“By the end of the seventies the feared yet desired black male body had become as objectified as it was during slavery, only a seemingly positive twist had been added to the racist sexist objectification: the black male body had become the site for the personification of everyone’s desire.”
―Bell Hooks. We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity.
The sexual life of some type of people follows unavoidable milestones that always lead to the same end. In B2W, I have recently talked with a 32 years old Spaniard with a well-endowed black friend who has some kind of sexual chemistry with his girlfriend. Nothing had happened yet and problably never will, but the Spaniard had a lot of fantasies about his beloved partner having sex with the black guy. As usually, he asked for “tricks” to make it happen. At the end of the conversation, he confessed having awkward problems of erection during sex if he didn’t imagine his black mate fucking her girlfriend. In their last intercourse she had to masturbate him and he only reached the orgasm when they started to talk about his friend’s BBC. He was really concerned about this.
In a private conversation,
@Jamspliff confirmed me this reality. Although he does not have symptoms of erectile dysfunction without imagining his wife with a black man, erections become firmer and his orgasms more intense as they add in their marital sex some dynamics and sexual toys that allude verbally or symbolically to a ‘black Master.’ We had a long and insightful conversation on this topic.
Many times I have written about the BBC obsession, a white fetish that some people consider a way to deshumanize black men. But in the IR sex lifestyle objectification/fetishization are mutual. Sexual attraction to others is not based only in our individual selves, but in group identities (race, age, social class) and specific physical features. Many times I have been called MILF or Queen of Spades and I clearly perceived the stereotypically associated expectations to those labels. I don’t believe in the existence of a direct relationship between fetishizing the black masculinity and racism. Fetishes are a part of our culture, shared by a lot of people with very different ideologies and life experiences. Every person integrates this fetish into his own political views and mindset.
I have been reflecting about the power that black male has achieved over the sexuality of many white men, to the point of these individuals being unable to reach an erection if they do not imagine their wives being used or abused by a well-endowed dominant black man. If they materialize this fantasy, it becomes an addiction or a sine qua nom to reach high levels of excitement. Erectile dysfunction could accompany them for life.
This process is related to the Pavlov and Skinner’s ‘classical conditioning’: associating a concrete behaviour with certain reward. The subconscious of the cuckold who masturbates watching or imagining his wife/girlfriend with a black man ends up relating sexual pleasure and this emotional turmoil with such 'forbidden' act. With the time, the so-called 'reward center' of the brain demands increasingly extreme stimuli to get the same levels of arousal. The constant need of novelties is a common feature in kinksters.
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Two phenomena related to new technologies are radically changing our sexuality. One of them is the growing popularity of location-based social search mobile apps as dating sites. Tinder and OkCupid make every attractive man on it considerably more accessible to every woman in a wide social and geographical sphere. So women have raised their standards accordingly. According to the data
“the bottom 80% of men (in terms of attractiveness) are competing for the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men”.
Another study concluded that 240 of the 300 women get sex through Tinder but only less than 50 of the 300 men do. A survey at the University of North Texas found that men who used Tinder are more likely to have lower self-esteem than males who don't use dating-apps. A study on OkCupid showed that women find 80% of the men unattractive. The number of women cheating documented through several researches is also dramatically increasing. The cheating mostly happen at work with a superior figure but also through the Internet.
This phenomenom, known as ‘hypergamy’, shouldn't exist in a modern, feminist society. But it seems it is almost impossible to change evolutionary biology. The wealthiest and most intellectual men have much to offer for a formal relationship, but a sexually liberated society makes difficult for average men to be considered a serious sex choice: most guys are simply not interesting enough for women.
The second technological factor is - using Jamspliff’s words - that “unfettered round-the-clock access to porn creates a deep rabbit hole where increasingly extreme or taboo content is sought”. Sex education is still scarce and many teenagers are using porn to 'learn' about sex, and interracial porn (white woman – black man) is a growing phenomenom. Contrary to what is often said, it is not the most popular genre. But it is shaping sexual identities and reinforcing the racial alpha/beta stereotypes. The losers of the game of seduction from the digital era are increasingly embracing masturbation as a substitute of actual sex, while women have an easy access to high quality sex partners through phone apps and dating websites. In this small number of alpha males who take advantage of this situation, black men are demographicly overrepresented.
The fascination for interracial sex (namely, the natural place of the white woman under the black man) is quite logical, since it is a primal form of eroticism. The contrast between femininity and masculinity, whiteness and blackness, submission and dominance... If a white woman gets hooked to this alchemy, she will look for a dominant and well-endowed black man; if a black man likes by this type of sex, he will look for a (submissive) white woman. But a white man who loves interracial sex can't be an actor in this drama. He is condemned to be an abashed witness, offering his wife/girlfriend to a sexually superior black male.
The foundations of human relations are hierarchies in which there is a primary recognition of males who exercise a dominant or submissive role. When a wife discovers that her husband's erections are conditioned by his fantasies about a black phallus, this may lead to the acknowledgment of black men as alphas in an abstract form.
Black sexual superiority is not a matter of cock inches. The true power is the need of some white men to imagine a black cock taking possesion of their wives/girlfriends to get an erection, without having to do anything. A fascination who may lead a white man to offer his beloved better-half to a black male, embracing a process whose outcome could potentially ruin his manhood. For many cultural and biological reasons, this is a power they hold today.
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thank you very much for your writing and the beauty of your soul
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