A similar pattern in some ways , different in others.
My wife had only had one other man before me and he was also only average both in size and performance ( as she subsequently realised) . We were very much in love when we married and although I had fantasises which included cuckolding , she very much saw sex as part of a loving marital relationship , as , in those days at least, women were brought up to believe.
She only gradually became more and more curious about experiencing more. Porn played a big part in stimulating that - in her case written porn probably more than visual. At that time raunchy cheap paperbacks written by women for women had quite a vogue here in the UK . They nearly all emphasised the ******* women experienced with well endowed, powerful lovers, often black indeed, and I’m sure they did a lot of good work planting the desire in the minds of thousands of English wives to experiment beyond their humdrum sex lives with their average , however nice, white husbands!
Eventually , as with so many couples , chat led to experimenting. And also like many , though not all ( we were perhaps lucky) her first experience with another man proved beyond question what she had indeed been missing! Better endowed and skilled he, a complete stranger, gave her by far the best sex of her life up to then, she experiencing multiple orgasms of an intensity she had hardly imagined. Totally disproving for ever in her mind the nonsense that sex within a loving relationship was always far better than that enjoyed through promiscuity.
That night changed everything. In all other respects our marriage has remained as it was , and has been a happy and successful one for decades now. But our sex life has been based on cuckolding: an acceptance from both of us that she is entitled to be sexually satisfied; and that a minority of men, mostly black men, are far better equipped , physically and mentally to fuck effectively than most white husbands are. And that this should also be more widely understood accepted and encouraged. While I don’t pretend to understand how some of the challenges in furthering the ‘BNWO’ can be met in our current society I do support anything we can do to encourage interracial sex generally interracial cuckolding in particular and a more widespread acceptance of the truth : that for most wives, it is just better!