How to approach?

[Blondbrit4bbc]

Soooo... hubby and I have so far kept this whole scene as ‘fantasy’. Chatted to a few guys on here but nothings developed from it for one reason or another. I guess the idea of meeting someone online intimidated me a bit and I’m not much into FaceTime calls or kik. So I guess the long story short here is that there is this Jamaican guy who delivers goods to my husbands workplace. Him and hubby always have a laugh and a joke together and I’ve heard him speak fondly of him ( in a non sexual way ) ... just said he’s a good guy. So I was visiting hubby’s workplace and this guy happened to be dropping something off and I had a very brief chat with him... he’s very nice... held my gaze a little too long, and was quite lovely. I had a bit of banter with him ( non sexual) and then he went off to sign paperwork with my husband. Afterwards my husband was buzzing ... telling me that this guy had told my husband how he found me beautiful and that he was a lucky man , and he knows now why hubby’s always smiling. So now my husband wants to approach this guy... show him some naughty photos... try and get him interested . Husband is a very straight to the point kinda guy so won’t feel embarrassed or worried... but I’m thinking what if this guy is horrified? And uncomfortable? Just because he’s paid me a compliment doesn’t mean he wants to have sex with me! He seemed lovely.. and right up my street , and he was without a doubt giving me the eye. But still... in everyday life people don’t just say ‘ hey mate... fancy fucking my wife’ anyway...any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Steelerman]

Pretty obvious he wants you

 

[wolf017d]

Soooo... hubby and I have so far kept this whole scene as ‘fantasy’. Chatted to a few guys on here but nothings developed from it for one reason or another. I guess the idea of meeting someone online intimidated me a bit and I’m not much into FaceTime calls or kik. So I guess the long story short here is that there is this Jamaican guy who delivers goods to my husbands workplace. Him and hubby always have a laugh and a joke together and I’ve heard him speak fondly of him ( in a non sexual way ) ... just said he’s a good guy. So I was visiting hubby’s workplace and this guy happened to be dropping something off and I had a very brief chat with him... he’s very nice... held my gaze a little too long, and was quite lovely. I had a bit of banter with him ( non sexual) and then he went off to sign paperwork with my husband. Afterwards my husband was buzzing ... telling me that this guy had told my husband how he found me beautiful and that he was a lucky man , and he knows now why hubby’s always smiling. So now my husband wants to approach this guy... show him some naughty photos... try and get him interested . Husband is a very straight to the point kinda guy so won’t feel embarrassed or worried... but I’m thinking what if this guy is horrified? And uncomfortable? Just because he’s paid me a compliment doesn’t mean he wants to have sex with me! He seemed lovely.. and right up my street , and he was without a doubt giving me the eye. But still... in everyday life people don’t just say ‘ hey mate... fancy fucking my wife’ anyway...any advice would be greatly appreciated.

If he looked at you like he said he did I doubt he would be horrified. But if he didn't want to have sex with you, so what? You'll likely won't ever see him again!

 

[AA23]

You’ll never know unless you try

 

[JnSforfun]

Hey there, from my experience your husband does not have to be so blunt as in hey do you want to have sex with my wife. Nor show him photos of you right off the bat.

A simple direct approach to gauge his interest is all you need to keep from overwhelming the guy. All he would need to say is something like, “The other day my wife (You name) loved the way you looked at her ”

If he replies with anything about your beauty or body then he can just get right to the point as he’s for sure interested. If he back peddles then he might not be or otherwise taken.

GL and I hope that you and your husband finally get to explore this fantasy! Life is short and for gods sake we should not be afraid to live it!

 

[Blondbrit4bbc]

Hey there, from my experience your husband does not have to be so blunt as in hey do you want to have sex with my wife. Nor show him photos of you right off the bat.

A simple direct approach to gauge his interest is all you need to keep from overwhelming the guy. All he would need to say is something like, “The other day my wife (You name) loved the way you looked at her ”

If he replies with anything about your beauty or body then he can just get right to the point as he’s for sure interested. If he back peddles then he might not be or otherwise taken.

GL and I hope that you and your husband finally get to explore this fantasy! Life is short and for gods sake we should not be afraid to live it!

Thanks, good advice. It’s surprised me how much I’m hoping for this to happen. I’ve thought of little else over the last few days and have felt incredibly turned on! I just don’t want him to offend him or make him feel uncomfortable or objectified. My husband doesn’t do subtle very well. I’ll try and get him to tone his approach down and not come across as too enthusiastic

 

[Mootje]

Good luck u sexy hot fuck .. And i bet he will just go to fuck you, girl u got some awesome curves and u fucking damn hot hot hot

 

[Blondbrit4bbc]

Good luck u sexy hot fuck .. And i bet he will just to fuck you, girl u got some awesome curves and u fucking damn hot hot hot

Well thanking you muchly mootje xx

 

[StevieGirl]

No, no, no, your husband should not approach the Jamaican man. Too staged. Arranged. YOU need to find a way to get some alone time with the man. Use your seductive charms. Have sex with him. If you all snap, crackle and pop, THEN bring hubby into the picture. If the Jamaican balks... oh well, at least you got his dick for a while.

