I wish some white slut did say that to me. She better call 911 right afterwardshmm YesI think that has some truth to it maybe lol? Like in romance or erotic stories, there is a focus on passion and being ravished.
I did enjoy the multiple orgasms
Is it okay to use the N word while getting fucked?
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I only say it if I am asked to.
Call me whatever you want while im pounding that pussy
It's difficult to give a definitive answer here. It depends, of course, on each partner (individual trajectory, family and/or political culture...) and, I'd say even more, on each sexual encounter you have. What is tolerated, even appreciated, in a given situation (context, sexual games, excitement of the moment...), may be totally rejected at another time. It's important to remember that every sexual encounter we have is a unique alchemy with our partner, and, in human relations, that the same causes don't always produce the same effects.
Now, with practice, discussions before and/or after sex, reflexivity and careful attention to the weak signals emanating from our partner, we can "feel it" or not, during the sexual act, but there are still failures... Practice, practice, practice, that's the only way you'll become better.
Exactly this!
I for one appreciate your reasoned analysis; but I am going to respectfully disagree in a different context, knowing some will disagree.It's difficult to give a definitive answer here. It depends, of course, on each partner (individual trajectory, family and/or political culture...) and, I'd say even more, on each sexual encounter you have. What is tolerated, even appreciated, in a given situation (context, sexual games, excitement of the moment...), may be totally rejected at another time. It's important to remember that every sexual encounter we have is a unique alchemy with our partner, and, in human relations, that the same causes don't always produce the same effects.
Now, with practice, discussions before and/or after sex, reflexivity and careful attention to the weak signals emanating from our partner, we can "feel it" or not, during the sexual act, but there are still failures... Practice, practice, practice, that's the only way you'll become better.
Nearly every post here in some manner acknowledges the negative connotations in the word's origination. @Jen Dvorak your original post acknowledged usage going both ways. I contend there is NO usage ever totally devoid of it's original intent. We all were taught "wrong is wrong" not "wrong is wrong except...". To my white friends who know it's wrong, a Black man's enjoyment does NOT change that! To the Black men using it for 'fun' your cavalier usage still demeans ALL of us and YOU are perpetuating a significant portion of what all of us regardless of color struggle with, mostly so in America.
Bury that word and never, ever allow it the light of day again! One love!
You're not wrong, and your answer is very interesting (without irony), because it allows us to put our finger on a little more reality: our sex life is political. It always has been. Between sex and politics, there are many points of interference: reproductive rights, taking into account sexist and sexual violence, sex work, practices permitted or not by law... Even if, on a personal level and in my own intimacy, the use of a racist term (let it be said), whatever it may be, would cut me off from all sexual desire, the fact remains that for others it constitutes a powerful driving *******, because, in addition to a powerful sexual imaginary, it takes on a strong memorial aspect where symbolic violence is here reversed and the social taboo transgressed (excuse my french – wich I am, by the way : the black man fucks the white woman, ******* and wife of the white man; the disinherited man fucks the bourgeois woman; the dominated man fucks the dominator's wife) and this provides them with excitement and cerebral pleasure).
I understand your position, but it's difficult to totally eradicate from the collective imagination several centuries of a socio-cultural structure that has produced discourses, graphic productions, literature and representations of the sexual practices of some people.
On the other hand, this in no way prevents us from taking a lucid look at the use of these terms, which carry with them a disastrous past.
People seem to get outraged when books are banned but not individual words. What if the book contains the word? Should it be disallowed?
Fucking hot. Loved to have watched.
I don’t use it unless the guy is into it
It's objectifying and dehumanizing. I get why it appeals to some people in a role play.
That’s a tad dismissive and gives a pass on its usage and history. Now: If someone is into “race play”…while weird… then go for it.
Same way as I don’t go into a Cuck situation thinking that they are also into verbal degradation.
I suppose it is 'dismissive' in a way. I dismiss the claim that mere words are equivalent to actual physical violence.
Sorry, but I refuse to conflate words with actual violence. Two completely different things. You can call me anything and it does not justify committing actual violence against you. The converse is also true.
I have already stated that I would not, do not, and have not used the word in question, along with many many other words. I'll go even further to say that I will not willingly associate with people who do, regardless of their own race. With multiple decades in the military in positions which require dealing with other cultures, I am fully cognizant of the niceties of good manners. I do not ever deliberately cause offense to other people. There is no reason to. I am also fully cognizant of the fact that someone else can have a completely different version of 'good manners' and I make a point not to jump directly to 'offended' without a real justification.
There are many cases where a common word in one language or culture is considered offensive in another. That does not make the 'offending' culture wrong, it just makes them different. Once the difference is known, it is asinine to expect the other culture to conform to your culture.
Never have and never will ! In my opinion, the word in itself should be deleted from use full stop. I am not into race play either so I cant comment on people who do use that word. Remember the pussy and cock don't know what colour eachother are 
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You "dismiss the claim that mere words are equivalent to actual physical violence." Try telling that to the thousands of teens and adults who take their own lives each year due to verbal shaming, verbal bullying, etc. After all, it's only "mere words," correct? Words carry meaning, and words have an impact. Personally, I would never stand for it, nor would I need pussy so bad that I'm going to denigrate the woman (if asked) just to get a nut. In fact, I'd probably back off and let her know that calling her a cunt, slut, whatever, isn't something that slides off my tongue, and I'd have to concentrate on demeaning her, which would make me lose interest.
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When American English speakers have a big fit about the fact that Chinese use a Mandarin word in their native speech because English speaking Americans consider a word which sounds the same to be offensive, that is asinine. It is foolish. It is senseless. And all the other adjectives in your list.
I don't think you are understanding my point."ASININE"... Wow!
More appropriately unfortunately unrealistic.
To expect those who trivialize the weaponized historical weight of the word. To have the "common" decency to discontinue it's flippant use.
When American English speakers have a big fit about the fact that Chinese use a Mandarin word in their native speech because English speaking Americans consider a word which sounds the same to be offensive, that is asinine. It is foolish. It is senseless. And all the other adjectives in your list.
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