When that imaginary line separating sex from love is so thin, it's not rare to fine oneself in contradiction to one's feelings. That is when you know and feel where your heart is and still you succumb to the attraction to another person. Or when you think that sex is one of the foundations of marriage.I like this answer, it makes me think of us in a lot of ways. Since we've talked about it we know to be aware of feelings that can come up and to manage them in their proper context. Just because my wife might feel a certain way in bed with a black man does not mean she would want to share her other emotions with him. Albeit those bedroom emotions might be so intense that she has no room left for other emotions.