Honestly I doubt it would make much difference. Definitely there are women who are sensitive about the language, but there are also women who love it. The guy just sort of needs to "read the room" so to speak. If a guy walked up to me at an event and said, "Come suck my cock, whore!" he wouldn't get far. But call me a slut while bending me in half with a hand on my throat and that is a very different thing.
Personally, as a mixed-race person I find "Spade" a lot more distasteful than "Slut." But many on here clearly don't mind it.
So yeah, read the room.