Here’s the issue with this. Many ≠ All. Occasionally, when a black man like I joins a book club there will be a few women here and there looking for a fling, but you also have to realize that many white women feel threatened by black men, while we do have the stereotype of having giant dicks attached to us, we are also branded with the stereotype of ******* and/or assaulting older women, specifically white women (see birth of a nation). So coming into a predominantly white and female bookclub alone doesn’t look good on us, and it’ll be even worse if we initiate something and the person isn’t into it. You can’t be into this kink and also be so ignorant.