We are also put off by racist comments, the apparent need to humiliate or be humiliated and the slave/owner activities. We’ve discussed this for quite a while and have come to believe that much of what we read on here is fantasy, rather than active reality. Once that was decided it was easier for us to just disregard or ignore those comments and to concentrate on people who have tastes and desires similar to ours.
We view this site as we would any large community, so differences are to be expected. On a regular basis we associate with a number of people here, but we avoid others, just as we do in other situations and locations. They have their fun and we have ours.
We are relatively new to the interracial aspect of this kind of play, with our first sexual contact with a black man being about three years ago. There have been four others since then and all have become friends as well as sex partners. Even if we no longer have the sexual aspect with each one, we maintain contact and the friendships continue.
Without exception they are sensible, intelligent gentleman and we enjoy their company both in and out of the bedroom. They are also very sensual, physical men with sexual appetites that vary to one degree or another, but we are well matched socially and our intimate physical contacts with them have been very rewarding for all of us. Being selective, especially where something is as private and personal as this lifestyle, certainly pays handsome dividends.
If you were to ask our advice we would urge you to associate with those you enjoy and to ignore the others, as well as their comments.