Dougie huh! LOL. I love it you're cute!
So you want know how to cold approach a brotha and shoot your shot?
Just like I would tell any guy "don't be afraid of rejection you're gonna win some and you're definitely gonna lose alot more who are not going to be interested"! So don't get discouraged and give up after rejection and understand that the worse possible thing that can happen is they say no!
Confidence is attractive to men but not assertiveness to the point that you seem masculine and bossy! Men hate boss bitches you want to appear as a ball fluffer not a ball buster!
For you lovely ladies doing a cold approach is easy (with confidence) on the streets when you see a guy you're interested in. The most direct way to let that guy know that you are interested is to approach him and simply say and ice breaker or opener - "hello I was just across the street there and I couldn't help but notice you" (you can intensify shooting your shot at this point by completing something about him - "that's a nice suit you have on there" "you have a nice physique you must work out alot" "I like that song you're listening to who is that" "like your swag"!)
Now that you've opened the door Introduce yourself- "My name is Julia what's yours"? Ask him out! - Hey I live or work in the area and I would love to maybe go get a coffee or a ******* sometime if that would be ok with you" "let me give you my number, my kik, my email, so we can chat a bit!
Now of course ladies you want to be your normal sexy and seductive selves - batting those eyelashes, looking the guy up and down like a snack, smiling like it's absolutely pleasure to talk to him. (More direct choosing signals that absolutely say you want to fuck him is - licking the lips, biting your lip, looking at his package. Note: Black men love compliments especially from women. We spend most of our lives recieving negative feedback and being misunderstood in society so positive feedback and compliments goes a long way with us even when we may not even recognize it you will still see the effects.
For example: I was at the grocery store and an elderly white woman who had to be at least in her seventies with white hair saw me in line to check out and I was in my gym clothes having worked out just before I went to the store. She approached me and she said "those are nice leggings" "you have a nice body"! The cashier started smiling and I was like "oh wow granny is in here trying to shoot her shot at me"! LOL. I was very flattered and that was the whole point.
Ladies us men are very simple and very uncomplicated and it doesn't take much to show us clear choosing signals that you are interested in us. Tell the guy that you noticed him, the way he acted like a gentleman, the way he's dressed, that he's attractive and has a nice physique, you like what he's listening to, you like the way he dances, or that he simply looks like a wonderful gentleman and that you would like to get to know him. Keep it simple and seductive and you will have no problem pulling a brotha with the cold approach in public.
For husbands on the hunt for bbc for their wives especially when dealing with men outside of the lifestyle its going to be a bit more a challenge. The reason for this is because there is no sexual interest there for hubby himself or the black guy so the only way to totally avoid giving up your intentions which is to find a lover or playmate for your wife is to befriend the dude!
Ice breaker or opener for hubby- "hey man where's a good place around here for guys to get a ******* and meet some nice women" "hey bro is there alot of hot women around here" "hey man where's a good place around here to find some chicks" "where do you work out at, are there alot of hot women in there" "is it easy to get women around here"? The reason why I included women in each opener for hubby is so that the black guy knows in a general sense what he wants and because we love women he will not be defensive like "why is this guy talking to me like we know each other? By using those openers and adding woman in you are tapping into the "thirst" that all brotha's have for women.
Once he has opened up and started giving you suggestions, then go in and ask him if he's single? Then go in and ask his if he knows about the lifestyle? If he says the lifestyle is disgusting and that he would never do anything like that then you know to gradually end the conversation by thanking him for his suggestions and tips and go your way.
If he says positive things about the lifestyle then that's when you can go ahead and reveal to him that you are married and are in the lifestyle and that he is the kind of nice attractive black gentleman that your wife would be interested in getting to know. Again compliments go along way but coming from hubby it should always pertain to the wife like - "I like your cool swag man, your the kind of brotha my wife likes" "I like your style all GQ smooth and everything, my wife adores guys like you"!
Clubs and bars are easier to cold approach because you can buy someone a ******* and the door is instantly open. Remember guys are simple and are naturally thirsty for women so by adding women into your opener you can get to your intended goal alot faster.
On the streets we call the cold approach "spitting game" or " shooting your shot"!
Now you got game so go shoot your shot at the brotha's and watch all your fantasies come true! Good hunting! ♠