You cant love him, it sounds like all you're thinking about is YOU!!! You say you Love him very much. Yet, you say "He has been getting so jealous and the thought of me not being interested in his white dickie ever again. Has gotten to him. He's starting to feel useless . Which was the point I thought?". That doesnt sound like love, more like, degrading.
Then you say, "You have larger needs"? Doesnt take a Rocket Scientist to figure that one out. Cha Ching, the almighty dollar of course. Snowbunny, you're a trip. What should happen is your husband grow some balls and divorce your ass. Then let the black man you fucking take care of you. Trust me, you'll sing a different tune real quick. You're just selfish married slut!!!!