What was your reason to get into the lifestyle.

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What was your reason to get into the lifestyle.
For us we got into it so she could be thoroughly satisfied. I had already been a cuckold for many years in a previous relationship and absolutely loved and enjoyed it. I knew I could step aside and accept my place as the less endowed beta male, Allot less LOL.
Secondly, I was never in denial about it, I knew and accepted that I was less than adequate to satisfy most women, espically now as an adult. I really knew she needed more than what I had to offer sexually. She had three previous well hung lovers in her life and absolutely was certain that she needed that in a lover. Now seven years later she has had four black lovers and vows she will never go white again.
I knew it would end up that way and I am very proud of her. We moved three times with my job, hence three of the four black men, she really only wanted one select man as a lover.
She needed a passionate lover with a big hard cock who had skills and physical ability that I have always lacked. She needed a man with stamina because she really has endurance, she needs sex to last for hours with a good lover that match her insatiable abilities. That is really what most women probably need but some have never had it and others don't really care about it. I think it makes perfect sense for the dedicated cuckold that has accepted he is not a match to understand that once she finds what she needs to be satisfied she should no longer feel obligated to react to her inadequate cuckold as if he is still her primary lover. I understood, I gave that up when I surrendered her to an ALPHA SUPERIOR BLACK MAN who could easily satisfy her and bring her to multiple orgasms. We are still seriously committed partners with each other but the dynamics change when you enter into the interracial cuckold lifestyle. As a man I can honestly say I will always miss the feeling of going inside her with my hard penis or having access to her as my woman. That's the hardest aspect of the lifestyle, when you have to be brutally honest with yourself and respect where she is coming from. My tiny little almost four inch micro penis never did a thing to please or excite her, instead it actually frustrated her but she never complained. She really wanted to make love and be fucked so she could experience several orgasms as she had in the past. When that happens she becomes a tremendously passionate energized lover herself. Her enthusiasm to thoroughly satisfy her lover is unbelievable, she does things to him that she would have never even considered doing to me and of course I can't blame her and would never hold it against her. To hear her moans, her deafining screams and wittness how she reacts to him is a gift, they are sounds and screams I would have never experienced in my lifetime if it was just the two of us together. The other great gift is the cream pie along with the privilege to sometimes put my hand around his manhood to guide him inside of her, it's unbelievable how wet she gets. It really helped me to understand the physical difference of what she must feel when he is inside her compared to me, he's not only twice my size in length but also in thickness, his circumfrence is unbeliveable. As a cuckold, it genuinely humbles me. I never ever thought I would want to have another man's cock in my hand and certainly not ever my mouth, but now I feel privileged to orally clean or fluff him. I absolutly have no interest in outside of this specific cuckold scenario. In spite of my shortcomings, haha, I have become very useful in this three-way cuckold as a submissive when they allow me to serve. I was the one who encouraged her to go for the BBC, she allows me to jerk off and get relief and I find it satisfies my needs, especially when I'm watching them in person it is such a wonderful and exciting aphrodisiac.
 
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What was your reason to get into the lifestyle.
For us we got into it so she could be thoroughly satisfied. I had already been a cuckold for many years in a previous relationship and absolutely loved and enjoyed it. I knew I could step aside and accept my place as the less endowed beta male. Secondly, I was never in denial, I knew and accepted that I was less than adequate to satisfy most women. I really knew she needed more than what I had to offer sexually. She had three previous well hung lovers in her life and absolutely was certain that she needed that in a lover. Now seven years later she has had four black lovers and vows she will never go white again. I knew it would end up that way and I am very proud of her. We moved three times with my job, hence three of the four black men.
She needed a passionate lover with a big hard cock who had skills and physical ability that I lack. A man with stamina because she really has endurance, she needs sex to last for hours with a good lover that match her insatiable abilities. That is really what most women need but some have never had it and others don't really care about it. I think it makes perfect sense for the dedicated cuckold that has accepted he is not a match to understand that once she finds what she needs to be satisfied she should no longer feel obligated to react to her inadequate cuckold as if he is still her primary lover. I understood I gave that up when I surrendered her to an ALPHA SUPERIOR man who could really satisfy her. You are still Partners but the dynamics will change when you join the interracial cuckold lifestyle. As a man I can honestly say I still miss the feeling of going inside her, having access to her as my woman. That's the hard part, when you have to be truthfully honest with yourself. My tiny little four inch penis never did a damn thing to excite her, but instead it would actually frustrate her. She really wanted to make love and be fucked so she could experience several orgasams as she had in the past. When that happens she becomes a tremendously passionate lover herself. Her enthusiasm to thoroughly satisfy her lover is unbelievable, she does things to him that she would have never even considered doing with me. To hear her moans, her screams and how she reacts to him is my gift, they are sounds and screams I would have never experienced if it was just the two of us. The other great gift is the cream pie along with the privledge to sometimes put my hand around his manhood to guide him in. Now I understand the physical difference of what she must feel when he is inside her compared to me, he's not only greater in length but much bigger in girth. As a cuckold, it humbles you. I never ever thought I would want to have another man's cock in my hand and certainly not my mouth but now I feel privileged to orally clean him or fluff him. In spite of my shortcomings I have become very useful in this threeway relationship when they allow me to. I was the one who encouraged her to go for BBC, she allows me to jerk off and get relief and I find it satisfies my need, especially when I'm watching videos I recorded of them.
I did express to her I still needed oral sex, she suggested I should go meet another cuckold for such activity since it was agreed when we got into this lifestyle, it did not give me a license to go and find another woman. The whole purpose was that she realistically needed more than my little four inches, so now I'm looking for another little cuckold like me to maybe swap oral sex with. I prefer it happens in the presence of her and her lover to keep it more in the theme of being a cuckold couple.
I’m the cuck you’re looking for.
 
