How does priority lie between the desires of cuckold, wife, bull?

[AyleidStone]

This is a loaded question but I will try to clarify why I ask it. When first introduced to the lifestyle and when chatting with a bull for a long time, I was surprised to hear about mishaps involving the cuckold interjecting or directing the action, and pissing off the wife and causing some sour ending to the fun. This particular guy even said after some annoying events the wife asked him privately to start meeting without the cuck.

As a cuckold I have fantasies about what id like to happen. However, it feels to me that it would be more exciting and genuine to not talk about these things at all because it doesn't fit the dynamic. If the bull and wife are enjoying each other as they wish then I get to see a real experience.

Every dynamic is different I understand but again I had a bull ask me what he wanted to see me do and I started thinking more about all this. To me it devalues the experience if it's choreographed by me.

 

[party4candi]

WIFE's interest is everyone's priority
Bull's interests is next and is a priority for wife and cuck
Cuck's interests can be positioned best as "we'll get back to that."

And here's why: The superior BBC men are there for PUSSY, not to make Mr Jones happy.

As the friendship grows, everyone has their moments, no worry.

 

[AyleidStone]

WIFE's interest is everyone's priority
Bull's interests is next and is a priority for wife and cuck
Cuck's interests can be positioned best as "we'll get back to that."

And here's why: The superior BBC men are there for PUSSY, not to make Mr Jones happy.

As the friendship grows, everyone has their moments, no worry.

This makes total sense to me. Why would the bull ask or care about the cuckolds desires in that case though?

 

[party4candi]

This makes total sense to me. Why would the bull ask or care about the cuckolds desires in that case though?

Cuckold needs are important because in time, he and bull,learn how to coordinate and plan and tweak things so wife stays blissfully fucked without a worry. Cuck and bull usually tight.

 

[AyleidStone]

Cuckold needs are important because in time, he and bull,learn how to coordinate and plan and tweak things so wife stays blissfully fucked without a worry. Cuck and bull usually tight.

Thank you!

 

[NYNJcuckcouple]

This is the way I see it ..by percentage . The Male especially sub male drives a strong initial strong priority to be a cuck and crave action and humiliation . Once he finds a mate that enjoys the same or goes along with him . She is the Priority . Some men ruin this but EVERYTHING by the time you are seriously going to consider cuckolding in any power exchange way is The wife's Priority . After the wife it is her discretion to give the Bull power even if she is submissive he allows the Bull to have priority . So wife is Priority 1 , Bull becomes Priority 2 and the cuck who started the whole thing if obedient goes back down to #3 .

 

[JenNWayne]

ALWAYS Ladies first.

 

[Jimmydong]

This is a loaded question but I will try to clarify why I ask it. When first introduced to the lifestyle and when chatting with a bull for a long time, I was surprised to hear about mishaps involving the cuckold interjecting or directing the action, and pissing off the wife and causing some sour ending to the fun. This particular guy even said after some annoying events the wife asked him privately to start meeting without the cuck.

As a cuckold I have fantasies about what id like to happen. However, it feels to me that it would be more exciting and genuine to not talk about these things at all because it doesn't fit the dynamic. If the bull and wife are enjoying each other as they wish then I get to see a real experience.

Every dynamic is different I understand but again I had a bull ask me what he wanted to see me do and I started thinking more about all this. To me it devalues the experience if it's choreographed by me.

One I think some people, both men and women, are control freaks. That’s a whole other thing that could take a hundred pages of psychology to figure out. Then I also think some husbands may be so afraid that this thing gets away from them and that they are going to lose their wife to a bull that they want to make sure everything goes the way it does in their fantasies. I personally would want my wife to get to know the bull a little without much interjection from me and once the kissing starts and sex is going to happen I want to get in the corner and just watch. I would tell my wife to pretend I am not there and just go for it. I would want her to have sex the way she woukd if she was alone with the bull. There is time later to talk and discuss what you want out of it and what the wife and bull want. Open and straight forward communication is key.

 

[kristin4441]

WIFE's interest is everyone's priority
Bull's interests is next and is a priority for wife and cuck
Cuck's interests can be positioned best as "we'll get back to that."

And here's why: The superior BBC men are there for PUSSY, not to make Mr Jones happy.

As the friendship grows, everyone has their moments, no worry.

Good answer

 

[kristin4441]

ALWAYS Ladies first.

True

 

[dakotavixen]

We don't have a ton of experience but in the little we do have this is the way we both view it. Our marriage is priority #1. If either of us have any sort of issue or concern we don't meet. We both agree that this isn't something we do to fix a problem in our marriage instead its something that just makes something good even better. Leading up to the date and after all my attention is on hubby. Luckily during the meet he doesn't ask for much and is completely OK taking a back seat and letting me enjoy myself. The way he's explained it is he knows his time is coming soon enough and just tries to be supportive and help anyway he can to make it better for me.

 

[RicciD]

I eventually had to remove my husband from being there. He was ruining the mood with his stupid questions waiting for me to give him the script answer versus just let ME enjoty the situation and express myself verbally. I am not hi sprivate porn star. I need to feel emotions for my Lovers and express them during our love making myself, not FOR someone. Once I got him out of the room, things heated up FAST!! And that is how we have done things since, I have affairs with my Lovers, not fuck them for my hubby's entertainment. J (the wife)

 

[1joecool]

This is a loaded question but I will try to clarify why I ask it. When first introduced to the lifestyle and when chatting with a bull for a long time, I was surprised to hear about mishaps involving the cuckold interjecting or directing the action, and pissing off the wife and causing some sour ending to the fun. This particular guy even said after some annoying events the wife asked him privately to start meeting without the cuck.

As a cuckold I have fantasies about what id like to happen. However, it feels to me that it would be more exciting and genuine to not talk about these things at all because it doesn't fit the dynamic. If the bull and wife are enjoying each other as they wish then I get to see a real experience.

Every dynamic is different I understand but again I had a bull ask me what he wanted to see me do and I started thinking more about all this. To me it devalues the experience if it's choreographed by me.

We've never really even discussed what exactly is going to happen when we have a friend over for sex but it's definitely up to the wife to have all the say so whatever she wants is all that matters