Looking for advice on husband

Hello, so this I weird but I kinda what help or advice on what to do or anything. Before I start, no I’m not verified and no I won’t get verified; I don’t plan on being on here that much, but I heard about the site from a college teammate.



I am happily married to a white man and have a 3 year old. When I was in my early 20’s after a night at the bars, I met a black man outside of my apartment, and was super horny. I invited him to stay the night.



My husband and I met a year later. When I told him about my interracial experience he was disgusted at first. Then over the years he has gotten more interested, asking details (I don’t tell him it’s none of his business), and wanting to role play. He even got a fake dildo and named it Da’ron. He likes me to pose with it and suck it. I never wanted to put it in me because it’s huge. I haven’t wanted to do it since our ******* was born though.



We are in a lul lately, so I got some questions. He has been wanting to reach out and get someone (like where do you look for this, Craigslist?), to come to our house or meet at a hotel, and take pictures with me. He has said he doesn’t want me to fuck him, but maybe suck him, and let him cum on me. I wanna stimulate and rise to what my husband wants sexually but I guess I need advice with things. 1-4 are important but 5 is kind of just for me because in the end I am a 35 year old that wants to be flattered :)



  1. What should I do to meet his needs? I don’t want to fuck anyone else, but I wanna make my husband happy.
  2. What are somethings I can do to get into being ok with it? Is there porn to watch, or things to read?
  3. If I were persuaded to be “ok”with meeting someone to pose with, is there anyone out there, who would respect our wishes and just let me do what he wants?
  4. If there is anyone who would be willing, would you be willing to befriend my hubby, and maybe start to get a good connection with him. He has friends of color, but I’d rather not with his friends. I don’t wanna be at a cook out, and think about knowing what his friends look like naked.
  5. Do I still got the goods after having a kid? Sorry I’m not comfortable showing my face. The pictures are snaps and messages my husband has sent me to show you his mindset.
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Just take a slave no and then, you will be in charge any how, or go to church and start all over in you're relationship
 
Hello, so this I weird but I kinda what help or advice on what to do or anything. Before I start, no I’m not verified and no I won’t get verified; I don’t plan on being on here that much, but I heard about the site from a college teammate.



I am happily married to a white man and have a 3 year old. When I was in my early 20’s after a night at the bars, I met a black man outside of my apartment, and was super horny. I invited him to stay the night.



My husband and I met a year later. When I told him about my interracial experience he was disgusted at first. Then over the years he has gotten more interested, asking details (I don’t tell him it’s none of his business), and wanting to role play. He even got a fake dildo and named it Da’ron. He likes me to pose with it and suck it. I never wanted to put it in me because it’s huge. I haven’t wanted to do it since our ******* was born though.



We are in a lul lately, so I got some questions. He has been wanting to reach out and get someone (like where do you look for this, Craigslist?), to come to our house or meet at a hotel, and take pictures with me. He has said he doesn’t want me to fuck him, but maybe suck him, and let him cum on me. I wanna stimulate and rise to what my husband wants sexually but I guess I need advice with things. 1-4 are important but 5 is kind of just for me because in the end I am a 35 year old that wants to be flattered :)



  1. What should I do to meet his needs? I don’t want to fuck anyone else, but I wanna make my husband happy.
  2. What are somethings I can do to get into being ok with it? Is there porn to watch, or things to read?
  3. If I were persuaded to be “ok”with meeting someone to pose with, is there anyone out there, who would respect our wishes and just let me do what he wants?
  4. If there is anyone who would be willing, would you be willing to befriend my hubby, and maybe start to get a good connection with him. He has friends of color, but I’d rather not with his friends. I don’t wanna be at a cook out, and think about knowing what his friends look like naked.
  5. Do I still got the goods after having a kid? Sorry I’m not comfortable showing my face. The pictures are snaps and messages my husband has sent me to show you his mindset.
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Thank you for letting me voice my problem.
Kinda not cool that he clearly has an issue with black dudes but is more than comfortable with having a fetishist view of us. Also this is kind of a one foot in one foot out mindset, he isn't ready for this as much as he might think he is, be very careful treading these waters. All the best to you both.
 
I'm quoting your original post but have read the responses so far...some have questioned your validity and I admit I too have questions...but one thing you mentioned in a couple of your posts does add validity.

STOP!

Right now you aren't ready and your relationship isn't either. This subject (sex) and this lifestyle never, ever ends well if one enters it for someone else's happiness. Quite simply it minimizes your own self worth. Read what you said about the picture you posted then consider-the people on this site and ANY other range from barely legal into sixties (me), skinny to obese, skin color/tones from pale to jet black and that is in both genders! I'd bet anything you didn't question your beauty the first time you held your b*by-beauty resonates from within.

Rather than ask if people change, let's consider how we evolve. At first hubby had a negative reaction to your IR experience. He's asked about it and you 'knew' not to go into details-example 1. Hubby has this fantasy, then brings home a dildo-why? Example 2. Hubby comes home starts the convo and has someone outside waiting. Example 3.

I'm a widower and started in alternative lifestyles with my wife almost 30 years ago. Anyone who doesn't tell you the most critical issue for a couple is COMMUNICATION. We can't quantify the right or wrong of you not telling him about your experience, I know you NEED to know WHY before you do anything else. I really hope it registers that guy was waiting at the door because it was GOING to happen, no maybe about it and strongly suggests those two talked about it more than you did. Personally I avoid husbands like that; if they will treat their life 'partner' like that what the hell can I expect to get? Ask hubby how many new Black friends does he have at work....never, ever involve what provides for the THREE of you!

The wife needs to know, understand and share her place with all of it and hubby needs to know, understand and share what's all in his head, both being honest and open about it. Stop (time out) and get your ******* together! Good luck and DM if you want to talk.
THIISSSS
 
So an update. He came home last night from work and once I put our ******* down, he started talking to me about it. So finally, I asked a question “ is this going to help our marriage or hurt it, because I kind of just wanna do this, so you will stop bugging me about it!” he told me he just wants to see me with someone posing. I asked him if he had somebody in mind, and he said that he confided in one of the maintenance guys at his building. I’ve never met this man, but he described him and said he was the type that was always able to go somewhere. Ughhhh

I took a couple drinks and finally said fine I will do it. I thought it was going to be for the next night or Friday night but I hopped out of the shower and Dude was here.

I just let him put his dick between my tits, kissed his dick, and let him cum on my neck, but I think I enjoyed it more than I thought. Thank you for the advice everyone!

If you want detail or photos, I would tell or send.

Might have to stick around here!
Yes I'd like to see cause from our conversations you wasn't into this and had only had that one bad time with a black guy ....
 
You sound similar to my former Jewish wife trainee. She was hesitant and uncertain. But After a few sessions with me. She became sexually better for me and her husband. It benefited there relationship greatly. Especially in the bedroom.

Im willing to help you. Im experienced with your dynamic and your husbands desires. Let's chat. No female nudity *this clip. Just a quality blow job


look at her tongue- she's doing it really well
 
how long did it take her to do this? how regularly? probably she was already very talented before?
Do you have a special exercise program? ;-)
It took her about 6 to 7 months to get to this level, she was trained two or three times a week for that length of time. She was naturally eager to learn and a good listener, but her skills when she came to me could not make me orgasm. And yes I do have a special exercise program.
 
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