How did BBC change your wife & marriage after her 1st?

[loverbbcinva]

That’s great and the goal. But if you never have feelings then you would not fit the description of “most women“. And several years is not long enough for you to get a true understanding of this lifestyle. We have been in it for 14 years and we’re still finding out things that surprise. Having feelings is not a bad thing in our opinion. It’s normal. Letting it interfere with our primary relationship is.

I'll clarify. We been hotwifing for 18 years. So it does give us some credibility.

 

[Hotwifesue]

I'll clarify. We been hotwifing for 18 years. So it does give us some credibility.

Again. Feelings come with sex for most women. If you are the exception that’s wonderful. I never said “all”. We got off the thread topic here so let’s move on.

 

[Jenniscuck]

Interesting that you laugh and then acknowledge that my comment is correct. I’ve read a number of your posts and find that I agree with a lot of what you write, but find your snotty demeanor off putting. You say it’s wrong to devalue people while devaluing people here quite frequently. Maybe most women in the LS are like you, dominant and pugnacious, but someone we would want to be around. (Don’t forget to add your signature laugh.)

I’ve noticed that in addition to the frauds, and flakes here, there is also a sprinkling of people who like to piss in the punch bowl by picking fights. Don’t understand them, but they’re out there.

 

[pbhoutx]

Prior to her first black guy she struggled getting her mind around fucking other men. She just didn’t feel good about it. Her first guy was a married white guy and they eventually had an all-nighter. They were swingers and newbies also. Afterward his wife became jealous and acted strangely. We ended up losing their friendship.

Her first black guy was last minute after a no show. We had met him a year previously. When I called he came straight over, a 45 minute drive. He was handsome, had a great cock, and was very dominant, which she needed. While I took a call he fucked her mouth and gave her a load down her throat.She had never allowed me to do that previously. Later he recovered and took her again with a condom. This experience got her past her inhibitions.

She began fucking him every chance she got including birthdays, anniversaries etc. . She fulfilled lots of fantasies and it wasn’t long before she fucked him bare every time.

Eventually she admitted to thinking about him all the time, even during our sex. He wasn’t great with sex, she never came, but he turned up the heat for us and it was fun. I became much more of a cuckold during this time, eating her creampies. He eventually told her to “tell Dan to suck my big black cock”. He kept saying it until she said it over and over. She looked away when it happened, but this changed everything. It was never routine, I typically just watched and filmed, but it changed her mindset about me gradually.

Later we only enjoyed IR porn. And she began looking at black men she would see and fantasize. She fucked other bbc and they sought her out online at LS events etc. . She turned down most white guys. They were not attractive any longer. Her numbers grew to the mid 60’s and she had many regulars. It was more than a hobby. It was a lifestyle now.

She was a conservative petite housewife transformed into a wanton slut, but neither of us saw it that way at the time. We were just having fun. She started falling for guys. And eventually one began falling for her. There was marital interference and some hidden things happening. I went through a lot of stress trying to figure out what was happening.

I had seen some marriages ended over it so I got out of my cuckold mindset and began to stop the interference. This guy was delivering mind blowing sex and he was getting her to cancel other dates and LS events. He was in love with her. He wanted exclusivity. I didn’t. We went through some ******* with the struggle until Sue finally saw what was happening and stopped it.

Things are good now. But her black addiction is still strong and she understands her sexual power much better. He’s still in the picture, just not in control. And she made it clear and he accepted that she will fuck other black guys too.

This is a good condensed history and I am always interested in learning the history and progression of couples in this lifestyle. You mentioned her changed mindset towards you once it became more cuckold-ish. Specifically, how did the changed mindset manifest itself, i.e. what happened?

 

[Rene Mills]

Interesting that you laugh and then acknowledge that my comment is correct. I’ve read a number of your posts and find that I agree with a lot of what you write, but find your snotty demeanor off putting. You say it’s wrong to devalue people while devaluing people here quite frequently. Maybe most women in the LS are like you, dominant and pugnacious, but someone we would not want to be around. (Don’t forget to add your signature laugh.)

I hit the wrong emotion. I did agree. I’ll also add that if a woman is getting emotionally attached during random sex she shouldn’t be in this lifestyle. Same goes for jealousy. Nice little fit you threw there because of a misunderstanding. How adult of you. I say it is wrong to devalue your spouse. Some random person pushing their fetish is a different story. Again, any woman that can’t handle sex with others without attachment should not be playing with others

 

[Rene Mills]

I’ve noticed that in addition to the frauds, and flakes here, there is also a sprinkling of people who like to piss in the punch bowl by picking fights. Don’t understand them, but they’re out there.

I will mock someone like you that lives in your fetish.

 

[Rmaxxx69]

I can say that my GF was ok with guys from all races but when it came to GB's, the BBC's stood out. They are basically built for sex. (In most cases) Muscular, athletic, long lasting, bigger cocks, larger loads etc., and they are there to just to have sex. They generally are not looking for a relationship, they just love fuck. Not to speak of the naughtiness of it, seeing the contrast of a Big black dick sliding into your white pussy or your husband/BF watching and enjoying it too. (White girls aren't supposed to kiss and fuck black guys much less swallow a black load of cum) This adds a whole new level of excitement to you and you husbands experience. Eventually the white guys (and other races) she slowly stopped asking for. When it came to weeding out the fun guys from the OK guys, the BBCs were the ones she asked for the most. So now its BBC only.
So, you can take the long road and be politically correct or skip the BS wasted time, etc. and go straight to the good stuff.
Just her take on things and also mine.

