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Good start! You can expand the dialogue with questions that are not direct but designed to see what he is OK with and open to. You can ask if he liked the stuff you watched the first time...and if he says yes, ask if he would like to watch something similar. Many men are afraid to ask questions of their wives/GFs regarding sex because they don't want to upset them. I'm betting he will be very excited by YOUR interest and let you lead the way...men often love when the woman is the instigator. As you learn more, you can be more direct..."Would you like to see me do that with a black guy?"...or whatever works for you to push the conversation. Good luck!!So last night based on the advice I got here I very stumbling and awkwardly asked if he ever thought of watching porn together when we were cuddling and kissing some. He got a little awkward and nervous but seemed sort of eager too which was surprising. So we decided to try it together. When we opened pornhub on our TV literally the first video at the top of page was from Blacked so I just told him I'd click on the first thing and I think because we were both nervous he just said sure. We watched the whole thing together, cuddling. I could tell he was hard and I asked him if he wanted to jack off and at first he said he thought that would be weird but I kept encouraging him and he did.
I would never have tried any of that and it was actually an amazing experience so I'm actually hopeful we can go from here!
Perfect. During the talk had you told him your kink?So yesterday he and I were kissing and cuddling a little and he actually asked me if I wanted to watch porn again and I told him I did and that I really liked the experience. So he sort of just went to the first basic clip again which was this time not interracial and I just applied some advice I received here and attempted to sort of demosntrate my lack of interest which I guess was pretty obvious because he seemed to like the video but he did ask me if I didn't like it as much and I told him it wasn't porn in general I just wasn't turned on by that clip so he asked if I wanted to watch the same one again and I told him "or one like it" and he put one on.
I really tried to make it obvious with my sounds and my body language when I was liking something without going absolutely overboard but he really surprised me and encouraged me to be the one to touch myself this time, which I did, and which he really seemed to enjoy to my surprise.
Afterward we went to go get food and we even talked about how we both thought it was hot and I was honestly just feeling kinda grateful for advice and a place to vent, so... Thank you!
I didn't specifically but twice during watching it he said something like "Oh you like that don't you" or that sort of thing which I know was just dirty talk but he aknowledged itPerfect. During the talk had you told him your kink?
Ok. What had you replied?I didn't specifically but twice during watching it he said something like "Oh you like that don't you" or that sort of thing which I know was just dirty talk but he aknowledged it
just the normal moany "yeah"Ok. What had you replied?
oh wow okay now I'm on a mission hahaThere’s something else you could do to help along this journey. Invest some time finding a video where the white woman looks just like you, then enthusiastically show it him. It could plant the seed in his brain without you having to say a word
ok, but be more explicit. You should feel ok in being open.oh wow okay now I'm on a mission haha
And jack him off nice and slow and talk dirty to him while you watch it togetheroh wow okay now I'm on a mission haha
Here you are…oh wow okay now I'm on a mission haha
i love to see some ass picuresSo I am, in a lot of ways I guess, sort of a quintessential basic white girl. I'm 24, and I married my highschool boyfriend two years ago, and he's basically the only man I've been with. For most of my life both of us have been pretty vanilla. Like, not total prudes just sort of plain. I've been in a housewife era this last year and sort of discovered this whole world via porn and all through being bored home alone and all, and I sort of surprised myself by how obsessive I got. I feel like I'm sort of at the point now where I want it to be real so bad that it's driving me sort of crazy. I was googling advice today and found this forum and I don't even know if I'm posting right but I was just looking for advice I guess. Sorry if I did something wrong!
If you find one that looks like you and you both enjoy watching it.. say something like, "omg... look how much she is enjoying him; do you think I could take something that big?". I know a lot of white men have a size kink... but don't know how to say it. This gives him an opening, and if he takes it.. you can suggest something like, "Would you ever buy me a big dildo and teach me to take it while we watch videos?".oh wow okay now I'm on a mission haha