This is to explain or clarify some details that may have been better described as well as a thing or two that I've recently been set straight on. I apologize that this is not in any particular order. I'm just trying to get it down for anyone who's trying to read and understand what I've said on this thread and possibly some of what Lisa contributed,although I think she was probably more concise than I've been. I'll try to remember to use quotations when appropriate. There will be some from Lisa and Jody.
First,because it's recent and at top of mind for me. Jody's okay with Jody again. She hoped that after Leaving her longtime home that she might be able to use her given name,but it didn't work out as she hoped. Introducing her as Joanna resulted in more people calling her Jo,which she can't tolerate. "Jody's fine. I'm used to it. Most people won't bother to pronounce three syllable names,and I fuck'n hate being called Jo. It's like a tomboy name and I'm not a tomboy. At least Jody,while not my real name,sounds more feminine than Jo." Okay. Now that we got that straight.
The next item started as a result of a conversation between Jody and me,went to Lisa,then resulted in Lisa setting me straight. "At this point in my life,I'm definitely a PAWG in virtually all black men's opinions,which are the opinions that matter. I'm certain that's where the term originated,so they should know who it applies to. If I'm borderline anything,I'm borderline thick. I've always tried to stay in the best shape I can be in and I am. I'm healthy and my muscle tone is good. I'm tight,but I'm bigger than I was a while back. It was always going to be. You never saw pictures of my mom,did you? My legs are short and bigger than ever. My tits,which were always big,are bigger than ever and so is my ass. I'm all tits and ass,which I'm told isn't a bad thing. Sure,Jody and I wear a lot of each other's clothes,but they don't fit us the same. You're right about Jody being a borderline PAWG. The girl's got a great ass on her,but if you'll notice,clothes that fit her perfectly are tighter on me. It works out pretty good,because I like mine to fit tighter than she does. If I'm kinda spilling over some of my clothes,it's intentional. That crap about women dressing for other women is stupid. Who does that? I certainly don't. I dress to please myself and 99% of my consideration is what I think black men will like. It's not like I don't give you any consideration. The more attention I get from black men,the better you like it,and you know it."
A friend recently mentioned Bonnie,who I think of often. The comparison was the relationship between,Bonnie,Lisa,and myself compared to that of Jody,Lisa and me. There are more differences than similarities. Lisa and Bonnie were much closer in age,and they were lovers. Lisa could bring Bonnie to orgasm faster and more intensely than almost any man could. There's a big difference in Lisa and Jody's ages as well as their relationships. It's more of an older sister,younger sister relationship.
As for me,older men aren't immune from infatuations. I'm right there with Jody,but realistically,our relationship needs to be a bridge from a less than desirable phase in Jody's life to something better. So far,it seems to be and I hope that's how it will be in the long run. I'm enjoying every minute with her and trying to be a positive influence. She knows what she doesn't want and she's in kind of a holding pattern,exploring new avenues and indulging in some long-denied lustful delights.
I'm trying to remember if there's anything I meant to cover and left out. I can't think of anything,except that I should thank everyone for all of the likes and follows. I'm often in too much of a hurry to do that and I know I should.