( this was the same reply to a similar post )

 

[Erfo]

That’s great and the goal. But if you never have feelings then you would not fit the description of “most women“. And several years is not long enough for you to get a true understanding of this lifestyle. We have been in it for 14 years and we’re still finding out things that surprise. Having feelings is not a bad thing in our opinion. It’s normal. Letting it interfere with our primary relationship is.

there is a contradiction in your conclusion from the thesis: having feelings (for a third person attracted for sex) is not bad, it is bad when they interfere with the relationship. How can this violation of emotional hygiene not interfere with feelings for the husband? Unless, of course, you do not allow the coexistence of equally strong/important feelings for different men. The very definition of a love feeling presupposes two criteria - choice and time/duration during which this feeling persists. The overwhelming majority of women who easily/******* "fall in love" with changing sexual partners lack both! In other words, these women love men ... like their shoes/wardrobe: two eternal problems - nowhere to hang them and nothing to wear.

 

[Hotwifesue]

This is a good condensed history and I am always interested in learning the history and progression of couples in this lifestyle. You mentioned her changed mindset towards you once it became more cuckold-ish. Specifically, how did the changed mindset manifest itself, i.e. what happened?

She became more assertive about what she wanted and needed. A specific bull would get her to cancel a date she had set up with another bull. Once he requested that she cancel a LS party we were attending right before leaving. These things initially happened without my knowledge that he was behind her decision. She would not tell me because she knew it would upset me.

 

[Hotwifesue]

there is a contradiction in your conclusion from the thesis: having feelings (for a third person attracted for sex) is not bad, it is bad when they interfere with the relationship. How can this violation of emotional hygiene not interfere with feelings for the husband? Unless, of course, you do not allow the coexistence of equally strong/important feelings for different men. The very definition of a love feeling presupposes two criteria - choice and time/duration during which this feeling persists. The overwhelming majority of women who easily/******* "fall in love" with changing sexual partners lack both! In other words, these women love men ... like their shoes/wardrobe: two eternal problems - nowhere to hang them and nothing to wear.

Violation of emotional hygiene? lol. Can you love vanilla ice cream while still loving chocolate ice cream or is that a dietary violation? I feel like YOUR premise may be flawed. Furthermore, a person can have a hierarchy of “loves”. You love your husband more than you love a friend for example. It is possible to love a lot of people yet differently.

My wife loves her bulls emotionally, but not the same as she loves me. However there was a period where she was violating that hierarchy by not disclosing things to me. That has been corrected.

 

[cadillacjoe]

Before me and my wife tried this I had known she was into black guys and that she has fucked black guys in highschool and college
But after watching her fuck her personal trainers bbc and how natural she looked I realized she is just a slut like many other girls she is a slut for bbc it kinda dampened things at first but then realized it was amazing that’s she like that and embraced it

You are one more lucky cuck.

 

[Jenniscuck]

I will mock someone like you that lives in your fetish.

Thank you for illustrating my point, dear.

You literally know nothing about me, yet for some reason you want, and are trying to pick a fight with me. That’s…odd.

 

[Hotwifesue]

Thank you for illustrating my point, dear.

You literally know nothing about me, yet for some reason you want, and are trying to pick a fight with me. That’s…odd.

If you read her posts you will see this is her MO here. She fancies herself as THE expert and doesn’t shrink from attacking and mocking all who get in her way. Put her on ignore.

 

[Erfo]

Violation of emotional hygiene? lol. Can you love vanilla ice cream while still loving chocolate ice cream or is that a dietary violation? I feel like YOUR premise may be flawed. Furthermore, a person can have a hierarchy of “loves”. You love your husband more than you love a friend for example. It is possible to love a lot of people yet differently.

My wife loves her bulls emotionally, but not the same as she loves me. However there was a period where she was violating that hierarchy by not disclosing things to me. That has been corrected.

It's funny that you bring up the ice cream analogy, despite the analogy with things/shoes that I ALREADY brought up!) That's the point, that such women love men exactly like a cat loves sour cream/cream/milk. Let's leave the possibility of a hierarchy of "loves" out of the equation.)))

 

[Rene Mills]

She became more assertive about what she wanted and needed. A specific bull would get her to cancel a date she had set up with another bull. Once he requested that she cancel a LS party we were attending right before leaving. These things initially happened without my knowledge that he was behind her decision. She would not tell me because she knew it would upset me.

So you would flake on other people that worked hard to make themselves available and you think that’s good?

 

[Rene Mills]

Thank you for illustrating my point, dear.

You literally know nothing about me, yet for some reason you want, and are trying to pick a fight with me. That’s…odd.

You're a cuck. Just go jerk off while you’re belittled

 

[Rene Mills]

If you read her posts you will see this is her MO here. She fancies herself as THE expert and doesn’t shrink from attacking and mocking all who get in her way. Put her on ignore.

You’ve made it cheese that you shouldn’t be in the lifestyle

 

[Hotwifesue]

It's funny that you bring up the ice cream analogy, despite the analogy with things/shoes that I ALREADY brought up!) That's the point, that such women love men exactly like a cat loves sour cream/cream/milk. Let's leave the possibility of a hierarchy of "loves" out of the equation.)))

For self described logician you wander all over the place. Best leave it there. Peace

 

[Rene Mills]

It's funny that you bring up the ice cream analogy, despite the analogy with things/shoes that I ALREADY brought up!) That's the point, that such women love men exactly like a cat loves sour cream/cream/milk. Let's leave the possibility of a hierarchy of "loves" out of the equation.)))

You’re going to get attacked for not agreeing with him lol

 

[Erfo]

For self described logician you wander all over the place. Best leave it there. Peace

"no one seeks another love from love"
(you will understand this someday)