How chastity can really help

Yeah I think you misunderstand the dynamics of a cuckold relationship. This is something he asked for and it took me nearly 18 months to come round to it. He asked for me to take control. Chastity isn't for all couples but for us it has worked and we are both incredibly turned on my his denial, restriction and power change. I love my husband and THAT is why we engage in this. End of.
J
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Yes, the power exchange is the ultimate turn on. An ex gf completely put me in my place by telling me I had a small cock during an argument. I felt thrust in a new world I guess cause we brainwash ourselves to think we are the biggest and provide the best sex. After she put me in my place I gave up all control and power to her. It was so psychological.
 
I dated an innocent girl in college for a few years. Walked in on her fucking a huge black cock. I was shocked! She left me for him. I became so concerned about my size! I had no idea. Afterwards, I developed sexual performance anxiety. The chastity is great because i feel it hides my problem. I can never perform like a BBC so it makes sense i be locked.
 
Communication is paramount and you must discuss the situation on a regular basis. Our arrangement has changed over a 2 yr period and each time a change may have been needed we discussed it. Each step slowly resulted in Michael becoming more sub. I had a plan. But each step we discussed. Its vital. We talked on everything and slowly agreed that our relationship needed to be permanent. We both love it and ask him!
J
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Chastity made it for us. Michael struggled big time for the first 6 months but I stood my ground and didn't let him have the kind r relief he was desperate for and it ultimately made him far more submissive. Not being allowed to reach orgasm Had made him very attentive, allowing me to indulge is whatever kinky sex I want. I highly recommend chastity for couples wanting to put your husband truly in his place as a cuckold. No sex. No orgasm. Those days are over but tease him and keep him in edge as much s possible ?.
J
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You are a wonderful Mistress and Michael is very very lucky. xxx
 
Personally I wonder why you are still together. Unless this is what he really wants, no sex with his wife (then you can go wonder why doesn't he wants sex with his wife.....). Do you even have respect for your husband? In my opinion not, because you do only what you want, not what he wants.... Unless of course this is what he wants and you can wonder again why he wants this...
What difference why they are still together. Sex is only part of a good relationship. Perhaps he wants to participate with the bull. Perhaps he's bi or even gay. What difference does that make. They can present as a vanilla couple to the world, she can have whatever lover she wants, what it comes down to is if they are happy with it.
 
So, me and my boyfriend have been active on this site for a couple of months and we've been having a lot of fun with this lifestyle.

About a month ago my boyfriend asked if I wanted to try and put him in chastity. I was kind of hesitant because we're not much into this humiliating thing, and I kind of felt that it would be like I was bossing him around too much. But we thought it was worth trying.

Now he has been in chastity for a month. We wanted to really give this a shot so we didn't want to do it for just one day or two and then give up. I have let him out a few times, but we haven't had sex. He wants to do this so I'm certainly not forsing him in any way.

After this month, I can only say WOW... We wanted to dig deeper into this lifestyle and this has helped us so much. My boyfriend is now more focused on my satisfaction and helping me to hook up with black guys. And he likes it.

And for me, this has really sparked something inside me. Now that we have decided to keep my boyfriend in chastity for a while, my focus too, has changed. Instead of just letting the steam off with my boyfriend, like I usually do, I now have to meet my bull, or hook up with some other guy. It has made me much more horny and active in this lifestyle. Now I see my regular bull at least twice a week, and I have been more eager to try and meet other guys.

The sex is amazing, and neither me nor my boyfriend misses having casual sex with each other. We are not going to stop having sex completely, because we love having sex in a more emotional way, but perhaps we will do it less often, at least for a while.

My boyfriend fantasizes about me going "black only", but I'm not sure about that. :qos:. I love him and I think I would miss the more tender sex that I only enjoy with him.

Anyway, just wanted to say this, because it's been such a great experience! :):)
You are a lucky, lucky, girl... with a boyfriend who not only wants you to have amazing sex with other guys, but who actively helps you find hookups with black guys. Keep that boyfriend in your back pocket, and keep on exploring black men. Your sex life will be, already is, amazing.
 
