Is it socially acceptable to be a real man, and still enjoy watching your wife in action?

[Dan&Debbie]

Mine is 100% type A male. Most of what is on this and similar sites isn't what we've seen in real life. But this is interesting to browse thru.

I sure hope so.

 

[Dan&Debbie]

First off, fuck society and it's views of anybody that wants to enjoy consenting adult fun in their bedrooms. Second, to each their own because somebody somewhere doesn't get a man wanting his wife to fuck another guy period. If we're just here to judge we're all fucked and doing something wrong.

In short, enjoy your kinks and let others enjoy their. At the end of the day, it's the couples or adults playing together that count.

I kind of botched my question. I wasn't talking about society in general, I was talking about this site.

 

[Dan&Debbie]

My husband has watched me having sex with two black guys so far. But he's a great lover in bed and well endowed. He's successful in his professional life and many colleagues consider him to be a tough player. And he's good at showing he's got the power to decide. Now your original question is whether both things are socially acceptable? The direct answer would be no. And that's why we keep it carefully secret.
Now, in regards to humiliation that depends on the point of view. He understand the nature and rules of this experience. bulls may see him as weak and getting humiliated by what I do with them. I don't see him that way.
What we do in the lifestyle is for fun. But he keeps control on me and who I meet. The moment any of my 'bulls' does a wrong movement that one is out.

I wish I would have worded the question differently. I wasn't talking about society in general, I was talking about this site. Sorry for the confusion. And yes, I get that it needs to be kept a secret, no matter what your level is. Most people just don't get it, and it's not something that can be explained.

So I guess what I should of asked was: Do you have to be in a cock cage and wear panties to fit in to this site?
So I'm glad this question has drawn out some of the Alpha males.

 

[GiselaHoll]

So I'm glad this question has drawn out some of the Alpha males.

Mmmh, he does wear a cock cage as part of the game. But not for humiliation. Just to avoid involuntary ejaculations on certain occasions. He wouldn't wear panties, though

 

[Dan&Debbie]

It's our private life, so you are mixing things up here. My hubby is very much a real man in public

Yeah, I messed the question up when I made it. I meant in the cuckold world. I don't think a guy has to wear panties, to enjoy seeing his wife with another man.
I think most all guys fantasize about it, and surely most all guys like porn.
So if you can handle the jealousy aspect, it's amazing. I'm just not going to treated like a dog, in front of her bull. Again, I'm not passing judgement, if that's what floats your goat, then go for it. I just wish there was more of a cuck/stag balance on this site. I think there's room for all of us.

 

[Dan&Debbie]

Mmmh, he does wear a cock cage as part of the game. But not for humiliation. Just to avoid involuntary ejaculations on certain occasions. He wouldn't wear panties, though

I'm not against that in any way. But now someone is going to say:

*Just one cage? You're lucky, my wife makes me wear two.
* I hope your cage isn't made of barbed wire like mine is.
* It was so embarrassing when my wife called a welder to come over and weld mine shut.

 

[Mywifelovesthis]

Yes. Who cares about labels. If you enjoy this lifestyle go for it.

 

[Charrosexy]

Of course it´s acceptable...besides who cares about what society thinks...to each its own!

 

[poundcake26]

Martin: My wife almost never let's me fuck her. Maybe once a month if I'm lucky.
Barry: My wife has had me kept in a cage for five years, you're lucky.
Tom: My wife cut my dick off and fed it to the dog. You guys are both lucky.

Pete: You guys are all lucky. We don't even own a dog!

You guys are funny. It's appreciated!

 

[Dan&Debbie]

Yes. Who cares about labels. If you enjoy this lifestyle go for it.

I'm terrible when it comes to asking questions. I can see now how I messed it up. What I meant, was:

I really believe that 90% of all guys, secretly fantasize about their wives/girlfriends fucking other guys. And most of them struggle with just the thought of it, let alone admitting it to someone else.

