I don't care who does the talking as long as they adhere to one rule and that rule is:
.The wife must be completely uninhibited to express and enjoy herself sexually however she desires in order to ensure the best possible experience!
I have never had a problem either! Now I have turned down numerous invites from couple's because it seemed like they had all kinds of hangups, insecurities, weird rules and so forth so when it starts sounding wack then I respectfully let them know that I'm not gonna be a good fit for them but what I don't do is make plans then decide "this meet is probably going to be wack" and no show! When we chat and it sounds like it's not going to be good then I am quick to be honest and say that it's not my thing!
But I don't have a preference with who is doing the talking! In fact I feel like the more cool that I am with hubby the better the atmosphere and opportunities to bang his wife into oblivion!