The conservative wife dilemma

[25YrsServing]

As she says once she’s fucked, she can’t be unfucked and Probably would want to be more fucked.

She is absolutely right. The old saying "Once she goes black she won't go back" has longstanding validity. The pleasure of the physical aspects of fucking and the satisfaction of submitting herself for a black man's pleasure create a desire for more of the same.

 

[Zsozo]

She is absolutely right. The old saying "Once she goes black she won't go back" has longstanding validity. The pleasure of the physical aspects of fucking and the satisfaction of submitting herself for a black man's pleasure create a desire for more of the same.

Don't even go back!
It's so natural!

 

[25YrsServing]

Don't even go back!
It's so natural!

It is that! White women should serve black men with all of their holes. The more they serve, the happier they will be.

 

[ZZZZ79]

Any ladies out there ever consider themselves super conservative and then go black? Any husbands have your wife completely be reluctant and then try it? That's where I'm at with my wife, just looking for advice.

She admits that the thought turns her on but thinks it's morally wrong to cheat on me. She's never been with another man. My desire is to see her be pleasured legitimately

Any thoughts or suggestion would be appreciated, thanks!

Hi!!

I want to give you some advice that might be helpful to you!!

Paradoxically, change is the only permanent thing in the universe, but in some cases, natural change cannot be rushed!!
This is especially true for people who are shy and / or overly conservative! This is because they have become too accustomed to a certain spirituality because of socialization , and I would experience radical change in a short time as a very serious mental strain! In this case, a retreat will develop as a self-defense reaction, and then there is no chance of achieving any sexual openness!!

There are three really important things to keep in mind , and applied in combination to achieve success!!

1.Deep respect for the other person!!

Make it clear to the other person, in words and deeds, that he or she is not a sexual victim of male chauvinism, but an equal partner whose opinion is fundamentally relevant!! Respect always generates positive emotions!!

2.Graduality!!

All people have sexual instincts, but socialization can cause mental oppression , which is conserved after a certain time interval.
This stiffness can even produce psychosomatic symptoms (muscle stiffness, digestive complaints, etc.), and therefore it is necessary to move slowly with small steps towards the goal, for which it is essential to call on the help of sexual psychology!! The basic state of existence of all primates is polygamy , that is, a relationship with more than one sexual partner!!

3.All steps should be done together!!

At the first point, I already wrote that words and gestures based on true respect will generate positive emotions in response. In the case of joint steps, this is particularly true!! Of course, nothing should be ******!! Calmness creates a state of relaxation, which is important because the experience has to be processed together after each step!! All this is necessary because in this way the sexual openness resulting from liberal spirituality will gradually become natural for the conservative person!! This, in turn, requires a person on whom that person can rely at any time!!

Good luck!! Have a nice day!!

 

[Ana-DMV]

Any ladies out there ever consider themselves super conservative and then go black? Any husbands have your wife completely be reluctant and then try it? That's where I'm at with my wife, just looking for advice.

She admits that the thought turns her on but thinks it's morally wrong to cheat on me. She's never been with another man. My desire is to see her be pleasured legitimately

Any thoughts or suggestion would be appreciated, thanks!

This was me for a long time. Now I have a lover that I adore and enjoy and dont have the moral conflict anymore.

 

[vej54]

This was me for a long time. Now I have a lover that I adore and enjoy and dont have the moral conflict anymore.

What was the impetus that lead to the change from Christian Conservative to Kinky Freak?

 

[Jellycapone]

My wife was completely against even a BBC dildo at first . But now we have a bbc dildo and she loves it .. it looks great inside her . She always said no to a bbc dildo a couple years ago . So few weeks back I just bought one and she didn't seem bothered at all and even asked me when it's coming. To my surprise when I was out she said to me I been thinking about our new toy all evening. I said what toy as we bought some handcuffs to . She said my big black dick I cant wait to ride it . I was shocked cos she claims she's not into black guys . She said she even wanted to get the dildo out and feel it . We have 2 other dildos she never acted like that with them ones . Then I was sitting in the front room and she messages me on instagram dm saying time for some BBC she said it's the best dildo she ever tried and it felt realistic it was a 8 inch one . She said after we should use it more regular. I was pretty shocked but loved it at the same time . She couldn't wait to use it

 

[Zsozo]

It is that! White women should serve black men with all of their holes. The more they serve, the happier they will be.

