Finding respectful, reliable BBC

[Manofsteele]

After all the talk. The messages of men saying they were available and down to fuck. NOT ONE of these men came through. We get ghosted, and ignored. All talk. Normal respectful people consider that to do something like this we need to be able to plan and prepare. They understand that if you say you want to come by and play with us on a certain night that we will get a definite answer so we can plan the evening. Normal people understand that if you say you plan on doing something that she will go through a lot of effort to get dolled up for you. To just ghost people or fail to communicate at all is absolutely disrespectful. We haven't found one man who hasn't done this. VERY frustrating.

 

[Manofsteele]

OMG yes. You would think the chance to have a regular affair with a beautiful woman they would be all about her. But yeah, intial meets, maybe 1 out of 10 actually meets. Then they say how much they like you and you in bed, then you don't hear from them for weeks.

We have found one super reliable third. Three others are really hit and miss.

They will say they want to hook up, then you never hear back to confirm.

Come on guys really?

There is no way you go days without looking at your phone. It's really disrespectful to the lady.

This is our experience exactly... Im starting to think most of the men on here are just pieces of *******!

 

[What150]

This is Def 100% true. We've had many many flakes, ghosts, and plain rude people. Its pretty incredible the amount of non respectful people in the lifestyle. You would think most folks and bulls would be gentleman and polite upfront but we've unfornately had the opposite experince. We mostly try to meet bulls face to face at clubs or swinger events or other face to face meetings these days bc so many flakes liars and ghosts online.

 

[the breeze 81]

Does anyone else have issues finding respectful, reliable BBC to be with? In our experience they say they will show up but don't, they act like they want to hook up then all of the sudden ghost you. Or you find a guy who seems interested only to find out he is an egotistical jerk who is totally disrespectful. How do we actually find real men with BBC that really want to fuck and actually show up?

Just my opinion but ones that seem perfect or super eager are usually a bust. If there’s not a bit of reluctance on their part I’d be weary.

We ran into that a time or two years ago when we were active. I don’t think it’s unique to a cuckold marriage as we have single friends who battle with people being different when they meet them and no showing as well.

No experts here but patience is probably the best ingredient. We were out of the LS for a long time and recently got back in. Wife went on a dating site and had close to a thousand messages prior to giving a couple guys a shot. Two of the three fizzled at varying points in the weeks prior. Ended up getting a good vibe from the one guy and we just had our first hook up with him. As mentioned above he was cautious. Partially because the unknown, and partially because it’s just not that common in the real world to have a couple in the LS.

Our therapist says it’s estimated about 1 in every 5,000 or so married white couples are in some variation of the LS. Thats actually engaging in, not fantasizing which is obviously much more common.

Anyone who acts like this is a societal standard or norm should be weary. Good luck.

 

[NYC]

Does anyone else have issues finding respectful, reliable BBC to be with? In our experience they say they will show up but don't, they act like they want to hook up then all of the sudden ghost you. Or you find a guy who seems interested only to find out he is an egotistical jerk who is totally disrespectful. How do we actually find real men with BBC that really want to fuck and actually show up?

Many people online are primarily fantasy. When you are looking for substance and quality on or offline, get to know the person first. People will usually show you who they are in a short period of time, so better to see it early before scheduling a date. Seek the connection first before the physical, be patient, seek out a good heart/mind, and get to know each other; this will save you a lot of time and weed out most. There are some quality dominants and nice guys out here (me, haha!), who seek substance, quality, and great times; always challenging to find each other offline. But, when it does happen, it is AMAZING!

 

[the breeze 81]

Many people online are primarily fantasy. When you are looking for substance and quality on or offline, get to know the person first. People will usually show you who they are in a short period of time, so better to see it early before scheduling a date. Seek the connection first before the physical, be patient, seek out a good heart/mind, and get to know each other; this will save you a lot of time and weed out most. There are some quality dominants and nice guys out here (me, haha!), who seek substance, quality, and great times; always challenging to find each other offline. But, when it does happen, it is AMAZING!

Well said

 

[Pcrook]

After all the talk. The messages of men saying they were available and down to fuck. NOT ONE of these men came through. We get ghosted, and ignored. All talk. Normal respectful people consider that to do something like this we need to be able to plan and prepare. They understand that if you say you want to come by and play with us on a certain night that we will get a definite answer so we can plan the evening. Normal people understand that if you say you plan on doing something that she will go through a lot of effort to get dolled up for you. To just ghost people or fail to communicate at all is absolutely disrespectful. We haven't found one man who hasn't done this. VERY frustrating.

