Hope I haven't already posted this here, I am pretty HOT today and its slow at work so I;m reading thru the posts........I had a Black Lover that I fell HARD for. I as in love with him and told him so. LONG story, but when he and I stopped any pretense of birth control other than not meeting when I knew I had ovulated, hubby and I started telling out family that we were trying again (we have one together) but having problems and were considering going to a sperm donor clinic. Our plan was to say "whoops, they screwed up and I got a Black donor sperm, oh well we love him/her anyway" because I was VERY serious about getting pregnant with my Lover. His wife caught on to us, and set us up to catch him, and gave him an ultimatum.......the white girl and a divorce, or her and their family (2). I was DEVISTATED but we decided we could not destroy 2 marriages and 2 families and we stopped seeing each other. I think about him EVERY day still, and it's been years. If he walked thru the door right now, I'd go right back to where we were immediately!! J (the wife)