Our little white penis should be in a cage! Our white sperm has a place in a paper handkerchief!

 

[25YrsServing]

Our little white penis should be in a cage! Our white sperm has a place in a paper handkerchief!

Yes, cages keep our penis secure and out of trouble. Our puny output can be disposed of in a number of ways: toilet, paper napkin, etc.

 

[Zsozo]

Yes, cages keep our penis secure and out of trouble. Our puny output can be disposed of in a number of ways: toilet, paper napkin, etc.

If you are very lucky, you will in cum rag.

 

[Rodgersmith1]

My wife is Asian very conservative and shy ....petite gorgeous little body and super cute...she works with a lot black men and of course was always hit on

It started extremely slowly with comments and conversations in bed on how horny black guys can be... to how well built and muscular they are to how the rumors they are in bed...I even said that once you go black thing..and they have bigger ones...I used the term "they reach deeper"

I knew all this was planting the thoughts in her and it was....I would ask her which guy hits on her the most....she would tell me and i would say you can't blame him I'm sure he's a very nice guy..."he just wants to touch you deeper"....then I would have sex with her just knowing she's thinking about him.

Slowly we reached the point that we were openly talking about him before then during sex....she would cum like never before...I asked her if she was getting close to him at work and she said "yes".

I had told her it was absolutely OK to have these feeling for him and maybe she could make love to him if she wanted too.

One night the best question finally came from her after sex..."do you really want me too"...I said are you two getting close....she said yes

I said if she wanted too, she can "I want you to experience him in that way"....they meet alone at his place...he has know idea that i know he's younger very well built reaches deeper...kisses and is very passionate...they don't use anything...he does cum inside but not all the time.

So my shy wife is being made love to by a young black guy all alone in his bed.

 

[dragonman]

This will be a slow process especially taking it real. We're taking it slow and here we are on b2W

 

[lovesexfun]

Any ladies out there ever consider themselves super conservative and then go black? Any husbands have your wife completely be reluctant and then try it? That's where I'm at with my wife, just looking for advice.

She admits that the thought turns her on but thinks it's morally wrong to cheat on me. She's never been with another man. My desire is to see her be pleasured legitimately

Any thoughts or suggestion would be appreciated, thanks!

I think we are in the same situation...my wife dreams of fucking other men but dont want to do it in real.

 

[New to this 39]

Any more thoughts on this subject?

 

[Diane4bbc]

Any ladies out there ever consider themselves super conservative and then go black? Any husbands have your wife completely be reluctant and then try it? That's where I'm at with my wife, just looking for advice.

She admits that the thought turns her on but thinks it's morally wrong to cheat on me. She's never been with another man. My desire is to see her be pleasured legitimately

Any thoughts or suggestion would be appreciated, thanks!

Hi - Diane here...
I was the conservative one "She admits that the thought turns her on but thinks it's morally wrong to cheat on me. She's never been with another man" in our marriage and still refuse to "cheat" on hubby. To me "cheat" means to do it without him knowing. If we meet someone else together, that is not cheating. So as conservative as I am, my hubbies interest in IR porn has built a great desire and fantasy in me to be with a black man. We play in all tje ways you describe all the time.
What holds me back is hubby not being comfortable with doing it for real. He is unsure of how he/we will deal with reality.
So getting a conservative wife like me to act requires a confident hubby, loving, sure he wants it and able make it fun for us both... my thoughts... Di

 

[vej54]

Hi - Diane here...
I was the conservative one "She admits that the thought turns her on but thinks it's morally wrong to cheat on me. She's never been with another man" in our marriage and still refuse to "cheat" on hubby. To me "cheat" means to do it without him knowing. If we meet someone else together, that is not cheating. So as conservative as I am, my hubbies interest in IR porn has built a great desire and fantasy in me to be with a black man. We play in all tje ways you describe all the time.
What holds me back is hubby not being comfortable with doing it for real. He is unsure of how he/we will deal with reality.
So getting a conservative wife like me to act requires a confident hubby, loving, sure he wants it and able make it fun for us both... my thoughts... Di

Diane...checkout front Porch swingers or spiritual swingers podcasts to address hubby's insecurity about playing for REAL...