It is dis respectful and I am sorry that you have had to go theough this and it puts a bad taste in peoples mouth! It really makes it hard for those guys who are truly genuine about meeting and following through!

 

[ChubbyGermany]

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Does anyone else have issues finding respectful, reliable BBC to be with? In our experience they say they will show up but don't, they act like they want to hook up then all of the sudden ghost you. Or you find a guy who seems interested only to find out he is an egotistical jerk who is totally disrespectful. How do we actually find real men with BBC that really want to fuck and actually show up?

respectful and reliable and without "dominant-complex" = 100%

 

[Pcrook]

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respectful and reliable and without "dominant-complex" = 100%

Exactly

 

[ChubbyGermany]

Exactly

Thank you sir!

 

[Pcrook]

Thank you sir!

No problem

 

[ChubbyGermany]

No problem

Great to see that Whites and Blacks are EQUAL...rare find here sometimes I think

 

[curious7793]

After all the talk. The messages of men saying they were available and down to fuck. NOT ONE of these men came through. We get ghosted, and ignored. All talk. Normal respectful people consider that to do something like this we need to be able to plan and prepare. They understand that if you say you want to come by and play with us on a certain night that we will get a definite answer so we can plan the evening. Normal people understand that if you say you plan on doing something that she will go through a lot of effort to get dolled up for you. To just ghost people or fail to communicate at all is absolutely disrespectful. We haven't found one man who hasn't done this. VERY frustrating.

I wish you were in Michigan.

 

[Pcrook]

Great to see that Whites and Blacks are EQUAL...rare find here sometimes I think

Well if you are a jerk it does not matter what color you are!

 

[Pcrook]

This is our experience exactly... Im starting to think most of the men on here are just pieces of *******!

Not all of them are I am a good guy who goes by his word if I promise I will do what I say I will!

 

[ChubbyGermany]

Well if you are a jerk it does not matter what color you are!

GREAT attitude! For example: I am white but my favourite Marvel action hero has always been: Luke Cage alias POWERMAN! WITHOUT ANY racial or "white-submissive" ******* .."just" because I liked / like him

 

[Pcrook]

GREAT atirude! For example: I am white but my favourite Marvel action Hero has always been: Luke Cage alias POWERMAN! WITHOUT ANY racial or "white-submissive" *******

Great

 

[DeeandShelly]

Does anyone else have issues finding respectful, reliable BBC to be with? In our experience they say they will show up but don't, they act like they want to hook up then all of the sudden ghost you. Or you find a guy who seems interested only to find out he is an egotistical jerk who is totally disrespectful. How do we actually find real men with BBC that really want to fuck and actually show up?

Perhaps try in person initial meetings, such as swingers clubs, especially during weekdays when singles are usually allowed. Sit at the bar and have some nice conversations with the single white guys, while looking for black guys.

 

[NYNJcuckcouple]

Does anyone else have issues finding respectful, reliable BBC to be with? In our experience they say they will show up but don't, they act like they want to hook up then all of the sudden ghost you. Or you find a guy who seems interested only to find out he is an egotistical jerk who is totally disrespectful. How do we actually find real men with BBC that really want to fuck and actually show up?

After a Bull answers our ad and we text and exchange photos - by then face pics... We then arrange a public meeting. I prefer public parking lots. Bars and restaurants possibly have people listening to your discussion . In a parking lot or Park you can get out walk and talk and get a feel for who you are meeting . We are heavy on Respect and Someone decent who is genuinely into the Fetish. Many men are NOT Bulls and want just want to get laid . A respectful decent Bull is important to us in order to build trust for us to eventually engage in some heavy humiliation scenes down the road .. The Biggest thing especially at the start is Patience . A Real Bull looking for long term will be patient . Fantasy is IMMEDIATE . Reality is Slow but worth it in the long run .

 

[Tormentor]

It's because 99% of the people on here are fake and all fantasy. I'd bet that at least 50% of the women on here are really men and probably most of the BBC here are little white boys!

I've literally only found one couple who I've met up with. It was all random and by chance. Turned out her boss (or the oldest d@ughter of her boss who was also her coworker) was my long time cock sucking slut and one of the first white girls I had interactions, sex with and tree way throuple and pass around activities with. The wife and I ended up having a love affair and the husband was a extremely nice guy. He even worked on my car. There d@ughter also fell in love with me and I was like her second f@ther. It was a great experience but I agree 99% of these accounts are bogus unfortunately but I'm still looking for my harem of deepthroat gilf pawg to allow me to dominate them by the neck.