There is no fight. It is consensual sex between adults. i have always been respectful toward my Women and the men we have invited (when we did). Respect is earned. If a guy does not provide it he is not the one who will be invited. It's simple as that. And not because
I say so. my ex would scold a guy who was disrespectful toward her or me then turn around and walk away. Life's to short to deal with the bad apples. There are plenty of good men out there. Unfortunately not everyone understands a wifesharing relationship, many do not even know that exists.
Which is perhaps the biggest challenge when a couple is looking for a third. Then, finding a good match is also not that easy. :|