franklyn17
Male
You have enough common sense to know the difference between having sex as opposed to making love, a concept which seems lost to some here.
Is the watching male ever in control?
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Thank u so much. I appreciate that.
Sex is on this plane of existence. Love is more from the heart and a gift from the heavens. You can love someone and do things together you both enjoy. We enjoy Arts, Crafts, Music & Sex. Me & My husband do everything together... Definitely sex. As a couple you at least Never have to worry about cheating on each other if you have sex with other people while you are together? And the other problems are small and petty as well because even if your other doesn't feel like it today them you can still have sex with someone to release that stress built us.... Not to mention... Why would you leave someone you are with to find someone else and "Start Over Again" When you have someone that WILL LET YOU Sleep with other people... ??? No I see the big picture. "Love is Not Jealous, It does not Envy It does Brag or Boast. The rejoices in the truth... Love NEVER Fails. I have found love and if it hurts my husband I won't do it. If we agree together to try it out... It will be done. For each test of faith, Love & Trust the we conquer brings us closer together. And when we go to meet Our ******* then or love with stood against all for Sex is of this plane... For it was a gift from Our *******. I searched for so long... Broken... Until I found the one person and God Led me to him for a would forever be broken if I did not learn to "Trust, Honor & Love" Again. Thank you for your kind words fraklyn17. You are greatly appreciated.
franklyn17
Male
You are also appreciated and that was beautifully said. You truly are a lucky couple
Well that of course comes down to respecting each and knowing each other. There are things she don't like and being submissive to a point she might not speak up so I usually do. And she is always thankful. And the guest should be to cuz for us all round satisfaction is the point. I just won't let any guy come into my house like he runs it and I'm supposed to be weak or something that's not me. If you knew you would know that is not something I am. That's my woman this is for us. I like to share her and watch her. She enjoys it and everyone we have met has had a great time in the end and always want to come back.
that is awesome... But no worries... I am ONLY my husband's sub by choice and only in the bedroom. Other than that my job in Security has shown my how to be tough and my husband has shown me how to stand up for myself so... No worries. And we don't do it at home. Hotels only. Don't need a bunch of guys stopping by all hours thinking they are getting some.... It don't work that way. This way i say when, where and how... Or i can go home.
The things you remember is, the bull is there at your invitation. That being said any rules or limits should be discussed and set prior to the actual action. So that way while you're watching you at least know that whatever was discussed is going to be portrayed per se. But keep in mind depending on the bull, he may sometimes get out of pocket but as long as there's nothing that's totally not left field it should be fine and your wife has the the right to stop anything she's not comfortable with. So yes there is some sort of control that you have but that has to be pretty much again outlined at the meetup. So don't let any bull fool you into thinking that he can just come in there and do whatever the hell he wants with total disregard for you or your wife unless you have given up total control to him at that point it's pretty much carte blanc.
franklyn17
Male
Exactly right
thank you. I agree with u... We always put each other first. Most people are confused by this but i hear people say marriage is 50/50... ? Not so. It should be a 100/100. Because you must give 100% of yourself to the marriage. If you are only putting in you 50% Then you are only giving half of yourself. Go all in... Or don't get married on a half and half. Cuz after a while your other 50% may end up somewhere else.
Well said
One time I had a hubby acting like he was directing a fucking movie or something 
It was really fucking annoying, and I never let that happen again 
Watching means lights, camera . . . sit your ass there and be still . . . and let things unfold naturally. If you don’t like that, then you’re not the ones for me. I’m not trying to be a porn star. I’m just trying to fuck!
It was really fucking annoying, and I never let that happen again Watching means lights, camera . . . sit your ass there and be still . . . and let things unfold naturally. If you don’t like that, then you’re not the ones for me. I’m not trying to be a porn star. I’m just trying to fuck!that is get to understand who u r bringing in.
I get that. Thanx.
thanks for the insight...One time I had a hubby acting like he was directing a fucking movie or something
That is why we screen people to see who is invited... I guess unless the husband is a REAL loser than u may not be invited to a place where u can have the husband sit down and shut up while u ******* the guy's wife?
You can’t ******* the willing . . . .
franklyn17
Male
Once again spot on and we’ll said. You are a breath of fresh air
Damn right you can't.
We are very similar to you in this.
All the men we have met know that I the husband, is in charge of the situation. My wife has the final word on what she is, and is not okay with. It's my job to screen SMs and see to it that nothing sketchy happens. The most important thing to me is that she is safe and has a good time.
I put my trust in the SM and we allow them to enter our sex life and marriage. That's a big deal to us. We take that very seriously. I also allow him the liberty to meet solo if she and I are okay with it. They can also enter our home, fuck and I won't try to direct, film, watch, or get off on it. It's a treat for Mrs wild who busts her ass to be a great wife.
That trust and respect is very important to us. You have to give to receive it. We want to have that with our partners and also enjoy the friendships we've gained from a this experience. Follow this and you're in the club, and between the sheets! Be disrespectful to myself or my wife and you're out. Immediately. I don't care how big or tough they think they are, it won't be tolerated and will they will get shipped.
Starting outmany years ago , as I did i thought i had things under control. she agreed to be discrete and be careful
i thought when i got her to agree to bring men home so i could secretly watch, she would ring me half an hour before she was coming home with a guy so i could make myself scarce which involved setting the patio door blinds so i could see in from outside and spot ceiling lights set to give best view
she comes in big black guy soon playing and she knows the best view point for me, he gets down on the sofa condom on she straddles him so her ass is towards the door where im viewing from guides his cock in her and lowers her self down,,,the fuck for few minutes he lifts her off, fingers her cunt as she is straddling him, then you spot him slyly slipping the condom off and her slipping back on it not knowing what hes done.
panic sets in and there is nothing you can do she is riding him like mad and then he groans clutches her ass and bucks his ass in the air, you see his thrust slow down and her legs quivering, and she now knows hes unloaded in her
she dismounts spots the condom on the floor between his feet, bends picks it up and walks to the bathroom, to dump it in the bin, she walks back with huge grin on her face, and kneels down taking his cock in her hand and slurping on the thick shaft and then after getting him back how she wants him climbs back on top of him and hes fucking her again
Yes you are THE ONE IN CONTROL or so you thought!!!!!!
My husband had control of the situation when we were swinging together, NOT when I play without him.
