Well, for me, the 'man' comes first..
Is he well groomed, well dressed, well mannered etc?
Basically, someone that I wouldn't mind being seen out and above with.
I strive to stay in shape, dress nice, apply makeup, and be polite... 'he' should at least do the same.
'Thug' type need not apply..
I am not interested in fucking someone who acts like a spoiled brat, with pants sagging off their ass, and some goofy hat on backwards or sideways, with a bad attitude..
Then the cock..
Thick is better than long.. There IS a depth restriction..but I can wiggle and struggle thickness in..
In the bedroom (just about) anything goes!
90% the 'man', and 10% the package.
Aaaand that, is just the way I am..