Alex Portnoy
Male
Oh please, who are you trying to kid. This is what you said in your first post on the subject:Well since you ask,
My husband is my rock, my soul mate my best friend, we enjoy each other's company. We are more than just married we are life partners, I enjoy looking after him and he enjoys doing little things for me and seeing my happy immensely. I have always had a higher libido than him this way we stay together forever without the stress.
Marriage is more than just sex, you can get sex absolutely anywhere, a good marriage is very hard to find and priceless.
I spent weeks building up to telling him I wished for us to separate and when I did eventually there was the usual anger tears and "he knew all along there was someone else" blah blah usual stuff but I had made up my mind I didn't wish to cheat on him. Eventually after the best had settled he asked me if we'd consider staying together and I could carry on if I was discreet. I knew that was never going tobe enough for me I wished to be seen out with my beau on my arm I was a proud 50yr old lady wanting to show the world what I could achieve! I am under no illusions that my relationship was going to last as he was 15yrs younger than I. Reluctantly he agreed as long as the marital bed stayed sacred.
Reluctantly I agreed provided he understood I was having the marital bed and he was now a spare room tenant!
That was four months ago and where the interesting aspect of the exclusivity angle has changed for me. I no longer want my husband seeing me in the nude or even in my underware I now lock the bathroom door, that's private for James (my lover) he hadn't asked me to go that far but thats what I want! My husband has adapted or rather he hasn't complained but I feel I need to amend our agreement so he understands this totally. Has anyone else felt this way?
You wanted to separate. You virtue signal you didn't want to cheat on him after cheating on him for six months. You casually dismiss his pain with a contemptuous "blah blah blah." You wanted your ego stroked at his expense and have a very distorted sense of "achievement." Getting a younger guy to fuck you isn't an "achievement." Most guys will fuck any somewhat attractive woman. You acknowledge having a relationship you know will not last, yet you're willing inflict pain on your husband for your own selfish appetites and for what amounts to nothing more than a fling. You agreed to stay with your husband "reluctantly." You have so little respect for your husband you exclude him from the normal intimacies of marriage. Your husband hasn't complained but even that isn't enough....your want to rub your contempt for him in his face.
That's not how you treat a best friend, much less a soulmate. Your marriage obviously isn't "priceless" because you said yourself you were quite eager to abandon it but for your husband's cringe worthy supplication. It's all about you and your happiness, your husband is just a disposable appendage. You're not looking after him, you're destroying him.
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