Trying to understand QOS lifestyle as a Black Man

[stinkbomb23]

I’m having an inner conflict. I grew up in an area where I was subjected to a lot of white woman at an early age. I don’t discriminate or have a particular preference when it comes to race but I do love having sex with white women, I always have a ton of fun with them. I was recently called out for being in chuckhole situations being told that I was allowing myself to be degraded, giving them all the power, and that I was being used as a toy for some else’s pleasure like I was a slave and it made me feel kinda funny. I never felt like I was being used but could I be wrong? Does me enjoying interracial sex with white women make me a traitor to my own race? I’ve been told so many times that being labeled a bull is derogatory and I totally understand how that can be interpreted. Same with QOS. How should I feel about this? And how should I move forward?

Let’s apply that logic to a different scenario! Let’s do me! I’m a white female that grew up with predominantly white guys that loves to be taken full advantage of by black men! Am I a race traitor as well? silly concept in my opinion! Plus it’s free booty! Lol

 

[MichelleCakes]

Enjoy what you enjoy and if someone is right to you, they're right to you. If it makes you change may it be for the better. Nothing wrong with any of it so long as respect is present and you are the judge of what respect is. If they cross that line, clean your aura and attract what you're seeking. Too many influencers out there fucking with your mind and ego at every corner so it comes down to your preferences.

My two cents.

 

[KingHeavyClaps]

I'm a white female that prefers men of a darker persuasion. It my choice of men, it's not a fetish or a kink. However, the people on here and their perversion is more on the racist side. They of course don't see it, but it's very much a white man controlling his perversion due to his inadequacies and what a better race then his arch nemesis... the black man. So in a sense you're partaking in this disfunction, but you're getting your rocks off, sooo it's a double edge sword if you ask me with this lifestyle.

You made a solid point and...

The fact that you understand there is unhealthy BNWO lifestyle's that need to be reformed speaks heavy. You're right about the "racist" context they're coming at. I think that it should be more of a personal preference rather than some BS porn category. Everything is fine with BNWO without the perversions and twisted racists comparison but if they have a comparison kink, is it kink shaming??

So much to talk about...

 

[eatme314]

I’m having an inner conflict. I grew up in an area where I was subjected to a lot of white woman at an early age. I don’t discriminate or have a particular preference when it comes to race but I do love having sex with white women, I always have a ton of fun with them. I was recently called out for being in chuckhole situations being told that I was allowing myself to be degraded, giving them all the power, and that I was being used as a toy for some else’s pleasure like I was a slave and it made me feel kinda funny. I never felt like I was being used but could I be wrong? Does me enjoying interracial sex with white women make me a traitor to my own race? I’ve been told so many times that being labeled a bull is derogatory and I totally understand how that can be interpreted. Same with QOS. How should I feel about this? And how should I move forward?

I mean as a black woman I say do you, but at the same time they are right whomever told u this.. it actually make sense, we’ll depending on the individual… if it’s a white woman that really cares about you that really consider u as an friend who does things with u n for u n it’s not all about sex then that’s a genuine person that genuinely likes u .. but if all they want to do is use you for your bbc then yes they are using you… but only u can answer that question , u kno who really fucks with n who really doesn’t … but if u like being used fuck it do u

 

[Black adonis]

I’m having an inner conflict. I grew up in an area where I was subjected to a lot of white woman at an early age. I don’t discriminate or have a particular preference when it comes to race but I do love having sex with white women, I always have a ton of fun with them. I was recently called out for being in chuckhole situations being told that I was allowing myself to be degraded, giving them all the power, and that I was being used as a toy for some else’s pleasure like I was a slave and it made me feel kinda funny. I never felt like I was being used but could I be wrong? Does me enjoying interracial sex with white women make me a traitor to my own race? I’ve been told so many times that being labeled a bull is derogatory and I totally understand how that can be interpreted. Same with QOS. How should I feel about this? And how should I move forward?

I am going to quote the sexologist Dan Savage, it doesn't matter what you do in bed, as long as the people treat each other as decent human beings afterward. Some people are into BDSM, and get off on other people whipping and beating them. According to Savage's logic, when the "scene" ends people need to go back to being respectful. So I would ask you, how do the people treat you after the sex is over? Is it respectful? Would they acknowledge you if you saw them IRL? I would also tell you not to worry about it too much, if you are having fun, keep it.

