When the relationship is over

[James J]

I was informed yesterday that one of my couples whom I've been with for almost 4 years is moving away.
Hubby got a killer job out west close to where their kid is going to school. Too good to pass up.

I think the big difference when you are in this lifestyle is that you are definitely disappointed when this happens, however we move on to the next stage of life.
No regrets, no arguments, no need to drop them from your contacts . Unfortunately I really don't get out that way much, however, never say never.

To be clear, even though I really enjoyed being with the wife, I also enjoyed my time with hubby as a friend.
I wish them luck and hope to hook up again.

J

 

[shyhub28]

I was informed yesterday that one of my couples whom I've been with for almost 4 years is moving away.
Hubby got a killer job out west close to where their kid is going to school. Too good to pass up.

I think the big difference when you are in this lifestyle is that you are definitely disappointed when this happens, however we move on to the next stage of life.
No regrets, no arguments, no need to drop them from your contacts . Unfortunately I really don't get out that way much, however, never say never.

To be clear, even though I really enjoyed being with the wife, I also enjoyed my time with hubby as a friend.
I wish them luck and hope to hook up again.

J

The couple were fortunate to have had a caring person in their life.

 

[BethLuvsBBConly]

We were seeing a wonderful black man for two years. Similarly to your experience, he had a opportunity for a better position in another state. Our last weekend with him was very special, but the time had come to move on. He met a nice couple, and we met another local black man...life goes on!

 

[Dblinsey]

I feel your pain! About 18 months ago, a Black guy who'd I'd been seeing for quite some time had to move to the mid-west, and like your friends, it was job/promotion related. He got all packed up and he had me one last time, then the following morning we went back to his place and took him to the airport. We claimed it was so he could save some money on cab fare, but in reality, we knew no one else would be seeing him off, and we were right. It was a bitter/sweet departure, but we all realized that like all good things, this had to end as well. So be it.

We stayed in contact periodically but they tended to be less and less frequent. Then about six months ago, he told us he was getting married - to a white girl! We were SO happy for him, but in a way sad.

I think that those of us who seek out long term relationships have to accept the fact that they will eventually end. So the joys of really having someone know you, and you really knowing them is balanced by the intense sadness when we have to go our separate ways.

Keep the good memories and forget the bad ones, they are the stuff that will make you smile knowingly in the future.

Take care

Donna