So it's just so sad that something guys really do want, they can't have. They can, but it's not worth the price to them of being labeled a, cuckold. I personally hate that term, but it is what it is. I'm glad the word, stag, came around. I have nothing against cuckolds who crave humiliation, but I just wish more people understood that that's not what we all want. I'd rather that the term, cuckold, didn't conjure up an image of a husband wearing frilly panties, and sitting in the corner of the room, waiting for their marching orders.

When I was in high school, us guys did plenty of MFM threesomes. And we all thought of each other as being, Macho, for doing them. But the key was, it had to be with a slut that we didn't care about. God forbid we did this with our actual, girlfriend, then we'd be considered, wimps.

And it's not just about what the other guys would think about you, it's also what women would think about you. If you tell your wife that you want her to fuck other guys, you run the risk of her losing respect for you, because you aren't a "real" man. Nothing could be farther from the truth. So, for me, I just wish this sport wasn't portrayed so much as a sport for sissy bois. (I have nothing against those guys)

I'm still not sure I'm explaining myself very well, but I'm doing my best.

So this would be MY perfect world:

Tom: How was your weekend?
Steve: It was great. We had a BBQ and a few of the boys came over. We ate and sucked down some beer. And Cheryl was wearing a tiny bikini, and the boys couldn't keep their hands off her. I loved it.
Tom: Did anything happen?
Steve: Well, Bob stayed over when the rest of the guys left. He put Cheryl up on top of the picnic table, and ate her pussy real good, and then fucked the ******* out of her.
Tom: Holy *******! I'd ******* to have a wife like yours!

But in the real world:

Tom: How was your weekend?
Steve: Good. Bob and I had a threesome with Cheryl.
Tom: Really?! I didn't know you were gay.

 

[poundcake26]

But in the real world:

Tom: How was your weekend?
Steve: Good. Bob and I had a threesome with Cheryl.
Tom: Really?! I didn't know you were gay.

Edit...

But in the real world:

Tom: How was your weekend?
Steve: Good. Bob and I had a threesome with Cheryl.
Tom: Really?! I didn't know you were into rollerblading?

 

[Dan&Debbie]

Is it socially acceptable for anyone to watch someone fuck their spouse? No, of course not. As far as the lifestyle aspect is concerned, which seems to be the more direct nature of your question, yes. We believe it is.

People are dynamic. Who they are in the "real world" very often has nothing to do with their sexual persona. Outside of the bedroom, hubby is a 6'5" bearded burly alpha type; physically imposing, witty, and outgoing. A former football player and nightclub bouncer who enjoys playing with chainsaws, shooting guns, and doing all sorts of other stereotypical "manly" stuff. Sexually, though, it's a complete 180 degree departure from that.

Society doesn't separate sexuality from masculinity; in all reality, the two often have nothing to do with one another.

Yes, I botched my question up. When I said, "Socially acceptable," I meant on THIS site, not out in the real world. Sorry for the confusion.

 

[poundcake26]

Yes, I botched my question up. When I said, "Socially acceptable," I meant on THIS site, not out in the real world. Sorry for the confusion.

That's what you get for stirring the pot with intellectual discourse. Don't let it happen again!

 

[Dan&Debbie]

Pete: You guys are all lucky. We don't even own a dog!

You guys are funny. It's appreciated!

Larry: I sure envy you guys, you're all so lucky. My wife cut my dick off, fed it to my dog, then sold my dog on Craigslist. God, I really wish I could have my dog, back.

 

[cuck4Beth]

Mostly what I see is guys trying to out-cuck each other.

Bob: My wife has four regular bulls.
Steve: My wife has 14
Larry: My wife has 136

Martin: My wife almost never let's me fuck her. Maybe once a month if I'm lucky.
Barry: My wife has had me kept in a cage for five years, you're lucky.
Tom: My wife cut my dick off and fed it to the dog. You guys are both lucky.

I read a post on here where the "wife" said she was going to move her husband into the shed out back, and move her black bull into the house. Really? I believe in all my heart that 90% of married guys fantasize about seeing their wives with other men. I just wonder how many guys fantasize about living out in the shed, next to the lawnmower?