The lifestyle is hard for others to understand. I didn't understand it before I got into it. Also, there are different people in the lifestyle. Some couples become friends with the bulls, and some women even fall in love with them. Others are looking for a transitory experience. So, it depends what kind of couple you experience.

 

[Michigan-cuck]

Let’s apply that logic to a different scenario! Let’s do me! I’m a white female that grew up with predominantly white guys that loves to be taken full advantage of by black men! Am I a race traitor as well? silly concept in my opinion! Plus it’s free booty! Lol

No not even close

 

[whiteboy_boy]

There are a lot of ways people practice this life style. I am sure you can find couples and singles that are looking for what you are looking for. To many mutual respect and friendship ( or a relationship) is mandatory between the guys and couples.

I can’t even imagine how it’s possible without mutual respect and trust

 

[cuckbyeverygf]

I mean as a black woman I say do you, but at the same time they are right whomever told u this.. it actually make sense, we’ll depending on the individual… if it’s a white woman that really cares about you that really consider u as an friend who does things with u n for u n it’s not all about sex then that’s a genuine person that genuinely likes u .. but if all they want to do is use you for your bbc then yes they are using you… but only u can answer that question , u kno who really fucks with n who really doesn’t … but if u like being used fuck it do u

Love your post, just read the whole thing. White women have been told by their grandmother. mom me a big black man.

 

[cuckbyeverygf]

So i've learned when I was sixteen up now Now I'm fifty two and I learned White women lie and always wear black cocks

 

[cuckbyeverygf]

I mean as a black woman I say do you, but at the same time they are right whomever told u this.. it actually make sense, we’ll depending on the individual… if it’s a white woman that really cares about you that really consider u as an friend who does things with u n for u n it’s not all about sex then that’s a genuine person that genuinely likes u .. but if all they want to do is use you for your bbc then yes they are using you… but only u can answer that question , u kno who really fucks with n who really doesn’t … but if u like being used fuck it do u

You should be mad that these white women use black c***They are horrible. You should, but don't worry. Black men remember white women all the time.

 

[Debman]

I’m having an inner conflict. I grew up in an area where I was subjected to a lot of white woman at an early age. I don’t discriminate or have a particular preference when it comes to race but I do love having sex with white women, I always have a ton of fun with them. I was recently called out for being in chuckhole situations being told that I was allowing myself to be degraded, giving them all the power, and that I was being used as a toy for some else’s pleasure like I was a slave and it made me feel kinda funny. I never felt like I was being used but could I be wrong? Does me enjoying interracial sex with white women make me a traitor to my own race? I’ve been told so many times that being labeled a bull is derogatory and I totally understand how that can be interpreted. Same with QOS. How should I feel about this? And how should I move forward?

I can only speak for me and my wife. We vett our prospective black men (bulls) before we ever agree to become involved. Our motto has always been to respect and appreciate the man that gives my wife extreme pleasure. You are a man first and a bull second in our eyes. We want to make friends otherwise it does not seem real. When we go looking for a man to play we always think of him as an equal and not someone who we can manipulate. Thank you for being you. Long and strong, I agree. You likely can give a great deal of pleasure to your white women with the tool you are packing! Stay safe.

 

[hw mass cpl]

I’m having an inner conflict. I grew up in an area where I was subjected to a lot of white woman at an early age. I don’t discriminate or have a particular preference when it comes to race but I do love having sex with white women, I always have a ton of fun with them. I was recently called out for being in chuckhole situations being told that I was allowing myself to be degraded, giving them all the power, and that I was being used as a toy for some else’s pleasure like I was a slave and it made me feel kinda funny. I never felt like I was being used but could I be wrong? Does me enjoying interracial sex with white women make me a traitor to my own race? I’ve been told so many times that being labeled a bull is derogatory and I totally understand how that can be interpreted. Same with QOS. How should I feel about this? And how should I move forward?

Don’t fear the labels

 

[JJSMITHY54321]

I’ve been told so many times that being labeled a bull is derogatory

My wife's Bull does not find the term derogatory. If he was labeled a "stud" he will also like it. I guess it is in the context it is used it. If being a Bull means you're a strong, confident, hung black man who can satisfy women, it's a compliment.
My wife loves sex, and loves sex with black men. Their relationship is "friends with benefits" with mutual respect for each other.