 

[mrandhiswife]

We invited a friend for casual drinks after work and saw how things went from there. Give you some time to get to know the fellow and feel out the situation. Didn’t turn into anything for us the first couple of meets but it was great way to develop communication and chemistry. Good luck!

 

[Blondbrit4bbc]

Thank you for your advice ... I’ll keep you updated

 

[Bbc4u2enjoy]

20 plus years experience with this. Listen to get over those nerves. Just have guys that you can tell where you will be at and where your wife will be at nice places like bars and lounges out to dinner or for cocktails where you sitting in a way that a guy can approach. You don't have to let your wife know you just let the guy know where you'll be at and that he can come up and talk and go from there. Planning that I could be very nerve-racking you don't want it to be nervous wrecking you wanted to be smooth and you wanted to be kind of natural.

 

[Bbc4u2enjoy]

Her husband that really wants his wife to have a good experience well give the bulls some alone time and encourage the bull and his wife to get to know each other. A key word to tell a guy who may be interested is listen sir listen I do need some help with her see if you can do something with her. Adrenaline is always going to be a gentleman you have to encourage them that is okay to relax and be comfortable

 

[dickhurtz472]

how about planning another casual meet at hubby's work place. when he shows, tell him you wanted to take hubby to lunch but he is too busy & can't get away.

tell him you are thinking about a trip to jamaica & want to hear all about it. he'll love talking about his home land.

ask about the topless beaches & about all the stories you have heard about jamaican men. where it goes from there, no one knows, yet.

of course, hubby will have to be in on this.

maybe jamaica guy will step up to the plate. then, you are off to the races

 

[artgirl]

I would say proceed. You have some advantages in the situation you describe. You know each other. It seems like from what you say a positive reaction between you. The guy sounds like a nice grounded man. I doubt he will be offended by the offer. After all he too will have a advantage of knowing both your husband and you are in agreement if the offer is made by your husband. One thing i would be sure your interest is expressed as well. Then he knows it's not some guy trying to trick or push his wife into something. Some guys will back away from that situation. Even if he's not into what you are talking about i doubt a bad response. He may say no for several reasons but I'm guessing he will be flattered by the offer. It seems like you have nothing to loose by the suggestion.

 

[MacNfries]

Afterwards my husband was buzzing ... telling me that this guy had told my husband how he found me beautiful and that he was a lucky man , and he knows now why hubby’s always smiling. So now my husband wants to approach this guy... show him some naughty photos... try and get him interested .

Well, I wouldn't make a whole lot out of his simple compliment to your husband. Lots of guys, including myself, will place a compliment on a man's wife, or even TO his wife directly. I see a beautiful woman, I love to compliment her.
Hubby wants to show him some "naughty photos" of you ... hopefully they're not too bold or suggestive. Just a few photos of you in various stages of undress, maybe one with a "glory hole" shot ... but the idea here (I'd think) is that you're as classy as you are beautiful and those photos are extremely QT. Let your husband's friend make the first suggestion of what he'd love doing with you, then let your husband set it up, confidentially of course. And if all goes well, maybe you should act a bit surprised should he approach you.
The fun of catching a game fish is the "fight" it gives you after its hooked ... play him a long for a bit longer and make it interesting. Lets him know he's getting something "special".

 

[AnnieS]

Pretty obvious he wants you

Why is that because he smiled at her and was polite?

 

[AnnieS]

Hey there, from my experience your husband does not have to be so blunt as in hey do you want to have sex with my wife. Nor show him photos of you right off the bat.

A simple direct approach to gauge his interest is all you need to keep from overwhelming the guy. All he would need to say is something like, “The other day my wife (You name) loved the way you looked at her ”

If he replies with anything about your beauty or body then he can just get right to the point as he’s for sure interested. If he back peddles then he might not be or otherwise taken.

GL and I hope that you and your husband finally get to explore this fantasy! Life is short and for gods sake we should not be afraid to live it!

Great advice. Be slow. You can get the point across on several visits not just dump it all out on the floor in 5 min of the first visit. maybe drop by again when you know he is going to be there to see if the reaction warms a bit again. Take it slow and dont be too in your face. This is a business associate of your husband and being too blunt may have ramifications. You are in no rush. Take it slow and let things move at a comfortable pace. Nothing is gained by rushing. The whole hey you smiled at my wife last week check out these raunchy photos of her is sort of weird and way too over the top. I'd shy away from that approach. How about meeting the three of you at a pub for a beer. Gauge the situation away from the work place.

 

[jamaicanbbcsna]

Pretty obvious he wants you

I am a Jamaican & I can tell you that he wants u twice as bad from he gave u the eyes.am always at haulover beach too

 

[jamaicanbbcsna]

how about planning another casual meet at hubby's work place. when he shows, tell him you wanted to take hubby to lunch but he is too busy & can't get away.

tell him you are thinking about a trip to jamaica & want to hear all about it. he'll love talking about his home land.

ask about the topless beaches & about all the stories you have heard about jamaican men. where it goes from there, no one knows, yet.

of course, hubby will have to be in on this.

maybe jamaica guy will step up to the plate. then, you are off to the races

So true lol