That is a person by person basis. In the sense of cuckolding it is pretty common for the husband or cuck to be there. Now if you are just hotwifing, I guess it can be a verb, that is not always the case as many play alone or are taking advantage of their spouses absence. All in all though each person or couple will have their own conditions in regards to attendance.
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I'm with you girl. 6 ft to ride this ride.
My husband isn't a cuck so I can't answer that.
As a Hotwife I play alone.
Sex without a 3rd sitting and watching is so much better. The BBC I'm with performs much better when they aren't worried about my husband sitting there.
What is the hottest thing a BBC bull can say in your ear during sex?
Forcucksake
Male
I have a question for hotwives, firstly- I like this thread, it’s nice to be able to speak with genuine wives who are into the lifestyle,
Secondly: Were you into or aware of the Hotwife/cuckold lifestyle before you met your husband? And if you weren’t, and it was him who raised the conversation first, how long did it take you to finally take the plunge and start seeing other guys?
Basically I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 and a half years now, I’m 24 and she’s 22, I’ve spoken to her about wanting to watch her go black and also how I’d love it if she went out more, flirted with other men, maybe even told a few of her friends about the whole chastity cage and everything, generally I’m much more kinky and have a much more colourful imagination, in the nicest way possible she is pretty vanilla.
We don’t have a lot of sex as it is, maybe that’s just the way relationships go, so if she did end up meeting a bull who fucks her six ways from Sunday and didn’t bother with me so much it really wouldn’t make a difference to me personally, if anything I’d be happy she’s getting sex on her terms.
I have read the thread on how to get her to cuckold me but that is much easier said than done. I do feel stuck sometimes because one the one hand she’s a nice person to be with, we get on well, have a laugh and obviously we’ve been together for a fairly long time but on the other hand if she isn’t prepared to at least try to be a bit adventurous is it on me, then, to suppress any kinks or fantasies I have until the day I die just in case I annoy her?
The last time we had any real conversation was December 2016 and I feel like I pressed a bit too much and annoyed her a bit so I’ve left it since then. The patient side of me thinks “right, she knows I want it to happen, maybe she will come around to the idea at some point, some guys have waited for 10 years before their wife went for it” the impatient side of me thinks “what if it will never happen, should I find someone who actually likes the lifestyle?”
Obviously we’re both still quite young but that’s more of a reason for me to want to explore fantasies properly.
Apologies for the essay but I’m interested to hear from other wives about it
Cheers!
Secondly: Were you into or aware of the Hotwife/cuckold lifestyle before you met your husband? And if you weren’t, and it was him who raised the conversation first, how long did it take you to finally take the plunge and start seeing other guys?
Basically I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 and a half years now, I’m 24 and she’s 22, I’ve spoken to her about wanting to watch her go black and also how I’d love it if she went out more, flirted with other men, maybe even told a few of her friends about the whole chastity cage and everything, generally I’m much more kinky and have a much more colourful imagination, in the nicest way possible she is pretty vanilla.
We don’t have a lot of sex as it is, maybe that’s just the way relationships go, so if she did end up meeting a bull who fucks her six ways from Sunday and didn’t bother with me so much it really wouldn’t make a difference to me personally, if anything I’d be happy she’s getting sex on her terms.
I have read the thread on how to get her to cuckold me but that is much easier said than done. I do feel stuck sometimes because one the one hand she’s a nice person to be with, we get on well, have a laugh and obviously we’ve been together for a fairly long time but on the other hand if she isn’t prepared to at least try to be a bit adventurous is it on me, then, to suppress any kinks or fantasies I have until the day I die just in case I annoy her?
The last time we had any real conversation was December 2016 and I feel like I pressed a bit too much and annoyed her a bit so I’ve left it since then. The patient side of me thinks “right, she knows I want it to happen, maybe she will come around to the idea at some point, some guys have waited for 10 years before their wife went for it” the impatient side of me thinks “what if it will never happen, should I find someone who actually likes the lifestyle?”
Obviously we’re both still quite young but that’s more of a reason for me to want to explore fantasies properly.
Apologies for the essay but I’m interested to hear from other wives about it
Cheers!
Silkysmooth
Male
We can give it a try and see
Exactly what she said. Hubby is not a buck at all and often has his own playthings. While he is present sometimes I would say that 80% of the time I play solo.My husband isn't a cuck so I can't answer that.
As a Hotwife I play alone.
Sex without a 3rd sitting and watching is so much better. The BBC I'm with performs much better when they aren't worried about my husband sitting there.
For me I like dirty talk like being called a slut and such.
Thank you for enjoying the thread and I am glad to see people asking questions and other women in the lifestyle giving great answers and sharing their side.I have a question for hotwives, firstly- I like this thread, it’s nice to be able to speak with genuine wives who are into the lifestyle,
Secondly: Were you into or aware of the Hotwife/cuckold lifestyle before you met your husband? And if you weren’t, and it was him who raised the conversation first, how long did it take you to finally take the plunge and start seeing other guys?
Basically I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 and a half years now, I’m 24 and she’s 22, I’ve spoken to her about wanting to watch her go black and also how I’d love it if she went out more, flirted with other men, maybe even told a few of her friends about the whole chastity cage and everything, generally I’m much more kinky and have a much more colourful imagination, in the nicest way possible she is pretty vanilla.
