Are you doing this for you, or for her?

[cuckhold69]

I thin theres alot of sense to that really. Its hard for me as a straight white male to answer the question of " why does seeing your gf doing sexual things with a black man turn you on so much?" with any answer other then "it just does". Ive never bought that cucks and hotwives and swingers were bad or irresponsible people. They're just couples who know how to have excessive adult fun. Without complications.

I think everyone in some way is a dom or sub. Cuckholding is a lifestyle that can cover both of those aspects. Are you a submissive husband with a dominant wife who gets the dick she wants even though its not yours? Are you a dominant wife who gets what she wants from a real man? Are you a dominant husband with a wife so submissive she'll fuck another man for no more then your sexual pleasure? Are you a submissive wife who loves thier husband so much that you'll fuck another man because he wants you too?

Of course there's plenty of people who do not fall solidly into either of these groups but i think everyone falls somewhere between them to some degree.

 

[lisasparrows]

I thin theres alot of sense to that really. Its hard for me as a straight white male to answer the question of " why does seeing your gf doing sexual things with a black man turn you on so much?" with any answer other then "it just does". Ive never bought that cucks and hotwives and swingers were bad or irresponsible people. They're just couples who know how to have excessive adult fun. Without complications.

I think everyone in some way is a dom or sub. Cuckholding is a lifestyle that can cover both of those aspects. Are you a submissive husband with a dominant wife who gets the dick she wants even though its not yours? Are you a dominant wife who gets what she wants from a real man? Are you a dominant husband with a wife so submissive she'll fuck another man for no more then your sexual pleasure? Are you a submissive wife who loves thier husband so much that you'll fuck another man because he wants you too?

Of course there's plenty of people who do not fall solidly into either of these groups but i think everyone falls somewhere between them to some degree.

I like that we can come here and express opinions and ideas, and not feel ashamed about that.
The only negative response I've ever gotten, was when I asked about insecurities. One guy told me to find a new hobby. Really? Gee, thanks. lol

I don't want my husband to be dominant or submissive. I would only hope for two things if we take this plunge
1. When I looked at him he was smiling
2. What I was doing made his dick hard

Of course I would would want to talk to him about it later and ask why he liked it.

Do you know what the perfect answer would be?

"Baby, I have no fucking clue why this turned me on so much. I wish I could explain it, but I just don't have the words."

 

[cuckhold69]

Yeah it sounds like you guys might fall in the in between spots of the relationship. Plus the dom and sub personalities dont have to stay locked. Sometimes you feel like being in control sometimes you feel like being dominated.

Fetishes are usually difficult to apply logic too. Everyone wants what they do for thier own reasons. I feel the intimacy of the situation is often the true goal for most though. Freedom beyond the norm and boundaries pushed within the relationship. I guess in a way intimacy comes in many different forms and each person has a unique feel for it. When my gfs new bull was here for the weekend he couldnt get his head around why i was so okay with my gf sucking him off. It just does something to me that i cant really logic my way through. I loved all the sounds expressions every element of it. Simple as that. I took a submissive role so she could be in control and she had a sexual experience like she never had before. The thought of hungry she was for him still has me just entranced.

 

[PAWG&CubanDom]

Please don't throw out pics of airbrushed 18 year old girls receiving 12 inch cocks.
I really want to see if there is intelligent life on this site.
And if it's just for you, it would be nice to know.
I really would love more sex, but my marriage will always come first.

Both, but every couple is different from other couples and every person in a couple likely gets something different out of it than the other. I like watching my wife enjoy herself, and she likes the experience of someone new. She is also a southern gal, so the taboo is still very much alive there . And taboos increase sex drive IMO

 

[derin jones]

Both. I would like to watch her get fucked by a big bull, like my own personal porn star. I would also like her to.enjoy it, and I know she would. We all would.

 

[3waypleasure]

We are both in it for us. We are both enjoy having hot new partners, which really does keep it hot between us.

Just watching my wife get fucked doesn't do much for me. We both prefer more of a situation where I am actively involved ( DP, Tag team, etc ).