With us it started I kept asking my wife for a 3 way with another woman. She would always say no. One day she got tired of me asking and she turned around and told me if I really wanted a 3way with another woman I waoulbfirst have to watch her get fucked by another guy. She figured I would have backed down which at first I did. Then when I agreed she was shocked.
 
With us it started I kept asking my wife for a 3 way with another woman. She would always say no. One day she got tired of me asking and she turned around and told me if I really wanted a 3way with another woman I waoulbfirst have to watch her get fucked by another guy. She figured I would have backed down which at first I did. Then when I agreed she was shocked.
Did you get your threeway with another woman??
 
I had gotten into black men early on in college and loved it. Later on with my husband I love him but did miss that part of my life. Both of us love sex and being experimental and naughty with it so we enjoyed fun little games in the bedroom. I had several black friends from college and work so we decided to see what it felt like and loved it.
 
Sorry, long read. But hopefully interesting though. So let me start my psychical strip tease... 🤣

i am hugely turned-on by Women who incorporate dualism of the form "Lady in the streets and slut in the sheets". - The perfect trophy wife in the face of the community of friends and family but with a kinky side when it comes to expressing herself sexually that nobody would expect.

i was attracted to Women with a great sexual appetite from an early age, and unsurprisingly my first longterm girlfriend was just that! Even though i am a horny lad myself i always had the impression that she was satisfied with the sex we had but not to the fullest extent she was capable of.

So on one day i suggested to extend our sexual play by introducing toys into our bedroom. - i was very surprised that albeit her high sex drive she was the first and only Woman i have been with who didn't already have any - no vibes, no dildos, at all. - But she declined. She said, she was not attracted to objects and felt like no toy would be able to come close to the real thing. A few days later i brought up swinging. That led to extended discussions and a lot of questions i had to answer, but a few weeks later she agreed by saying, "Okay, let's try it." It didn't come as a surprise, i actually somehow expected a positive answer from her. You have to see, we were both young, in our early twenties and sexually explorative with a high sex drive.

Initially our idea was to play with another couple. But our first visit to a Swing Club would turn out differently. There were a few couples in the club and they all seemed to know each other well and were already in the middle of exploring each other on the playgrounds. The club owners - a couple - were quite effortful trying to make us feel well and welcomed but they had no free time at hands as they were too busy with the counter, serving drinks and snacks, and opening the door for new arrivals. They told us that typically the more experienced members take care of newcomers, chat them up, if they liked that, or otherwise leave them to themselves, but always do their best to make them feel safe and well. "We love our guests. Everybody is so warm and helpful with breaking the ice.", the male part of the owner couple said. But they also told us, typically most of the couples arrive an hour earlier than we did, and they suggested to do the same the next time we would attend in order to have better chances.

We noticed that there was quite a number of men there without a partner and a few of them were eyeballing from a distance my girlfriend in her seethrough babydoll nightdress that would reveil the set of lingerie she was wearing underneath. She turned to me and whispered in my ear that it would make her horny thinking of the guys lusting after her. While looking around i noticed there was one guy she kept eye-contact a little longer than the others and i began gauging her interest and querying if she saw anybody she thougt was hot. She slightly blushed but told me, "yes the tall guy with the black seethrough boxers". We talked a little bit more before i suggested to move away from the counter and to an empty table close to where the guy of her interest was standing and so we did.

It wasn't long before he made eye-contact with my girlfriend again so i invited him to sit with us for a chat. He very politely thanked and took the offer, and introduced hisself as "Tom". We talked about this and that and also we told him it was our first evening not only at that club but at swinging at all. He then asked, again very politely, "So are you looking for a guide?" He told us he was familiar with that club and if we liked we are invited to follow him and he will give us a brief tour of the place including the playgrounds. Without waiting for a reply he got up out of the chair and slowly moved away to an open door to the next room. He was standing there perhaps waiting for us but without looking in our direction. i think he wanted to grant us time to discuss the offer and decide what we would do.

my girlfriend said that she was so hormy and wet in her panties from noticing Tom was briefly eyeing her up and down in a flirtitious manner when he sat with us but she wanted to stick to our initial plan of playing with another couple. But i said: "Well, in lack of available couples perhaps we should do the next best thing." Her eyes widened and she asked me: "Are you suggesting...?" - "...a threesome.", i completed her sentence, "With Tom.", i added, "Of course, only if he agrees to that idea." But both of us already knew he would. It was the start of a two-year-period of us swinging. One thing i noticed but didn't fully process at that time is the most pleasure i got was from seeing her with another man.

