I have to admit, finding a hotwife is like finding a needle in a haystack. 13 years ago when I was searching for my next hotwife, having my two ex's before her leave me. I was certain I wouldn't settle for anything less, than a women who if wasn't already into it, would be more than willing in the future. I had to date around 15 women and tell them what I was seeking, and how my past had played out, as well as my size etc. So these were 15 women I had never met before and told them everything... not easy.
My current wife the day we met, I told her the same as the others, but she didn't run screaming like the others BUT she also said she thought she doubted i'd be her type, not so much because of my size, but she really found submissive men a real turn off. Anyway, she never committed to anything with me and kept dating other guys with a string of one night stands as she was just recently divorced, I just became a friend to her, and a confidante as it was. She'd also fill me in on what happened with any of her dates, and knew i'd be at home masturbating while sending her texts messages just to check in on her. This also showed her not only I was really turned on by her, it also showed my pledge for monogamy to her was real, that I wasn't possessive in any way, and most importantly, I was not the jealous type with anger issues. She also got to see a submissive male can have positive qualities she had never realised or thought about before.
After about 3 months she started staying over at my place, but we'd sleep with a sheet between us with no sexual contact, only she would be ok me masturbating to her. 4 more weeks after that, she allowed me to spoon her as long as I wore a condom and I could put my cock between her thighs, a couple of weeks later... it happened, she finally reached down and guided my cock into her pussy. I climaxed immediately, but I laid there holding her, and she was the one that said 'I guess we're officially a couple now'. Was 6 months before I fucked her bareback, and she hasn't let me cum in her mouth in nearly that whole 13 years.
As a couple, we still have very little sex, and 4-6 fucks a year would be considered a very good year for me, and it took 4 years before we found a regular gent for her, but we are still the best of friends, have each others back, have had ******* together.
I would say, stop going by the standard method of looking for a slut who loves BBC, and perhaps look for a woman who may enjoy swinging and work backwards from there. There are many ways to find what you are looking for, you just may need to go down a different road.
There are many divorced women already fucking a lot of men, you just need to befriend one of them maybe and see if love blossoms even if its sexless for you.
