1st time. How to relax without alcohol?

[ramrod210]

Go on another social with him before you do the deed. Maybe even two. Then by the time you meet for the sex you’ll be way more relaxed having spent time with him multiple times before. You don’t need ******* or alcohol for this and is guaranteed to reduce apprehension. Hope this helps.

this is very good advice

 

[Frankandcathy]

Drinking dulls the senses, I prefer to meet and talk or dance

 

[KelJo]

So,,,I have a BBC guy who I picked to be my first one. We talked for some time, even met once. Now I had a few ladies suggested to take it easy the first time, do not promise and expect anything, yet I am still very nervous.
I do not ******* alcohol. What's the other methods you've used to ease up? I'd like can relax and enjoy the first time to the fullest. thank you.

Alcohol can be a tricky thing balancing between relaxing and going too far so probably best to avoid it. Try deep and slow breathing, and like people have said not promising anything and just seeing how things go with no expectations.