Hubby has told me throughout our marriage that he gets turned on by girls that have sex with black men, and wanted me to do it. So it’s in him, it turns him on.
As far as ‘caging will seem like part of the process’ I don’t want to give that impression. It’s not inevitable.
In our case when we started in 2013 hubby was in control, I started really to please him. Over that period I’ve realised I control who I see and what I do, I’ve took more control.
Over last couple of years I’ve thought I’ve done things I’ve been uncomfortable about, but later enjoyed, I’ve posted pics I probably shouldn’t etc. So I wanted to push hubby into an uncomfortable zone, into doing things and posting risky pics.
He loves me going with black guys but the sissy side is a struggle for him, but I’m determined to push him some way down that path.