Dear Jamie,

I'm new to this site and posting for the first time. My girlfriend of 8 years and soon to be wife recently agreed to lock up my tiny cock and hold the key when we go out. I deliberately bought the smallest size cage which made her laugh when she tried it. Last night she used a black dildo for the first time while I masturbated. We both came like crazy and there was a confidence in her this morning that I haven't seen for years. She still says she doesn't want other men but she's becoming more hot as we try new things. I'm writing because your posts have been an inspiration to me in pursuing this, and have given me ideas on how to encourage her to become a hotwife.

Hugs, A


Communication is paramount and you must discuss the situation on a regular basis. Our arrangement has changed over a 2 yr period and each time a change may have been needed we discussed it. Each step slowly resulted in Michael becoming more sub. I had a plan. But each step we discussed. Its vital. We talked on everything and slowly agreed that our relationship needed to be permanent. We both love it and ask him!
J
Xoxoxoxo
 
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You are part way to full cuckoldry. Do not stop now! Now that cuckie has accepted chastity. You should make him wear lingerie. Tell him that is heightens your pleasure seeing him dolled up in chastity. Increases the passion between you and your Bulls. Explain how it is his place to do whatever you ask so as to provide better satisfaction for you, and the Bull(s). That is true cuckoldry. Explain it all nicely and how happy it will make all of you, but, insist. Once you sissify him, your sexual satisfaction will increase dramatically. You will have freedom to have sex with any Black Men while you control cuckie and keep him caged and in panties and stockings like the beta he truly wants to be. It works, wish I could watch! Good luck and good sex! And I assure you, cuckie wants this deep down where he keeps his greatest desires.
 
I dated an innocent girl in college for a few years. Walked in on her fucking a huge black cock. I was shocked! She left me for him. I became so concerned about my size! I had no idea. Afterwards, I developed sexual performance anxiety. The chastity is great because i feel it hides my problem. I can never perform like a BBC so it makes sense i be locked.
Yes, it does, for many of us. You should also participate while in chastity, being subservient to your Hotwife and the Bull. You get the satisfaction without any pressure to perform. The Bull will gladly handle that issue.
 
Yeah I think you misunderstand the dynamics of a cuckold relationship. This is something he asked for and it took me nearly 18 months to come round to it. He asked for me to take control. Chastity isn't for all couples but for us it has worked and we are both incredibly turned on my his denial, restriction and power change. I love my husband and THAT is why we engage in this. End of.
J
Xozoxo
They are together because they love each other - love and sex are not the same thing especially over time
 
Chastity isn't about humiliation, really. It's about control and eliciting a behavior from your man/cuckold that benefits you (both).
That is exactly right in my experience. Its about control. Michael is much bigger in stronger than me. The power I have over him now is complete. I like him wound up and on edge and he loves it. His attitude is far better and he works hard to keep us happy. He has joked so many times that hemis married to a pornstsr because I am pretty nasty when it comes to sex but am now far more naughty than before. So he does have a pornstsr as a wide but he's just not allowed to have me himself. I likewise joke that I would have sex with him several times A day of he dick was much bigger and a different colour. Lol. He will a good show tonight.
J
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This is a good example of good communication. As long as you communicate, and be sure that there is something in it for both, then you will be fine. Keep in mind that if you do not have sex with your boyfriend at all, you will lose the chemical connection with him. If you then have a steady bull, then you will bond with him. But that is all up to you both what you want.
This is true. Please make thoughtful wise joint decisions about this change.
 
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Sounds like things are working out great for you. Keep the communication lines open. That is important. My wife and I play around with chastity and denial. Nothing long term though, I usually wear my cage for 5-7 days at a time. During that time I will pleasure my wife orally or she will hook-up with her boyfriends. We still have sex occasionally, but our relationship is definitely focused on my wife's pleasure, which makes me very happy!
. While denying the husband , chasitiy often has the effect of making the wived horny and promiscous especially for wives with no regular bull or boyfriend. She is also denied sex with her husband and must get it elsewhere and they usually do.
 
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