Are you letting these guys know that you realize everything won’t be perfect. The more comfortable the guy feels, the better the chance of him showing. There is pressure on him to meet your expectations and he’s not certain what they are.
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totally agree..mostly lamewanna bee...picture collectors...power of hiding behind key board!!
Common prob;em. Obviously fantasy is more compelling than reality.
Come to Kansas City Mo we don’t bullshit . Not in the show me state .
I don't put out any big expectations, in my conversations I make it clear thatthe first meet is for getting to see each other over coffee or a small meal and see what happens. I tell them if it doesn't move into anything from there that's fine, I know I'll be nervous so we'll take it slow and go from there. I don't like to be pressured andI don't pressure anyone else.
I'm all about meeting when a date is set. Never missed a date so far and don't plan on it.
I think a big part of it is the type of guys that are trying to make these hookups. You have the ones that are just out for a fuck and don't realize the gravity of the situation. They may become intimidated by the reality of the husband being there or knowing. If you are not used to this, it can be a big deal. Now on the other hand, if you have an experienced bull, that knows the situation, knows the goal, he is more likely to follow through on a meet. I haven't had a first meet in a really long time. When I did, it was always without expectations. Somewhere mutually comfortable. Could be for coffee or a ******* or anything to see if there is even a connection and attraction. Talking about 'my big cock' is easy. Making a connection isn't the same thing. Boggles my mind.
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I completely agree with you on all of that.
If I were to guess, I think social media has wrapt the concept of dating. A lot of people sometimes browse the site “in heat” masturbate using media material or while message/talking to you, then simply change your minds after. It’s weird, nobody exchanges anymore, it’s like “Hey, my name is Stacy, I don’t know u, u don’t know me, let’s fuck, or let me see your dick” wtf? Maybe we’re just traditional
I’m real and don’t play any games. Would like to get together sometime if you’re ever in Atlanta.
Consider yourself lucky. No-show type of guys are scared because they don't have real game. Keep looking. The ones who show are worth the wait. Experienced Player-players who know how to fuck. Keep the doors and windows closed tight, because you WILL be a screamer... and you might not want your neighbors knowing that you're having sex.
I’ve been on both sides of this. Yes it’s very strange just showing up to a couples house and be naked 10 minutes later in bed with them.
My ex and I would usually chat and have drinks with the guys and couples who came over to our place to play. I think meeting in public and just getting drinks or walking around an park or mall is the best for a first meeting!
Mines is Real can we talk
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As I stated earlier I always plan a first meet telling them there are no expectations, meet in a public place andjust see whathappens.
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