Sometimes him and I are both involved so we do some talking about what feels good, etc. When both of us are enjoying her anyone can suggest a different position, swap places and such.
No directing, no drama, just sex that feels great.

 

[skydriver]

It's most often true that, in online communication with couples, it's the husbands (or boyfriends) who are the Gatekeepers, which is their right, of course. Hubbies should be protective of their wives, since, in this kinky corner of the swinger lifestyle where cuckolds, stags, and hotwives abide, the wives are the ones being shared (and in rare cases, impregnated) with bulls, and black men.

So, the Questions are: As a single black male interested in meeting a sexy white wife for kinky sex, which spouse do you prefer to deal with, the Husband, or the Wife herself? Does it even matter to you?

The automatic Follow-up Question is: Does it annoy you to learn that sometimes a husband pretends to be the wife here online, or sometimes it's really just a homosexual male wanting to know how you would sexually use a wife he never had in the first place?




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Boyfriend here, we are a young couple trying to get into "the lifestyle" and trying to get into threesomes, both MFM and FMF, going fod our first... When it comes to arranging a male partner, it has always been me doing all the talking with the would be bulls, of course keeping my gf in the loop about everything and getting her approval on everything and she was not to communicatewith the guys, especiallynot withoutme present (her only communicationwith them wouldbe a short "verification" video call with both of us there.. That is the arrangement we initially had, however after a few failed attempts I have come to realize that this arrangement was a mistake and done due to inexperience. Like I said, we have had a few failed attempts where we had to cancel because she felt too nervous and uncomfortable, as we were supposed to go meet a guy in a hotel and have her get fucked by a total stranger lol... with her not communicating with them there is no chemistry, no connection at all, so it would be difficult for her to just get comfortable with someone she never spoke to, drop her clothes and fuck lol... so we realized that was a mistake.
Going forward, I think it would be best that after I make the initial contact, we start a 3 way chat so she gets to know him and they get to establish some sort of chemistry or attraction, and see if they are even interested in each other... and if they want to chat 1-1 to further build chemistry, that would be fine too... I feel that is an important part of the process and by the husband doing all the talking, that gets missed out.
Would appreciate any feedback or advice

 

[Cockhold]

"Oh! Is he in your ass, now, baby? Is he in your slutty little ass? Huh? Tell me, baby! Are you being a good little whore for all that hard black dick? Talk to him, babe. Tell him how much you love that black beef! It's what's fer dinner, right, babe? Tell him how you've just been craving it all week. My little nasty whore wife. This is so fuckin' hot! We gotta--"
His wife and me together: "SHADDUP!!!!"

That where she should say he is so much better than your small white cock.

I personally love hearing the moans and when she talks to the bull. Hate when the white guy talks

 

[Jimsopen]

When I was active, and it was with 5 white gfs, I the cuckold always made initial and all contact. It's a system that works. I'm heavy into the roleplay and the black Master bit, believe me, but there are some guys who are too hardcore, sleazy or not just a good fit, and that's ok too. I was also present every single time. Me and the white gfs I played with never ever wanted to do that " she's going on a date" *******.

 

[Rene Mills]

I prefer to talk to my lovers myself

 

[BlackTherapist]

I don't care who I'm talking with but in my situation and what i offer i would like to talk with a wife at least once. Having the husband gatekeep the wife the entire time gets a bit annoying because i want to know the husband and wife are on the same page about everything. Alot of the times the couple will get there and I'll ask the wife "So what all did he tell you" the wife says "He just told me it was a massage" no details no nothing

During us being together the husband has all their rules and it makes the wife not feel like she can be free and just have fun. There relationship their rules but I've had wife's sneak away from their husband's to come see me because he was uptight and i wanted more.

 

[ABetterWay]

I talk with either but lets be honest, I'm more interested in what she wants, not him. What I don't like is husbands that clearly just have the fantasy and their wives have no idea that they are here sharing their pics and talking *******. Or trying to get you to 'come seduce my wife'. That ain't happening. No problem with participation, but their is a reality and a line.

J

 

[AZ-Stag]

Mr here… when it comes to singles , we are party players. Events, meet n greets or house parties are our thing. In person communication works best for us.

The best thing for a single gentleman to do is to introduce himself and give the wife a compliment. 10 minutes of casual conversation is what will perk her interest. The worst thing would be talking about sex or the size of your dick… lol.

If communication continues later, we prefer a group text.

Mr.

 

[TheSaus]

I personally don't mind talking to the husband first if the conversation actually leads to a meet-up and not endless messages.

 

[retiredarmy]

I really don't care but not going to keep emailing and texting. At some point I need to talk to the wife to ensure she is real and onboard to get fucked. Cause it's too many husband's out here playing games. Coming up with excuses on why the wife can't talk on the phone and why they don't have more pics to send. When it gets like that I just block them. I hate people who waste my time play games.

 

[JJSMITHY54321]

I've never spoken nor met my wife's Bulls. We check out their posts, descriptions & pics. If any catch our attention, my wife would reach out with a couple texts. Again, if the texts are interesting, she would meet for a coffee or drinks. Only then after would she plan a date. It is up to her to find that connection and set boundaries. She wants a long term "friend with benefits" arrangement. I support her but I do not decide who she would see.
As I do not attend her playdates, safety is very important so we screen extensively.

 

[KennyA]

My Husband feels that I am the one who posts here as "bait". Men are much more willing to approach me, and I am allowed to chat with them answering all questions. However, I am not allowed to make any commitments, if someone wants to meet, they have to ask my Husband. I give out his email to many people and they say they will contact my Husband, but most don't. So I guess you could say it is a screening process

Thats what my wife and I would do.

 

[submisse]

So like a bait and swi

 

[FloydBW]

I prefer to speak to the woman..
Its her I am interested in playing with my BBC. I actually have no sexual interest in him as I am strictly heterosexual and would be creeped out with guys getting too close.. he may watch and only on film if I cannot warm to him.

 

[JaxCougar]

TBH without hubby vetting the messages and weeding it down to suitable candidates I wouldn’t even bother withe the lifestyle. In our experience there is around 2-3 applicants out of every hundred worth my time. I couldn’t be dealing with the early contact and absolutely ridiculous individuals that reply.

 

[NYNJcuckcouple]

TBH without hubby vetting the messages and weeding it down to suitable candidates I wouldn’t even bother withe the lifestyle. In our experience there is around 2-3 applicants out of every hundred worth my time. I couldn’t be dealing with the early contact and absolutely ridiculous individuals that reply.

Bingo Bango !!! Nailed It ! My Lady has no patience and I feel there are tons of men that want to get laid but very few that enjoy the cuckold fetish completely . Out of those men it is then you have to see if you fit .

 

[OnTheTown2]

I don't care who does the talking as long as they adhere to one rule and that rule is:

.The wife must be completely uninhibited to express and enjoy herself sexually however she desires in order to ensure the best possible experience!

I have never had a problem either! Now I have turned down numerous invites from couple's because it seemed like they had all kinds of hangups, insecurities, weird rules and so forth so when it starts sounding wack then I respectfully let them know that I'm not gonna be a good fit for them but what I don't do is make plans then decide "this meet is probably going to be wack" and no show! When we chat and it sounds like it's not going to be good then I am quick to be honest and say that it's not my thing!

But I don't have a preference with who is doing the talking! In fact I feel like the more cool that I am with hubby the better the atmosphere and opportunities to bang his wife into oblivion!

This is a great attitude!