Advice from Real Couples - What changed after BBC

[Ezekiel]

I was the only person to ever have sex with my wife but as we got older there was something missing for my wife. She was faking orgasms and she loved sex, she never turned me down but she wasn’t always satisfied. After I set her up for a date on her 50th birthday with a young, hung black stud her whole personality changed. She was again the happy, loving woman that I married years earlier. It was the best thing to ever happen to us. We are still in love 20 years later.

Sharing is a very loving act and the love flows both ways. Good for you.

 

[derty12324]

Then it was just about finding something within it for him to enjoy within it all too and me doing it for him.

And what did you find for him?

 

[SnowLady]

Ok so need some advise from real married couples that actually went black. Me and hubby have been talking for a while about it and are finally ready. His idea initially not mine but I cant get it out of my head and want a taste now, lol. So surprised he even thought about this because he was always the jealous type. What changed after you actually went thru with it. I think we found the right guy to do this with but I dont want to ruin my marriage, life, etc.. We have a happy life, both educated professionals with *******.

I'd say the first and foremost thing for me was that it showed me I did not have to adapt to a stereotypical lifestyle. I was a party girl all through college and my family especially during the last part was always telling me how it was time to settle down, get the career, put a ring on my finger, have *******, and start being a soccer mom. When my husband and I were fully honest with how we wanted to do things it showed us it really is our life to do with as we see fit.

The second and also super important one was I think it took jealousy and trust and changed them. How many couple have issues when one or the other works late, goes to a meal with a coworker, goes on a business trip etc and are sitting there wondering if they are being true? You see fights and relationship problems all over from it. Now in something like this sex isn't an all inclusive thing and I'm just honest like hey I am having sex and coming home to you. I think it helped us to not have issues with jealousy or trust and obviously that is going to work different for everyone.

Also I think it works to keep things fresh and from getting stale. Different partners and trying new things with new people and you're always learning good and bad things.