My fetlife page:
fetlife.com
I limit my friendships to those who I have personally met or are based in NYC or a nearby state. I will make exceptions to those who are into travelling to meet.
I do this in order to keep my contacts confined to people in which I can potentially have some real face to face interaction, plus also keep the dreamers and fantasy folk at a distance.
The point is to interact with those who are for real and accessible as opposed to being into BS or playing the fool.
I don’t have to tell you this, but there are a lot of fakes and time wasters online. My point is to avoid all such people and give attention to those who are serious about their kink interest(s).
I am never in any rush to get into this and for your safety and in order to make sure you get the maximum results from this situation, you shouldn’t be either.
After initial online contact, I encourage us to meet at a public place(s) for as many times as you’d like or until we feel comfortable about potentially pursing this further or not.
I go to munches, meetups in the city (it’s usually at a nice pub or bar) where open minded and likeminded people chat, become better acquainted, develop friendships, etc. while discussing our interest over a ******* or meal.