Her wanting different partners also opens the door for me to get some hot new pussy. We try to keep it even, so if she gets different dick, I get different pussy. Win-win for both of us.

 

[taco2310]

We haven't cross that line yet but we are a very solid couple who have been talking about it for a while now. Bringing the fantasy to reality is another step and std, trust and potential impacts on our family and relation are in discussion. We are doing this for both of us, the roleplay is definitly fun for us. Finding the right guy is another step.

Hubby here, we are doing it for both of us, spicing thing's up. In bed we watch IR porn which gets my wife going, nervous in going forward, looking for a gentleman with that can move us to the next level, we look at ourself more of a Stag couple, we are in control.

 

[taco2310]

I like that we can come here and express opinions and ideas, and not feel ashamed about that.
The only negative response I've ever gotten, was when I asked about insecurities. One guy told me to find a new hobby. Really? Gee, thanks. lol

I don't want my husband to be dominant or submissive. I would only hope for two things if we take this plunge
1. When I looked at him he was smiling
2. What I was doing made his dick hard

Of course I would would want to talk to him about it later and ask why he liked it.

Do you know what the perfect answer would be?

"Baby, I have no fucking clue why this turned me on so much. I wish I could explain it, but I just don't have the words."

After thinking about your comment, I would get hard first and than be in a state of shock for a couple of seconds and smile, would want to make her as comfortable and show support while enjoying our fantasy unfold.

 

[JenNWayne]

Her, first and foremost, but definitely both enjoy, in different ways

 

[lisasparrows]

After thinking about your comment, I would get hard first and than be in a state of shock for a couple of seconds and smile, would want to make her as comfortable and show support while enjoying our fantasy unfold.

In the real world, I doubt that the wife would ever stop needing reassurance from her husband. She would need it before, during, and after the event. And a smart husband would have figured that out long before diving into this world.
But the wife has to do the same for hubby. Reaching out for her husband's hand and letting him know that he was right about this stuff all along.

 

[bobbertsmithert]

We started by going to a swinger club just to check it out. It was just about curiosity, and nothing else was suggested by either of us. Nothing happened at the club. (at least not for us) We had great sex that night and we were both very turned on. It's pretty hard to say we didn't like it, when it turned us on. After some time past we tried it. We both liked it.

 

[StewM]

It took me long time to convince my wife to try it. Finally she say she will do me a favor for me. Now she love it.

Trying to get my wife to go black too.

 

[hotwfehub]

For my wife and I this was brought up more for both of us because I wanted it and I know how much she enjoys sex. Once we discussed it became more doing it for myself until it came time to actually pursue and then she realized she enjoyed the attention it brought and then also realized she’s extremely attracted to black men. So once the first experience took place and we discussed it, it was very apparent that we’re both satisfied and happy with her being with others

 

[Pantyhosewife]

I never had to talk Lo into anything. Just talk in bed until we found out we have matching kinks(she's a slut and I like to watch). The only thing I had to convince her was that I was really ok with her actually doing it, she was very worried about ruining our relationship. She decided she prefered black guys and I agreed they tend to be the best show for me so it's all good. She's commited to me and would stop any time I ask, I love her and never make her do anything she doesn't want (which takes a bit of figuring since she is very submissive and likes the sex slave thing).

Same here, I'm kinky and love to watch her suck and fuck other guys and she likes to be a slut (only in the bedroom) and she doesn't want to do anything that would hamr our marriage.

 

[Loridan]

We get with a guy we know semi regularly. It's great fun for all of us.
If I had to measure I'd say my wife is more into it.

 

[PhoenixNRowena]

For us, we're a Stag/Vixen couple. We do it for both of us. Because he enjoys it and because I enjoy it. If my husband didn't enjoy it, it wouldn't be worth it for me, as great as it feels. We do this for both of us and both our enjoyment always.

 

[Jdingo619]

I'm a lifestyle Bull for me because I love dicking women down beyond reason without any drama or attachments but I also love helping lifestyle couple's fulfill their fantasies! So I'm doin me by helping them, does that make sense?

In the lifestyle I get all the pussy I want with zero drama!