Generally we're quite happy with our family as it is, ******* are a little older and a baby would be a big change. ******* are still young enough to go to grandparents for sleepovers giving Sarah and I time alone (which often involves Ben).
Sarah was 40 this year and I think she had sense of her biological clock ticking away, if we were to have another baby now would be the time rather than later. For myself it would have been selfish reasons, the idea of trying to get pregnant, being pregnant and giving birth to a black baby would have been pretty intense.
I like to believe we're level headed and think things through before acting and we simply weighed up the pros and cons.