 

[Diane4bbc]

In response to point 1. of yours... A marriage or any relationship depends on two people. It is a nice idea to "reassure" her that the marriage will be fine, but on another note, how does she feel about it? - There are Women who have a predefined idea of what a marriage in their opinion should be like. If you change your lifestyle as a couple, will it still be the marriage she is longing for? Are you still the man she has intended to marry? Apart from that... There are people (Women and men) who fall in love over sex easily. Does she see her/your marriage threatened by the possibility she may perhaps catch emotions and eventually leave you for another guy?

point 2. Constant messages can be fine as long as the partner (your wife/girlfriend) doesn't feel pressured. If you can make her feel like a "wifesharing" lifestyle is what you really want, it can be a start. But also there is an improtance of explaining why you want it. What is your gain as the husband? If you can't explain that in a manner that she will understand it, you will have a hard time convincing her. Also... it has to be something she is also turned-on by. If that is not the case, you better leave it.

Most things you can read in the forums here are very sexuality-driven and most come from a male perspective. In the end it is not a question who brings up a lifestyle like this. (Sometimes it is the Woman/wife.) But the one who surprisingly listens to the suggestion of opening up the relationship (again, no matter Woman or man) is typically more concerned about the relationship itself than the potential sexual pleasure an altered lifestyle may provide. It is important to listen and understand what kind of emotions like fear perhaps your partner (wife) has and her concerns about an open/half-open sexual lifestyle. Many times a husband's mind may revolve around the sexual pleasures (for both) of seeing or knowing his wife receiving another man's dick, the wife will have questions instead like "Am I, the wife, or the sex life we already have not enough for my husband?" or "Does my husband suggest an open lifestyle because what he really wants is having sex with someone else himself?" - Typical questions that need to be addressed.

excellent! Very much agree

 

[Diane4bbc]

Diane...checkout front Porch swingers or spiritual swingers podcasts to address hubby's insecurity about playing for REAL...

Where do I find those?

 

[New to this 39]

Hi - Diane here...
I was the conservative one "She admits that the thought turns her on but thinks it's morally wrong to cheat on me. She's never been with another man" in our marriage and still refuse to "cheat" on hubby. To me "cheat" means to do it without him knowing. If we meet someone else together, that is not cheating. So as conservative as I am, my hubbies interest in IR porn has built a great desire and fantasy in me to be with a black man. We play in all tje ways you describe all the time.
What holds me back is hubby not being comfortable with doing it for real. He is unsure of how he/we will deal with reality.
So getting a conservative wife like me to act requires a confident hubby, loving, sure he wants it and able make it fun for us both... my thoughts... Di

Thank you for the thoughtful response!

 

[ZZZZ79]

My wife is Asian very conservative and shy ....petite gorgeous little body and super cute...she works with a lot black men and of course was always hit on

It started extremely slowly with comments and conversations in bed on how horny black guys can be... to how well built and muscular they are to how the rumors they are in bed...I even said that once you go black thing..and they have bigger ones...I used the term "they reach deeper"

I knew all this was planting the thoughts in her and it was....I would ask her which guy hits on her the most....she would tell me and i would say you can't blame him I'm sure he's a very nice guy..."he just wants to touch you deeper"....then I would have sex with her just knowing she's thinking about him.

Slowly we reached the point that we were openly talking about him before then during sex....she would cum like never before...I asked her if she was getting close to him at work and she said "yes".

I had told her it was absolutely OK to have these feeling for him and maybe she could make love to him if she wanted too.

One night the best question finally came from her after sex..."do you really want me too"...I said are you two getting close....she said yes

I said if she wanted too, she can "I want you to experience him in that way"....they meet alone at his place...he has know idea that i know he's younger very well built reaches deeper...kisses and is very passionate...they don't use anything...he does cum inside but not all the time.

So my shy wife is being made love to by a young black guy all alone in his bed.

Doesn't this have a negative effect on your marriage? The function of different formations of open sexuality is to provide extra pleasure not to destroy marriage!