Our swinging would include other couples as well and one time even a Woman as the third player but that didn't go down well, as my girlfriend told me afterwards she was unexpectedly experiencing jealousy when she was seeing me with her which made her feel very uncomfortable. Perhaps i have to add that unlike the others we had played with this Woman was a single Lady which perhaps added to her jealousy. Anyway we decided to further not invite any Women for FMF. Eventually our swinging changed to only include other men as third players, and only once even a fourth (which would technically be considered a gangbang but we didn't apply that label back then). Anyway about two years after our first experience with swinging at the club we had a lot of things going on in our lives and decided to put our swinging on hold and get back to it later but actually we never did.

At one point, another two years later, we entered a Hotwife lifestyle of the form that she would go on dates and playnights with other men, while keeping me informed about everything, before, after and sometimes inbetween her "dates" where she would call me from a washroom or the likes and tell me how everything was proceeding. She always told me everything in detail, the good and the bad, when she came home and we had a lot of incredibly good sex during that period of our relationship. But that is another story.


TL;DR

The first time i saw another man between my first long-term girlfriend's legs, entering her with his manhood i was hooked! But only much later i found out about my voyeuristic nature of laying or sitting back and just enjoying the show, sometimes. We had been swingers for two years and she kinda expected me to be part of the action. And i was young back then and didn't know something like a cuckold, Hotwife or Stag/Vixen lifestyle even existed. i think i found it more natural for a boyfriend to want a piece of the cake and eat it too, and thus to always be an active part while swinging. So the idea or practice of being a voyeur without actually taking part in the physical sex with my girlfriend never really crossed my mind nor did we ever happen to do that.

A note on Black men as potential third players

We never even met one Black guy in a swing lifestyle club when we were active. It was mid to late 1990s in a central European country with a black population of perhaps not more than 0.05 percent at that time! :p my interest of me sharing a Woman with a Black man came much later into my life.

After the GF i was talking about and i had split up a few years of single life followed. i had the occasional one night stands but also more often than not i would masturbate to my sexual fantasies, but also pictures (not videos at that time) of beautiful Women. i would run websearches for random Women in bikinis and sooner or later i found sites like Only-Tease, Nubiles, FTV (First Time Video) and the likes which had image sets of lots of beautiful young Women stripping off their clothes, using dildos on themselves or performing some lesbian acts with each other. i would start websearches for a model i found particularly appealing and finally found out that some of them also appeared in other porn productions.

That's where i began watching short clips, previews of pro porn movies or scenes, often in the lesbian or boy/girl category on porn tube sites. Some, although few, of the latter would include a Black guy as the male performer which i found appealing, especially with a white Woman for the aesthetic and eroticism of the contrast black to white skin provides. But i wasn't completely hooked at first and would go on watching clips with other themes most of the time.

It was only when i found more and more real amateur, often full length scenes that would play for half an hour to an hour - sometimes even longer - that i first noticed white Women with Black men being a thing (for some people, not for me yet). Of course there had been other constellations as well, but it seemed like nothing came close to the huge amount of white, mostly married Women receiving pure pleasure from Black men and their dicks inside the Hotwives' every holes. - And in contrast to professional porn it seemed to be real pleasure, not some faked $hit.

That was when i started watching more and more amateur stuff, also more and more "IR" themed flicks with a white Woman and one or several Black men. i was totally in awe of experiencing by watching how much arousal, pleasure and satisfaction a Woman is enabled to receive from seeing, touching, swallowing, riding, or simply feeling a Black man's dick on her skin or inside any of her lust holes. And i was intrigued by how easy it was for plenty of Black men to push those Women's (mostly Hotwives') buttons and the Ladies over the edge into long lasting and very intense O's. - Very special types of female orgasms i had hardly seen before. i was completely hooked on the theme and also became more attracted to Women of all ages and body types.

But i was always very attracted to gorgeous Black Women too. Perhaps it was the lack of watching those frequently while mostly watching white Ladies with Black men that led me to purposely search out for Black Women in porn. The funny thing is that even skin contrast was and is a huge turn-on for me, i found out i would rather watch a Black Woman with a Black man than with a white. i cannot really explain why but i believe it was the amount of porn i watched beforehand including Black men as the Women's male partners up to a point i could not even remember the last time i saw a white penis in porn. :D

i think somehow my mind got set on the idea of Women with Black men being the most natural and most rewarding sexual liaison? - Just a thought. ;)
Perhaps it was that period of my life that made me pursue a Wifesharing lifestyle in my second long-term relationship which i successfully did. Also i brought up to my then girlfriend the idea of the third player being a Black man to share her with, and she was very excited. ;)
 
I had been into watching interracial sex and she picked up on that by the porn I'd pick out. She had already had a little experience with a black guy from her college years and that was a turn on, so i knew it wouldn't be too difficult to get her to give it a try. She's not exclusively black, but the type of body she likes tends to be easier to find with black guys.
 
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