If you have to justify it, it’s because you gotta convince yourself. IMO and to each their own, sexual desire and satisfaction are one and the same. I ain’t no psychologist, but c’mon, stop trying to convince yourself. If you, a man desire a man to satisfy you sexually regardless of the points of control or submission, just know that is a ‘same sex or gender desire’, which is not a speed that is driven in the heterosexual lane. Try to ‘justify’, ‘normalize’ and ‘philosophy’ it all you want, but come to terms with your own sexuality and stop trying to convince others that an act or behavior ain’t what it really is. It is what it is. Choose not to label it, fine. But it is what it is homie. And many of us ain’t with that.
Now, ladies holla at me. Men, do you. Just stay in your colorful lane of choice.