We don’t have a lot of sex as it is, maybe that’s just the way relationships go, so if she did end up meeting a bull who fucks her six ways from Sunday and didn’t bother with me so much it really wouldn’t make a difference to me personally, if anything I’d be happy she’s getting sex on her terms.
I have read the thread on how to get her to cuckold me but that is much easier said than done. I do feel stuck sometimes because one the one hand she’s a nice person to be with, we get on well, have a laugh and obviously we’ve been together for a fairly long time but on the other hand if she isn’t prepared to at least try to be a bit adventurous is it on me, then, to suppress any kinks or fantasies I have until the day I die just in case I annoy her?
The last time we had any real conversation was December 2016 and I feel like I pressed a bit too much and annoyed her a bit so I’ve left it since then. The patient side of me thinks “right, she knows I want it to happen, maybe she will come around to the idea at some point, some guys have waited for 10 years before their wife went for it” the impatient side of me thinks “what if it will never happen, should I find someone who actually likes the lifestyle?”
Obviously we’re both still quite young but that’s more of a reason for me to want to explore fantasies properly.
Apologies for the essay but I’m interested to hear from other wives about it
Cheers!
For my husband and I it was actually an easy transition as we both had failed at traditional relationships in the past due to our sex drives. So we went into our relationship and marriage knowing what we both wanted and accepting of that. We sat down and talked about the details and what all would need to be done and how things were to be handled so it wasn't just chaos.
In your situation it is going to be tricky if it ever happens and I would like you mention not push. You two are young and it sounds like you have a solid relationship built. Quite honestly she might be perfectly happy with where she is sex and relationship wise. Cuckolding or being a hotwife is not for everyone and it has to be her decision. I am not meaning to scold you but there is an issue out there that men want to see their wives or girlfriends do this and then they push and it can do far more damage than anything good coming from it. Find the line between encouragement and being pushing. I also preach the word threesome. Start there and see if she is open to the idea of a threesome with someone. Chances are if she turns that down she is not wanting to go through with the other stuff and it will give both of you a fair chance to see and feel what it is like to have another person in your sex life. I find it is a lot easier to get done with a threesome that didn't work and recover from that then a failed attempt at cuckolding or getting your partner to cheat.
It was amazingly hot to watch her in a GB!
We are closer now than we were before. And when she says "you're the best fuck ever," I know she has the experience to mean it
That's not been our experience. YMMV
I luv the premise. Definitely worth a follow.
Curious to see how long it will last before guys start posting 'what do you think of my wife?' pics lol
Well hopefully we can avoid that and keep the thread to serving its initial purpose.
Forcucksake
Male
Thank you for your reply!
Fortunately I realised I was probably pushing too much hence why I haven’t spoken to her about it since for at least 6 months and to be honest there are times where I think “I’ll just drop it completely and just not entertain the idea any more and look for a new kink” for me personally if she had a kink or fetish and I just didn’t show any interest in exploring it I’d feel like I was holding her back, even if it personally wasn’t my thing I’d still try it to see what it was like.
For some reason, in my mind, I just struggle to see how when a girl is offered the freedom to have guilt free sex with whoever she wants, whenever she wants it, then go back to a loving boyfriend/husband who isn’t wanting to sleep with other women, she wouldn’t want that, however I do understand it goes against pretty much everything women are taught growing up about being loyal to one person and only ever being with one guy and “cheating” is wrong, but as you rightly said, it’s not for everyone and I can’t expect her to be into the same things I’m into.
I will raise the idea of a threesome with her and gauge the response, hopefully it’s something she may be interested in trying, if not I’ll just have to settle for sex once every 2 months or so!
Thanks again for replying, I do appreciate the feedback
Each person is different and each person has their own reasons, likes, and feelings about sexual choices like this. Hopefully you two find a happy middle ground for both of you and I hope I was of some help.Thank you for your reply!
Fortunately I realised I was probably pushing too much hence why I haven’t spoken to her about it since for at least 6 months and to be honest there are times where I think “I’ll just drop it completely and just not entertain the idea any more and look for a new kink” for me personally if she had a kink or fetish and I just didn’t show any interest in exploring it I’d feel like I was holding her back, even if it personally wasn’t my thing I’d still try it to see what it was like.
For some reason, in my mind, I just struggle to see how when a girl is offered the freedom to have guilt free sex with whoever she wants, whenever she wants it, then go back to a loving boyfriend/husband who isn’t wanting to sleep with other women, she wouldn’t want that, however I do understand it goes against pretty much everything women are taught growing up about being loyal to one person and only ever being with one guy and “cheating” is wrong, but as you rightly said, it’s not for everyone and I can’t expect her to be into the same things I’m into.
I will raise the idea of a threesome with her and gauge the response, hopefully it’s something she may be interested in trying, if not I’ll just have to settle for sex once every 2 months or so!
Thanks again for replying, I do appreciate the feedback
"Take this big Black Cock" is probably my favorite. I love a Black man that talks ******* in bed. Makes me instantly wet.
Definitely taller than me.
I consider this as a couple experience. So, yes. And close to me at all times. Husband wants me to sometimes meet 1-to-1, to see how we both feel and how I behave afterwards. But I share all details with him.
Some do but it is not always the case.
Tinytim2020
Male
Me and my fiancé (been together 7 years) just watched IR porn together for the first time. She seemed to really like it. I know she exclusively fucked/dated black men before me so I’m just wondering how I should continue this trend...cock cage and bbc dildo, penis extender, etc?
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