 

[FloydBW]

I’m having an inner conflict. I grew up in an area where I was subjected to a lot of white woman at an early age. I don’t discriminate or have a particular preference when it comes to race but I do love having sex with white women, I always have a ton of fun with them. I was recently called out for being in chuckhole situations being told that I was allowing myself to be degraded, giving them all the power, and that I was being used as a toy for some else’s pleasure like I was a slave and it made me feel kinda funny. I never felt like I was being used but could I be wrong? Does me enjoying interracial sex with white women make me a traitor to my own race? I’ve been told so many times that being labeled a bull is derogatory and I totally understand how that can be interpreted. Same with QOS. How should I feel about this? And how should I move forward?

Whatever your inner conflict you need to digest the following:

""What many Blackmen don't understand is that "BBC is the fetish!" his penis becomes the magical object, NOT HIM. Thus the cuckold buys his object and uses it to please his wife; solving his small dick problem. < hehe "same same but different" they say in Thailand> - oh and don't forget , the boi wants a crack of that BBC himself .. yuk splutter splutter!""

 

[FloydBW]

I'm a white female that prefers men of a darker persuasion. It my choice of men, it's not a fetish or a kink. However, the people on here and their perversion is more on the racist side. They of course don't see it, but it's very much a white man controlling his perversion due to his inadequacies and what a better race then his arch nemesis... the black man. So in a sense you're partaking in this disfunction, but you're getting your rocks off, sooo it's a double edge sword if you ask me with this lifestyle.

perfectly said baby

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

perfectly said baby

No it isn't (because the reasons and people in this lifestyle are plentyful). What you see that you derive your opinion from is probably the case of a sex tourist with an "imperialistic" mindset. But that's not the typical wifesharing (no matter "hotwifing", "cuckolding" or plain "swinging") couple. - just sayin'

 

[Nobullshit]

I'm a white female that prefers men of a darker persuasion. It my choice of men, it's not a fetish or a kink. However, the people on here and their perversion is more on the racist side. They of course don't see it, but it's very much a white man controlling his perversion due to his inadequacies and what a better race then his arch nemesis... the black man. So in a sense you're partaking in this disfunction, but you're getting your rocks off, sooo it's a double edge sword if you ask me with this lifestyle.

I’m having an inner conflict. I grew up in an area where I was subjected to a lot of white woman at an early age. I don’t discriminate or have a particular preference when it comes to race but I do love having sex with white women, I always have a ton of fun with them. I was recently called out for being in chuckhole situations being told that I was allowing myself to be degraded, giving them all the power, and that I was being used as a toy for some else’s pleasure like I was a slave and it made me feel kinda funny. I never felt like I was being used but could I be wrong? Does me enjoying interracial sex with white women make me a traitor to my own race? I’ve been told so many times that being labeled a bull is derogatory and I totally understand how that can be interpreted. Same with QOS. How should I feel about this? And how should I move forward?

You're taking this way to serious!! White Guys/Asian Woman, Mature Man/ Younger Woman, White Woman/Black Man. You get where I'm going here? Some will always have a comment. The problem here is the History of Racism the we all have absorbed through our experience. We seem to question anything and everything about race( good or bad).I'm alway up for a little degradation in bed( me talking ******* ). There's a lot of things to be concerned about. This my friend, is not one of them! When she's on her knees looking up at you just wink and say that's exactly where you belong . Just kidding, not really

 

[just_jenna]

You're taking this way to serious!! White Guys/Asian Woman, Mature Man/ Younger Woman, White Woman/Black Man. You get where I'm going here? Some will always have a comment. The problem here is the History of Racism the we all have absorbed through our experience. We seem to question anything and everything about race( good or bad).I'm alway up for a little degradation in bed( me talking ******* ). There's a lot of things to be concerned about. This my friend, is not one of them! When she's on her knees looking up at you just wink and say that's exactly where you belong . Just kidding, not really

Ohhh... look at me, I only make sense for myself, than laugh at my own jokes...wait what pull my finger...

 

[just_jenna]

No it isn't (because the reasons and people in this lifestyle are plentyful). What you see that you derive your opinion from is probably the case of a sex tourist with an "imperialistic" mindset. But that's not the typical wifesharing (no matter "hotwifing", "cuckolding" or plain "swinging") couple. - just sayin'

Sometimes I think you need to grow up.

 

[Nobullshit]

Ohhh... look at me, I only make sense for myself, than laugh at my own jokes...wait what pull my finger...

Awwww. So sorry it wasn't to you liking.