Hotwife may describe some of us better

[Funmainecouple]

You know, it's interesting. In all aspects of my life I encounter people who have gone through a divorces, work, gym, family etc. But I will say, over the half dozen years or so that we've been in the lifestyle - and for us that encompasses everything from swinging, to bdsm play, to the dynamic we are exploring here - I can't think of an example where a married couple divorced. Coincidence? I wonder if that's been studied?

 

[kinkygent69]

You know, it's interesting. In all aspects of my life I encounter people who have gone through a divorces, work, gym, family etc. But I will say, over the half dozen years or so that we've been in the lifestyle - and for us that encompasses everything from swinging, to bdsm play, to the dynamic we are exploring here - I can't think of an example where a married couple divorced. Coincidence? I wonder if that's been studied?

Since we started indulging in the IR LS 6 years ago. We have realized this is the LS for us as well. It works amazingly well for us too. Its been 6 years since we attending a "swinging" LS party. The IR and BDSM LS's is what we prefer now. We had been swingers prior to getting involved with the IR LS. Its nice to see others enjoying it as well!

 

[design82]

I think the vast majority of husbands on this site would identify as Stags, clearly heterosexual, clearly masculine, just want to see their wife pleasured by a well endowed black man. It’s just that simple. I have no interest in pleasuring another man and I have no interest in being shamed or insulted by a bull or my wife. I just love her more than anything in the whole world and want to see her experience the best of everything, especially sex.

.....couldn't have said it ANY better myself.............EXACTEMENT!!!!

 

[txcouple4]

I think the vast majority of husbands on this site would identify as Stags, clearly heterosexual, clearly masculine, just want to see their wife pleasured by a well endowed black man. It’s just that simple. I have no interest in pleasuring another man and I have no interest in being shamed or insulted by a bull or my wife. I just love her more than anything in the whole world and want to see her experience the best of everything, especially sex.

Totally agreed!

 

[HotwifeofOhio]

Jeez, let me just put it out there... there is nothing beta about me (hub). I'm decently hung myself . I've been with more than 200 beautiful women over 30 years of adulthood; I am very confident. I love that my wife loves BBC, and this is a fun ride, but I'm very sure she enjoys me every bit as much if not more than any one else. So I guess what I'm asking is, in this context, where we are just out having some kinky fun, can't we distinguish ourselves from the beta male, cuckold thing?

I would consider you swingers then. Being a swinger does not mean "both parties" have to play. No need to add Hotwife, Cuckold, Stag or Vixen. Just simply swingers.
Nothing wrong with that.

 

[Elelator_Cpl]

Didn't read all three pages of replies, but we agree that labels are just that... and people and their preferences vary across the spectrum.

But in a very generalized sense, the "cuckold" aspect often includes some degree of humiliation, degradation or perhaps submission which we really aren't into, although we can understand this may be fun for others, and that's fine and we're not judging It's just not our thing.

The "hotwife" label seems to instead focus more on equally sharing without the "cuckold" aspects, so that would probably describe us more.

 

[HotwifeofOhio]

Didn't read all three pages of replies, but we agree that labels are just that... and people and their preferences vary across the spectrum.

But in a very generalized sense, the "cuckold" aspect often includes some degree of humiliation, degradation or perhaps submission which we really aren't into, although we can understand this may be fun for others, and that's fine and we're not judging It's just not our thing.

The "hotwife" label seems to instead focus more on sharing without the "cuckold" aspects, so that would probably describe us more.

Agree with "cuckold" but a "Hotwife" label is more for the lady that plays alone.
Swingers are a couple that plays together.

 

[Elelator_Cpl]

Agree with "cuckold" but a "Hotwife" label is more for the lady that plays alone.
Swingers are a couple that plays together.

Hrmm, maybe. We can never keep it straight as these labels seem to be a moving target! We are definitely swingers though

We just know we're not into the humiliation or "ownership" perspectives of some of the classifications.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Stag without a Vixen. :|

 

[purple12]

some really good posts on here , my husband and I have a fantastic intense loving sex life , married 11 years he is my soul mate , I would never consider having a relationship out side our marriage with out us both experiencing new partners together , whether in a MFF or MMF as long as its respectful and we play together I have always been bi curious my husband is most definitely heterosexual straight but really relaxing and charming , he knows exactly how to bring me to the point of ******* and loves experimenting . sometimes it drives me crazy bringing me to the point ...then teasing ... I always get my own back , we are not in to cuckolding or humiliation but its cool if its other peoples cup of tea just not for us . We were watching a porn movie one night & I was really turned on watching two girls together with a guy it got me really worked up I really wanted to experiment but also wanted to watch my husband teasing another girl, bringing her to the point of orgasm . so I decided to surprise him on a visit to Sochi , we visited a gentleman's club and I told him it was going to be his birthday surprise to have another girl join us . The girls were amazing , and we both really enjoyed the experience although it was over too quickly , I was really turned on watching him fuck another girl and I loved the experience touching another girl , although I don't think she was really bi , I was longing to make love passionately away from the night club. Then he said it was only fair that I should experience having a guy join us , we both were turned on by interracial porn . so we joined a few swinging sites and eventually after along time communicated with a really cool black guy , We were chatting over Skype when suddenly my husband raised my top and started to massage my nipples , the guy got very aroused and took his cock out , he was well endowed it was very erotic watching this stranger stroking his cock while my husband made me all hot and horny ........
so we arranged to meet , its always a challenge because we have ******* , so had to make arrangements to find baby sitters and the guy was a fair distance away , My husband had bought me some really sexy high heel shoes and sexy stockings , it was a real turn on watching this guy get undressed with my husband with both their cocks standing to attention . I decided to get my own back so performed a sexy strip in front of them . We had agreed before hand to make a movie and take some photos . My husband told me he was really turned on watching this guy rub his cock around my pussy lips .. with me groaning in *******. , I lost count how many orgasms I had over the weekend , but it was a fantastic experience.
So that was our two encounters so far , now we would both love to meet a sexy interracial couple for a foursome , I would really love to experience a petite bi girl someone like an Ivana Sugar look alike and another black guy , ideally for a week end break , where we could have sex outside as well . With my husbands work commitments overseas now that's going to be around October ...we will keep searching thanks

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