I got a good laugh from your post and you see that a lot here, mostly from those who are fantasizing about the lifestyle, not living it.

We have always approach our 'swinging' as a game and we have played-out some pretty wild fantasies. We have a special approach wherein we both have our sexual names, mine Francis wife's Beth. It is really funny when we accidentally use those names in front of family. They say we are crazy people...if they only knew! When we escape into our sexual persona we are a slut/whore couple both addicted to BBC, totally submissive. Our black boyfriend comes here and lives-out his fantasy of owning a white couple; everyone wins! Don't mistake sex play for how we, and others like us, are in the rest of our lives. When we come back to the real world, we are that traditional, loving couple with responsibility.

I am a business exec with a lot of responsibility; in my sex world I escape that! And sometimes the play part does carry over but for other reasons. Before my wife became black-only, I had a heart-attack, and with the ******* needed to help me, I started struggling with E.D. Sex was less then rewarding for either of us and it was putting stress on me. When Beth announced that her pussy is black-only, I was relieved, so we played that angle into our regular marriage, but in reality it helped me by no longer living that frustration.

 

[jdflacpl]

I consider myself a real man, and all of the guys my wife has fucked have never treated like i wasn't. No one knows of this side of our life other than 2 of my friends that i shared her with a very long time ago and one of those knows that we have been into the BBC

 

[Dan&Debbie]

I got a good laugh from your post and you see that a lot here, mostly from those who are fantasizing about the lifestyle, not living it.

We have always approach our 'swinging' as a game and we have played-out some pretty wild fantasies. We have a special approach wherein we both have our sexual names, mine Francis wife's Beth. It is really funny when we accidentally use those names in front of family. They say we are crazy people...if they only knew! When we escape into our sexual persona we are a slut/whore couple both addicted to BBC, totally submissive. Our black boyfriend comes here and lives-out his fantasy of owning a white couple; everyone wins! Don't mistake sex play for how we, and others like us, are in the rest of our lives. When we come back to the real world, we are that traditional, loving couple with responsibility.

I am a business exec with a lot of responsibility; in my sex world I escape that! And sometimes the play part does carry over but for other reasons. Before my wife became black-only, I had a heart-attack, and with the ******* needed to help me, I started struggling with E.D. Sex was less then rewarding for either of us and it was putting stress on me. When Beth announced that her pussy is black-only, I was relieved, so we played that angle into our regular marriage, but in reality it helped me by no longer living that frustration.

Sounds like you guys got a great thing going on. Good for you. And I'm glad you guys can separate it out into two separate things. And I get the whole submissive thing, but some of the things I read on here are just so over-the-top. lol

*My wife fucked her black love without a condom last night
*My wife only makes me wear a condom. Her bulls are free to cum in her anytime they want.
*My wife's bull got her pregnant
*My wife and I have 4 black babies, and we're trying for a 5th.

That was my meaning when I asked this question.

 

[poundcake26]

Sounds like you guys got a great thing going on. Good for you. And I'm glad you guys can separate it out into two separate things. And I get the whole submissive thing, but some of the things I read on here are just so over-the-top. lol

*My wife fucked her black love without a condom last night
*My wife only makes me wear a condom. Her bulls are free to cum in her anytime they want.
*My wife's bull got her pregnant
*My wife and I have 4 black babies, and we're trying for a 5th.

That was my meaning when I asked this question.

It's a slippery slope. Pun 100% intended.

 

[Dan&Debbie]

I consider myself a real man, and all of the guys my wife has fucked have never treated like i wasn't. No one knows of this side of our life other than 2 of my friends that i shared her with a very long time ago and one of those knows that we have been into the BBC

That's music to my ears. Thank you.

 

[extrafun]

I am am alpha man and a leader in all aspects of my life. I in no way feel humiliated when my wife plays. I see it as her and her male toy performing for me.

Exactly how i feel